M. v. M.M. v. M.
Defendant asked for visitation privileges at the first hearing but plaintiff opposed it, relying on
The limiting provisions of the statute relied upon by plaintiff are harsh and unrealistic if they must be applied to the circumstances of this case. This court is, of course, bound by specific legislative directive and may not usurp the function of the Legislature, Adams v. Atlantic County, 137 N.J.L. 648 (E. & A. 1948); Schmoll v. Creecy, 104 N.J. Super. 126, 138 (App. Div. 1969), whether or not the 1913 enactment is relevant today.
The stated policy grantnig the mother of illegitimate children exclusive custody and control seemingly confers upon her the power to consent or withhold consent to “access” for the putative father. This presumably is an advance from, but based upon the ancient common law concept that a
The significant inquiry in any proceeding involving custody and visitation of children must surely be what is in the best interests of the children. Lavigne v. Family and Children‘s Society of Elizabeth, 11 N.J. 473 (1953); Baker v. Baker, 81 N.J. Eq. 135 (Ch. 1913). If we resolve that visitation by the father in this case would be in the children‘s best interests, how does the statutory provision limiting access apply to his demand for visitation privileges?
Plaintiff and defendant lived together for 15 years during which time they held themselves out as man and wife not only to the public but also to their children. The children know defendant as their father. They bear his name. I find that plaintiff‘s continuous holding out of the defendant as her husband and father of her children, and the fact of her living with him as his wife for so many years, constitutes “consent” to his access to the children for the purpose of this statute.
Unquestionably, the welfare and best interests of the children are paramount considerations in any determination concerning custody and visitation problems, Baker v. Baker
It is relevant to note that at the time of the adoption of this statute substantially in its present form, L. 1913, c. 331, §§ 1, 2 (1924 Suppl. §§ 97-29a, 97-29b), supplement to L. 1902, c. 92, this State recognized common law marriages. Sturm v. Sturm, 111 N.J. Eq. 579, 588 (Ch. 1932); Schaffer v. Krestovnikow, 88 N.J. Eq. 192 (Ch. 1917) aff‘d, 89 N.J. Eq. 549 (E. & A. 1918); Bey v. Bey, 83 N.J. Eq. 239 (Ch. 1914). Had these parties lived under these circumstances prior to the enactment of this provision in 1913, they may well have been husband and wife as a matter of law and the children consequently legitimate. Therefore, it is reasonable to conclude that the Legislature did not intend to include this kind of situation within these particular statutory limitations. Furthermore, the statute itself declares its intention “to be declaratory of the existing law on this subject.”
An order will be entered granting reasonable rights of visitation to defendant subject to such further orders of the court for the protection of the best interests of the children as may be appropriate.