201 Cal. App. 4th 1023 | Cal. Ct. App. | 2011
Opinion
S.B., the adoptive mother of G.B. and M.B., appeals from a judgment declaring that her former same-sex partner S.Y.
We shall conclude the trial court did not err in finding that S.Y. is a presumed parent of G.B. and M.B. Substantial evidence supports the trial court’s findings that (1) S.B.’s home served as the family home, and S.Y.
FACTUAL AND PROCEDURAL BACKGROUND
On September 24, 2009, S.Y. filed a petition in the trial court seeking to be declared the second, same-sex parent of nine-year-old G.B. and five-year-old M.B., both of whom were adopted by S.B. at birth. (§§ 7630, subd. (a)(1), 7611(d).) The trial court found there was a factual dispute and set the matter for trial.
A court trial was held on February 25 and 26, 2010. The following evidence was adduced at trial.
S.Y. worked as a senior planner in the Community Development Department for the City of Sacramento and served as a colonel in the United States Air Force Reserves. She was a member of the second class of women to graduate from the Air Force Academy and had been a member of the Air Force for nearly 30 years. S.B. worked as a kindergarten teacher.
In 1998, S.B. was chosen by a birth mother, and S.Y. helped S.B. prepare for the baby’s arrival. Although that adoption ultimately fell through, the next year, S.B. was chosen by another birth mother.
G.B. was bom in November 1999. S.Y. accompanied S.B. to Redding for his birth, obtaining time off from her job with the City of Sacramento to do so. S.Y. told her supervisor, who was aware of her relationship with S.B., that she would be accompanying S.B. to Redding for the birth of a child she would coparent. S.Y. was in the hospital waiting room during G.B.’s birth, and after he was bom, S.B. brought him out to show her. S.Y. stayed in Redding until S.B. and G.B. were ready to come home. When G.B. was released from the hospital, S.B., S.Y., and G.B. returned to Sacramento together. S.Y. stayed with S.B. and G.B. most nights and every weekend, assisting in G.B.’s care as much as S.B. would allow. She changed his diapers, helped bathe him, played with him, and prepared formula for S.B. to provide using a device designed to simulate breastfeeding. She paid for the updated home study for G.B.’s adoption and purchased necessities, including formula, diapers, and baby food. In 2000, shortly after G.B. was bom, S.Y., S.B., and G.B. travelled to Hawaii, and later went to Texas to visit S.Y.’s parents.
In 2003, S.Y. sought to be named G.B.’s guardian in the event something happened to S.B. She and S.B. contacted an attorney to make that happen, but S.B. cancelled the appointment.
In June 2003, the parties broke up. The breakup lasted two and one-half years. During that time, S.Y. remained active in G.B.’s life, except when S.B.
While S.Y. and S.B. were broken up, S.B. decided to adopt another child. Because they were not together, S.Y. did not then have an expectation of coparenting a second child with S.B. and told S.B. so in an e-mail.
In mid-2004, S.B. was selected by a birth mother who lived in Minnesota. M.B. was bom in July 2004. S.Y. did not accompany S.B. to Minnesota for M.B.’s birth, but when the adoption process was delayed, she flew to Minnesota at S.B.’s request to assist with G.B. M.B.’s middle name is a combination of S.Y.’s middle name and the birth mother’s name.
Following M.B.’s birth, S.Y. continued to go to S.B.’s home most evenings and every weekend to spend time with the children and to assist with their care, except when S.B. interfered with her efforts.
In November 2005, the parties reconciled, and S.Y. resumed spending most nights at SJB.’s and stopping by on other nights to spend time with the children. Had it not been for the children, it is doubtful S.Y. would have resumed her relationship with S.B.
When each child reached the age of about one year old, S.Y. set up college savings accounts, in which she continued to make monthly contributions. She named the children as beneficiaries on “everything [she had],” including her life insurance policy and mutual funds. She displayed photographs of the children and S.B. in her cubicle at work for everyone to see. She brought S.B. and the children to family events organized through her work, such as company picnics and “Pops in the Park.” Although S.Y. referred to herself as the
In 2006, S.Y.’s parents, to celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary, took their entire family, including S.Y., S.B., and the children, on a cruise. S.Y.’s mother watched S.Y. interact with the children and described her as “just another parent.” S.Y. got the children ready and attended to their needs. S.Y.’s mother testified that during one visit to Texas, G.B. was ill and S.Y. cleaned up his vomit, demonstrating the teamwork the parties showed as parents.
S.Y.’s parents considered G.B. and M.B. as their grandchildren by S.Y. They contributed $3,000 each to G.B.’s and M.B.’s college accounts, as they had done for their other grandchildren. They celebrated Christmas with S.Y., S.B., and the children at S.B.’s home, as well as at S.B.’s mother’s home. On a visit to Sacramento, S.Y.’s mother accompanied S.Y. to G.B.’s daycare.
In 2007 and 2008, S.Y., S.B., and the children travelled to Texas to visit S.Y.’s family and went on a number of family vacations.
In November 2007, S.Y. and S.B. purchased a home together, which had yet to be built. Both of their names appeared on the contract. They decided to sell S.Y.’s home because she had more equity. S.Y.’s home was sold while she was deployed to Kuwait. When S.Y. returned in May 2008, she moved in with S.B. When the builder failed to begin construction on the new home, they terminated the contract. S.Y. continued to live with S.B. for eight months until she moved into a nearby apartment.
Between 1998 and 2009, S.Y. spent in excess of $90,000 on family-related expenses, including baby supplies, groceries, school lunches, an updated home study for G.B.’s adoption, karate and gymnastics lessons for G.B. and M.B., a backyard play structure, meals, family vacations, family pets, couples counseling, therapy for G.B., and home security services.
In July 2009, S.Y. ended her relationship with S.B. In August 2009, S.B. advised S.Y. that she would not allow her to have any contact with the children. S.Y. contacted a lawyer the next business day and filed the underlying petition on September 24, 2009.
In January 2010, G.B. twice called S.Y. from a friend’s cellular telephone. In a voicemail message he stated that he loved her, missed her, and wished he could see her again. S.B. testified that G.B. knew three cell phone numbers: S.B.’s, S.Y.’s, and S.B.’s sister’s numbers.
Having considered the evidence in its totality, the trial court found S.Y. showed by a preponderance of the evidence that she received the children into her home and held them out as her own. In particular, the court found that while the parties maintained separate residences, they shared “a blended home,” noting that S.Y. was at S.B.’s home three to four nights a week, sleeping in S.B.’s bed, and taking care of the children. The court also found that S.Y. “not only accepted the rights and obligations of being a parent, she embraced them . . . [and] demonstrated a full commitment to these children.” The court concluded that S.B. failed to rebut the presumption of parentage and “did not make any effort to do so.” The court noted, among other things, that “[allowing the presumption to be rebutted in this case would leave the children with only one parent and this result would be contrary to the public policy favoring a child having two parents to provide emotional and financial support.” Finally, the court declined to include S.B.’s constitutional claims in its statement of decision because they were not “ ‘principal controverted issues at trial.’ ”
Whether the trial court erred in determining that S.Y. is a parent of G.B. and M.B. is governed by the Uniform Parentage Act (UPA) (§ 7600 et seq.) The UPA defines the “ ‘[p]arent and child relationship’ ” as “the legal relationship existing between a child and the child’s natural or adoptive parents . . . .” (§ 7601.) Under the UPA, a woman is presumed to be the natural mother of a child if she “receives the child into h[er] home and openly holds out the child as h[er] natural child.” (§ 7611(d).)
We review the trial court’s factual findings, including its findings that S.Y. received the children into her home and openly held them out as her natural children, under the substantial evidence standard. (Charisma R., supra, 175 Cal.App.4th at p. 368; In re A.A. (2003) 114 Cal.App.4th 771, 782 [7 Cal.Rptr.3d 755].) “ ‘Under that standard, we must consider all of the evidence in the light most favorable to the prevailing party, giving it the benefit of every reasonable inference, and resolving conflicts in support of the judgment. [Citations.] [][] It is not our task to weigh conflicts and disputes in the evidence; that is the province of the trier of fact. Our authority begins and ends with a determination as to whether, on the entire record, there is any substantial evidence, contradicted or uncontradicted, in support of the judgment.’ ” (Charisma R., supra, 175 Cal.App.4th at p. 369.) To the extent we are called upon to review the trial court’s legal interpretation of the “receiving” and “holding out” requirements set forth in section 7611(d), we shall exercise our independent legal judgment. (See Ghirardo v. Antonioli (1994) 8 Cal.4th 791, 796 [35 Cal.Rptr.2d 418, 883 P.2d 960].) We review the trial court’s determination that there is no basis to rebut the parentage presumption for abuse of discretion. (Charisma R., supra, 175 Cal.App.4th at p. 378.)
The Trial Court Did Not Err in Finding That S.Y. Received the Children into Her Home
S.B. contends “[S.Y.] failed to satisfy the receiving requirement because she never brought the children into her own house.” S.B.’s argument is premised on the fact that the children did not live with or regularly visit S.Y. at her separate residence. As we shall explain, there is ample evidence to support the trial court’s finding that S.B.’s home served as the family home, and that S.Y. received the children into their joint home.
Prior to G.B.’s birth, S.Y. spent virtually every night at S.B.’s. The parties were together when S.B. attempted to conceive through artificial insemination, and S.Y. was present for the ups and downs of that process. When that process proved unsuccessful, S.B. asked S.Y. to help pay for her to have in vitro fertilization, which S.Y. initially refused to do. Later, S.Y. agreed to help pay for the procedure, but by then, S.B. had decided to adopt a child, with S.Y.’s encouragement and support. S.Y. accompanied S.B. to Redding for G.B.’s birth, and after they returned to Sacramento, she continued to spend three to four nights a week at S.B.’s home, sleeping in S.B.’s bed and helping to care for G.B. On the nights she did not sleep there, she stopped by after work to see G.B. and assist in his care. Since that time, S.Y. has remained active in G.B.’s life, except for those periods when S.B. prohibited her from seeing him.
While S.B. and S.Y. were not together when M.B. was bom, S.Y. continued to go to S.B.’s on weeknights and on weekends to spend time with and care for G.B., which inevitably included helping to care for M.B. When the parties reconciled in 2005, S.Y. resumed sleeping at S.B.’s at least three to four nights a week and was there after work on the nights she did not spend the night, assisting in the children’s care. Since that time, S.Y. has remained active in M.B.’s life, except for those periods when S.B. prevented her from seeing the children.
That S.Y. also maintained a separate residence does not undermine the court’s finding that she received the children into her home. In In re A.A., supra, 114 Cal.App.4th at page 784, the court adopted an expansive interpretation of the “receives” requirement, holding that the trial court erred in refusing to find a man a presumed father under section 7611(d) even though the child never actually lived with him. The court reasoned that “when a mother and father of a child are not inclined to live with each other, their child often lives with only one of the parents and visits the other. . . . Although the minor was not received into RJB.’s home to live with him on a
The same is true here. While S.Y. did not live with S.B. and the children on a full-time basis, she slept at S.B.’s more than half the time, and was there most other nights and on weekends. She cared for both children from the very beginning, with S.B.’s blessing, and provided for them financially.
S.B. argues the trial court erred in relying on the fact that S.Y. spent most nights at S.B.’s because S.Y. would have stayed there “regardless of her parentage claim.” In In re Spencer W. (1996) 48 Cal.App.4th 1647 [56 Cal.Rptr.2d 524], the court found substantial evidence supported the trial court’s rejection of a man’s claim to presumed father status where “[t]he evidence permitted the conclusion that . . . mother permitted [the man] to reside in her home, and that [the man’s] residence with [the child] was not demonstrative of [the man’s] commitment to the child but reflected that [he] acted out of personal convenience and self-interest.” (Id. at p. 1653, italics omitted.) Such evidence included the following: “(1) mother paid for the apartment (and apparently most other expenses); (2) she supported [the man, who was] unemployed . . . ; and (3) when mother’s funding ceased [the man] stopped residing with [the child].” (Ibid.)
In contrast, here, S.Y. was not financially dependent upon S.B. She maintained a separate residence but chose to stay at S.B.’s, at least in part, to be with and help care for the children. Indeed, after S.Y. broke up with S.B. in 2003, she continued to go to S.B.’s house after work and on weekends to spend time with and help care for G.B. As the trial court found, “This is not a case where a person cared for the children of someone she was dating just because she happened to be dating the other. It’s actually quite the reverse. The relationship between the parties lasted longer than it otherwise would have for the sake of the children and because [S.Y.] was devoted to the children. This is not a case where [S.Y.] just cared for the kids because it was convenient or because of self-interest. [S.Y.] made personal, professional and financial sacrifices to care for the children. A person occasionally spending the night on the couch would not do all of the things [S.Y.] did—would not clean up the children’s vomit, set up college accounts, pay for their therapy, volunteer at the school, name the children as beneficiaries, and act in the myriad [of] other ways [S.Y.] did, as a parent.”
We likewise reject S.B.’s assertion that the trial court’s finding created “an exception to the receiving requirement under what it called a ‘blended home’
II
The Trial Court Did Not Err in Finding That S.Y. Openly Held G.B. and M.B. Out as Her Natural Children
S.B. contends there is insufficient evidence to support the trial court’s finding that S.Y. openly held G.B. and M.B. out as her natural children.
The parties were in a committed relationship during the time S.B. sought to conceive and then adopt. S.Y. told S.B. that she would support her and coparent a child should S.B. be fortunate enough to have one. S.Y. paid for the updated home study for G.B.’s adoption. She took time off from her job to be present for G.B.’s birth and told her supervisor the reason for her absence. She accompanied S.B. to Redding for G.B.’s birth and waited at the hospital until he was bom. She flew to Minnesota following M.B.’s birth to help care for G.B. When S.B. returned to Sacramento following M.B.’s birth, S.Y. helped care for both children. She allowed S.B. to use her middle name as part of M.B.’s middle name. She displayed pictures of S.B. and the children in her cubicle at work for everyone to see. She brought S.B. and the children to work-related functions typically attended by family. She regularly worked at G.B.’s school, attended back-to-school nights, and other school
While S.B. may not have intended that S.Y. obtain any legal rights to the children, the record is replete with evidence that she not only allowed, but encouraged, S.Y. to coparent both children from the beginning. Among other things, she did not object when S.Y. told her she would coparent a child with her should she be fortunate enough to have one; she asked S.Y. to share in the cost of in vitro fertilization, which S.Y. eventually agreed to do; she asked S.Y. to accompany her to Redding for G.B.’s birth; she shared her home with S.Y.; she allowed S.Y. to care for the children since birth; she took the children on numerous vacations with S.Y.; she took the children to visit S.Y.’s parents in Texas; she took the children on a cruise with S.Y. and S.Y.’s extended family to celebrate S.Y.’s parents’ anniversary; she took the children to various activities organized by S.Y.’s work; she arranged for S.Y. to regularly work in G.B.’s classroom; she allowed S.Y. to provide for the children financially; and she did not object when S.Y. set up college savings accounts for the children.
In sum, the trial court did not err in finding that S.Y. met her burden of establishing she received the children into her home and held them out as her natural children.
Ill
The Trial Court Did Not Abuse Its Discretion in Determining There Is No Basis to Rebut the Parentage Presumption
S.B. contends “[t]he trial court abused its discretion in finding that [she] had not rebutted any presumption of parenthood which may have arisen under [section] 7611(d).” We disagree.
Section 7612, subdivision (a) provides that “a presumption under Section 7611 is a rebuttable presumption affecting the burden of proof and may be rebutted in an appropriate action only by clear and convincing evidence.” Thus, S.B. bore the burden below of rebutting the presumption that S.Y. was G.B. and M.B.’s parent with clear and convincing evidence. (Charisma R., supra, 175 Cal.App.4th at p. 378.) We review the trial court’s determination that S.B. failed to meet her burden for abuse of discretion. (Elisa B., supra, 31 Cal.4th at p. 122.)
In Elisa B., the court held that it would be an abuse of discretion to conclude that the presumption may be rebutted “with proof that [Elisa] is not the children’s biological mother because [(!)] she actively participated in causing the children to be conceived with the understanding that she would raise the children as her own together with the birth mother, [(2)] she voluntarily accepted the rights and obligations of parenthood after the children were bom, and [(3)] there are no competing claims to her being the children’s second parent.” (Elisa B., supra, 37 Cal.4th at p. 125.) The court further concluded that “[d]eclaring that Elisa cannot be the twins’ parent and,
Similarly, here, S.Y. encouraged S.B. to adopt a child with the understanding she would coparent the child; S.Y. voluntarily accepted the rights and obligations of parenthood since the children were bom; there are no competing claims to her being the children’s second parent; and public policy favors children having two parents. (See Elisa B., supra, 37 Cal.4th at pp. 120, 122.) The trial court acted well within its discretion in concluding S.B. failed to rebut the parentage presumption.
IV
Recognizing S.Y. as a Parent Did Not Infringe upon S.B.’s Fundamental Right to Rear Her Children
Citing Troxel v. Granville (2000) 530 U.S. 57 [147 L.Ed.2d 49, 120 S.Ct. 2054], S.B. claims that the trial court’s order declaring that S.Y. is a parent of G.B. and M.B. violated her right, under the due process clause of the Fourteenth Amendment of the United States Constitution, to make decisions concerning the care, custody, and control of her children. She is mistaken.
In Troxel, the court held that a Washington statute that allowed “ ‘any person [to] petition the court for visitation rights at any time’ ” and authorized the court “to grant such visitation rights whenever ‘visitation may serve the best interest of the child,’ ” as applied in that case, infringed upon the mother’s fundamental right to make decisions concerning the care, custody, and control of her children. (Troxel v. Granville, supra, 530 U.S. at pp. 67, 60 [147 L.Ed.2d at pp. 57, 53], italics omitted.) Under the statute, the mother was required to permit her children’s paternal grandparents to visit the children on a schedule imposed by the trial court. (530 U.S. at pp. 71-72 [147 L.Ed.2d at pp. 60-61].)
Troxel is inapposite where, as here, the issue is not a nonparental visitation statute, but “a statute determining the identity of [G.B. and M.B.’s] parents. Unlike the order in Troxel, the order declaring [S.Y.] a parent of [G.B. and M.B.] by definition did not extend rights to a nonparent.” (Charisma R., supra, 175 Cal.App.4th at p. 387.)
S.B. attempts to distinguish Charisma R. on factual grounds, arguing that in that case the court relied on the fact that “neither Charisma’s nor Kristina’s
Contrary to S.B.’s assertion, Charisma R. does not hold that parental rights must arise simultaneously to receive equal constitutional protection. In K.M. v. E.G. (2005) 37 Cal.4th 130 [33 Cal.Rptr.3d 61, 117 P.3d 673], upon which Charisma R. relies (Charisma R., supra, 175 Cal.App.4th at p. 387), an egg donor (K.M.) sought to establish a parental relationship with twin girls bom to her former lesbian partner. (37 Cal.4th at p. 134.) In response to Justice Werdegar’s dissent, which cited Troxel for the proposition that “ ‘We cannot recognize K.M. as a parent without diminishing E.G.’s existing parental rights[,]’ ([d]is. opn. of Werdegar, J., post, at p. 153 [italics added]),” the majority stated: “Troxel has no application here. Neither K.M.’s nor E.G.’s claim to parentage preceded the other’s. K.M.’s claim to be the twins’ mother because the twins were produced from her ova is equal to, and arose at the same time as, E.G.’s claim to be the twins’ mother because she gave birth to them.” (Id. at p. 144.) The fact that K.M.’s and E. G.’s parentage claims arose simultaneously was relevant to Justice Werdegar’s assertion that recognizing K.M. as a parent would diminish E.G.’s existing parental rights. If the women’s rights arose at the same time, recognizing K.M. as a parent necessarily could not diminish E.G.’s existing parental rights. The court’s comments cannot be read to mean that Troxel would apply if K.M.’s claim to be the twins’ mother arose after E.G.’s because, as noted above, Troxel did not involve parentage, but rather, visitation by nonparents.
In Charisma R., a biological mother, relying on Troxel, argued that “the trial court’s mling, declaring [her former lesbian partner] Charisma a presumed parent ‘over [the biological mother’s] objections . . .’ violated . . . her fundamental parental right to rear [her child].” (Charisma R., supra, 175 Cal.App.4th at p. 386.) In holding that Troxel was inapposite, the court noted that “[u]nlike the order in Troxel, the order declaring Charisma a parent of Amalia by definition did not extend rights to a nonparent.” (Id. at p. 387.) The court continued, “Moreover, as in K.M. v. E.G. ... , neither Charisma’s nor [the biological mother’s] ‘claim to parentage preceded the other’s.’ In that case, the California Supreme Court rejected an analogy to Troxel, reasoning ‘KM.’s claim to be the twins’ mother because the twins were produced from
In any case, S.B.’s argument that parentage must arise simultaneously is dependent upon an analysis of contested facts, which must be construed in S.Y.’s favor. The trial court found that S.Y. accompanied S.B. to Redding for G.B.’s birth and was involved in his life from that day forward. The court further found that although S.B. was not present when M.B. was bom, “after M.B. came home, [S.Y.] again stepped up and supported the child thereafter and co-parented the child with [S.B.]” Substantial evidence supports the court’s findings.
Finally, we reject S.B.’s claim that “a woman’s right to assert visitation rights—much less parental rights—to her former partner’s children, is not widely protected by society even today.” As S.Y. points out in her respondent’s brief, numerous states have recognized the parental rights of same-sex coparents who do not have a biological or adoptive relationship with a child. (See, e.g., Thomas v. Thomas (2002) 203 Ariz. 34 [49 P.3d 306, 309]; In re E.L.M.C. (Colo.Ct.App. 2004) 100 P.3d 546, 555-556; Laspina-Williams v. Laspina-Williams (1999) 46 Conn.Supp. 165 [742 A.2d 840, 844]; In re Parentage of A.B. (Ind. 2005) 837 N.E.2d 965, 967; C.E.W. v. D.E.W. (2004) 2004 ME 43 [845 A.2d 1146, 1149]; E.N.O. v. L.M.M. (1999) 429 Mass. 824 [711 N.E.2d 886, 888]; SooHoo v. Johnson (Minn. 2007) 731 N.W.2d 815, 824; Kulstad v. Maniaci (2009) 352 Mont. 513 [220 P.3d 595, 607, 610]; Russell v. Bridgens (2002) 264 Neb. 217 [647 N.W.2d 56, 65-66] (conc. opn. of Gerrard, J.); Mason v. Dwinnell (2008) 190 N.C.App. 209 [660 S.E.2d 58, 67-69]; V.C. v. M.J.B. (2000) 163 N.J. 200 [748 A.2d 539, 551-552]; In re Bonfield (2002) 97 Ohio St.3d 387 [780 N.E.2d 241, 247]; Shineovich v. Kemp (2009) 229 Ore.App. 670 [214 P.3d 29, 40]; T.B. v. L.R.M. (2001) 567 Pa. 222 [786 A.2d 913, 914]; Rubano v. DiCenzo (R.I. 2000) 759 A.2d 959, 974-975; Middleton v. Johnson (Ct.App. 2006) 369 S.C. 585 [633 S.E.2d 162, 167-168]; In re Parentage of L.B. (2005) 155 Wn.2d 679 [122 P.3d 161, 173-176]; In re Clifford K. (2005) 217 W.Va. 625 [619 S.E.2d 138, 157-159]; In re Custody of H.S.H.-K. (1995) 193 Wis.2d 649 [533 N.W.2d 419, 435-436].)
The judgment is affirmed. S.Y. shall recover her costs on appeal. (Cal. Rules of Court, rule 8.278(a)(1).)
Nicholson, J., and Hoch, 1, concurred.
A petition for a rehearing was denied January 5, 2012, and appellant’s petition for review by the Supreme Court was denied February 29, 2012, S199507.
In order to protect the confidentiality of the minors, we shall refer to the parties and the minors by their initials.
Further undesignated statutory references are to the Family Code.
We previously denied S.Y.’s motion to dismiss the appeal on the ground the judgment was nonappealable and granted S.B.’s requests for calendar preference, to expedite the appeal, and to keep the record confidential.
In light of S.B.’s contentions on appeal, we set forth the evidence adduced at trial in the light most favorable to the judgment, resolving all conflicts and drawing all inferences in favor of that verdict, and deferring to all implicit credibility determinations of the trier of fact. (Charisma R. v. Kristina S. (2009) 175 Cal.App.4th 361, 368-369 [96 Cal.Rptr.3d 26] (Charisma R.).) In addition to testifying in person, at trial S.Y. presented the court with a timeline detailing her involvement with the children during each year of their lives, and the parties stipulated that S.Y. would testify to everything in the timeline as submitted.
From October 2003 until Thanksgiving 2003, and from January 2004 through mid-March 2004, S.B. refused to allow S.Y. to see or talk to G.B. S.Y. sent cards several times a week and left messages during the times S.B. precluded her from seeing G.B.
In February 2005, S.B. refused to allow S.Y. to see or talk to the children. That lasted for approximately three and one-half months, when the parties returned to couples counseling.
S.Y. submitted a spreadsheet detailing a total of $91,895.71 that she had contributed to S.B. and the children during the years 1998 to 2009. The items included in the spreadsheet were limited to those for which she had documentation. Two and one-half years were missing from the spreadsheet because she did not have any documentation for those expenditures.
At all times relevant herein, that policy stated in pertinent part that “[a] member of the armed forces shall be separated from the armed forces under regulations prescribed by the Secretary of Defense if one or more of the following findings is made . . . [f] (1) That the member has engaged in, attempted to engage in, or solicited another to engage in a homosexual act. [][] (2) That the member has stated that he or she is a homosexual or bisexual, or words to that effect, ...[]□ (3) That the member has married or attempted to marry a person known to be of the same biological sex.” (10 U.S.C. § 654(b).) The “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” statute, 10 United States Code section 654, was repealed September 20, 2011. (See Log Cabin Republicans v. United States (9th Cir. 2011) 658 F.3d 1162, 1165.)
Although section 7611 speaks in term of fathers, the UPA expressly provides that the provisions applicable to determining a father-child relationship shall be used to determine a mother and child relationship “[i]nsofar as practicable . . . .” (§ 7650; see also Elisa B. v. Superior Court (2005) 37 Cal.4th 108, 119-120 [33 Cal.Rptr.3d 46, 117 P.3d 660] (Elisa B.) [“ ‘Though most of the decisional law has focused on the definition of the presumed father, the legal principles concerning the presumed father apply equally to a woman seeking presumed mother status.’ ”].)
In support of her contention, S.B. cites In re T.R. (2005) 132 Cal.App.4th 1202, 1211 [34 Cal.Rptr.3d 215], where the court noted: “In determining whether a man has ‘receivefed a] child into his home and openly h[eld] out the child’ as his own [citation], courts have looked to such factors as whether the man actively helped the mother in prenatal care; whether he paid pregnancy and birth expenses commensurate with his ability to do so; whether he promptly took legal action to obtain custody of the child; whether he sought to have his name placed on the birth certificate; whether and how long he cared for the child; whether there is unequivocal evidence that he had acknowledged the child; the number of people to whom he had acknowledged the child; whether he provided for the child after it no longer resided with him; whether, if the child needed public benefits, he had pursued completion of the requisite paperwork; and whether his care was merely incidental. [Citations.]” However, “In re T.R. does not require an alleged parent to show each and every one of these factors exists. Instead, it lists the types of factors trial courts may consider.” (Charisma R., supra, 175 Cal.App.4th at p. 376, italics added.) As we shall explain, here, the trial court considered the appropriate factors in determining S.Y. is a presumed parent and there was ample evidence of a parental relationship between S.Y. and the children to support the trial court’s determination.
Contrary to S.B.’s assertion, S.Y.’s parentage claim is not barred by the statutes of limitations applicable to actions seeking to challenge an adoption order. S.Y.’s parentage claim is based on section 7611(d). She does not seek to “vacate, set aside, or otherwise nullify” the adoption order related to G.B. or M.B. (§ 9102, subd. (a).) Accordingly, neither the one- nor the three-year statute of limitations applicable to such actions (§ 9102) applies. S.B. asserts, for the first time in her reply brief, that granting S.Y. presumed parent status circumvents adoption laws. She makes no attempt to explain why the point was not raised earlier. Seeing no reason for the failure, we decline to address the point here. (See Vanderpol v. Starr (2011) 194 Cal.App.4th 385, 389, fn. 2 [123 Cal.Rptr.3d 506].)
Contrary to S.B.’s assertion, the trial court did not “waive” the requirement that S.Y. openly hold out the children as her natural children “because of her second job in the military.” As already discussed, the trial court properly concluded that S.Y. satisfied that requirement. With respect to S.Y.’s military service, the court found there were credible explanations “about