663 N.E.2d 955 | Ohio Ct. App. | 1995
Appellant, Kimberly Rowe ("mother"), appeals the trial court's decision designating appellee, Donald J. Franklin ("father"), the residential parent and legal guardian of their then five-year-old son. In her single assignment of error she challenges the trial court's allocation of all parental rights and responsibilities to the father. Because the trial court's findings demonstrate that it improperly focused on a "reproval of the mother" standard in determining the best interests of the child, we find that the assignment of error is well taken.
On September 10, 1993, the mother filed a motion to modify the court's order to allow her to remove the child to Versailles, Kentucky, and to establish his residence there. She had applied to take classes through the University of Kentucky Law School in July and had become pregnant sometime in May by a man whom she had begun seeing in March, and who was married but separated from his wife. In August she enrolled her son in a private school for the times she would attend law school classes. In response to her motion, the father filed an emergency motion for contempt and for return of the child to Ohio. The trial court denied her motion, held the father's contempt motion in abeyance, and allowed the child to remain with the mother until the completion of a previously ordered custody investigation.
Dr. Cynthia Dember completed a psychological evaluation on May 1, 1992. Parenting specialist Jayne Zuberbuhler completed a predecree parenting report on February 18, 1993. On March 5, 1993, the father moved to update Dr. Dember's evaluation, asserting that the mother's move to Kentucky constituted an extreme change of circumstances. The motion was granted. In the spring of 1993, the mother requested that Dr. Stuart A. Cooke evaluate the reports by Dr. Dember and Ms. Zuberbuhler and provide the trial court with his professional opinion. Dr. Dember and Ms. Zuberbuhler, while finding both parents adequate, ultimately recommended custody of the child be given to the father. Dr. Cooke recommended, however, that the mother be designated the residential parent.
Following a hearing eighteen months after the parties separated, the trial court removed custody from the mother and allocated full parental rights of the five-year-old child to the father. The mother appealed this decision, arguing that her move to Kentucky was an inappropriate basis for denial of custody and that the trial court further failed to consider that she was the child's primary caretaker.
Concern for a child's well-being or best interests does not, however, provide the court carte blanche to judge the rights and lifestyles of parents by nonstatutory codes of moral or social values. Although a court is not obligated to wear blinders as to a parent's lifestyle and/or morals, including sexual conduct, any state interest in competing lifestyles and accompanying moral values which affect child custody would most equitably be served if limited to a determination of the direct or probable effect of parental conduct on the physical, mental, emotional, and social development of the child, see Whaley v. Whaley (1978),
(1) "Conclusive disqualification": A parent's adultery is an absolute bar to custody as a matter of law.
(2) "Presumptive unfitness": The parent's nonmarital sexual conduct is viewed as probably incompatible with the best interest of the child. To overcome the unsuitability presumption, the parent has a heavy burden to rebut the presumption of disqualification.
(3) "Direct adverse impact": The parent's nonmarital sexual conduct is irrelevant to custody unless it has a direct adverse impact on the child. It includes "clear direct impact," present and immediate impact, and "speculative direct impact," the risk of psychological, moral, or other impact.
(4) "Presumptive direct adverse impact": Although the court uses "impact" terminology, it explicitly or implicitly finds that the parent's nonmarital sexual conduct has an adverse impact on the child. Id. at 654-672. *180
The catalogue of cases cited by Professor Lauerman illustrates that, with the exception of the "direct adverse impact" test, the other tests have traditionally been more rigidly applied by courts where the mother is seeking custody of the child and tend to impose punishment on the mother for her nonmarital sexual activity. We find that the reasons for rejecting each in favor of the "direct adverse impact" test are persuasively stated in Whaley v. Whaley, supra,
While we recognize that the current situation is not a post-decree modification because there was no formal custody order to be modified, in a situation like this where the mother had actual physical custody of the child for an eighteen-month period, we find it difficult not to view the trial court's decision as a modification of the status quo and to analogize this situation to a custody modification. A modification of a prior custody order under R.C.
An initial custody award is governed by R.C.
From our review of the record, the trial court's findings of fact and conclusions of law reflect that it abused its discretion not for those specific reasons set forth in the mother's brief, but because we are convinced that the trial court did not consider in its analysis of the child's best interests whether the mother's conduct had a direct adverse impact on the child when it transferred custody and designated the father as custodial parent. We find significant the trial court's apparent judgmental attitude toward the mother's life choices.
By contrast, the trial court concluded that the mother and the child did not have substantial roots in the Kentucky community, stating it had not been provided with much information regarding that community. The record, however, belies this contention. Uncontested information was available that the mother had been working in Kentucky for several years, that she had many friends there that she had met at work, that her son was friendly with and associated with her friends' children, that her son had adapted to the school he attended and had friends there, that the child had friends in the neighborhood with whom he played, and that he attended soccer and karate classes in Kentucky.
The trial court then "thoroughly examine[d]" the child's adjustment to his new home. In its decision the trial court described the child's home as consisting of "a mother who is attending law school, working part-time for the Kentucky National Guard, mothering an approximate six (6) month old child, dating a man (the father of her new child) who apparently spends a lot of his time at her house but lives elsewhere and is substantially financially dependent on this man. This Kentucky home has required tremendous adjustment on the part of the child and the evidence indicates that more adjustment must be made in the future."
The record does not support the trial court's finding that the home, the mother's work or her school schedule has required "tremendous" adjustment by *183 the child, nor does it indicate what will necessitate future adjustment.5 The trial court even observed that the child would need to make some adjustment no matter who the residential parent would be, but that the child was able to adjust to whatever obstacles were placed in his path.
The trial court failed to recognize that the moves were precipitated by the father refusing, upon advice of counsel, to move from the marital residence, thus forcing the mother to leave the marital residence with the child, if she desired to terminate the marriage, and to live with the child in a variety of makeshift homes for a short transitional period. It entirely discounted how the father's decision subjected the child to changes in the environment.
The trial court also found that the move "has harmed to an extent the special relationship the child has had with his father since birth." While the record demonstrates that the child experiences some discomfort with the transition period concerning visits with the father and returning to the mother's residence, the record does not support the trial court's conclusion. In fact, the father's videotape of his son and him emphasizes the continuing closeness of that relationship. Furthermore, regardless of which parent received custody, the same basic problems of geographical distance, if any, would realistically occur for either party.
Although the court can consider nonresidency in determining the best interests of the child, R.C.
"In summation, this Court questions the priorities of Ms. Rowe. The number of poor choices made by Ms. Rowe as to the bestinterests of [the child] coupled with her personal agenda indicates to this court that she may not be as committed to [the child's] best interests as she should be."6 (Emphasis added.) *185
The transcript of the mother's law school classes contained in the record indicates that she did not start law school until the fall of 1990 when the child was over two years old. It was at that time that the child received day-care supervision. She had returned to school earlier to continue the coursework necessary to obtain her undergraduate degree the spring semester of 1988 and began taking graduate courses primarily in the evening the following fall. The child was attended to by the parents, family or friends during this period of time. The record shows that the mother did not return to flying until the child was approximately eight months old, although she did participate in a monthly two-day weekend drill prior to that time. She testified that during the child's first year she flew approximately fourteen to sixteen days.
Although pursuing his career and designated as the primary financial support for the family, the father was deemed by the trial court to be dedicated to the well-being of his child and to have a "willingness to be a good and proper parent." (Emphasis added.)
The trial court also considered the mother's relationship with her male companion and concluded that he appeared to be a "good, dedicated individual." It assumed, however, that his working three jobs, settling down from the breakup of his previous marriage and taking care of two children "has to provide a great amount of stress to anyone" and that if the stress proved too much it would be to the detriment of the child. The trial court expressed concern that he became involved with the mother so shortly after his separation from his wife. It stated that it was in the best interests of the child that the mother's companion should have allowed some time "to settle down or regroup." The trial court indicated its concern that the mother's companion had not experienced the "culture shock" of daily life with two small children.
As to stability, the trial court concluded, "With Ms. Rowe, stability has been hard to come by. Since December of 1991 as Ms. Rowe has experienced personal problems, the child has had little stability. The current situation, though on its face appearing to be stable, is based on many factors that are questionable. The many `what ifs' regarding Ms. Rowe's, Mr. Adams, and [the child's] future cause great concern to this court."
The trial court did not like that the mother became sexually involved with a man so soon after the breakup of both of their marriages and expressed concern whether her companion could handle the stress of so many changes in his life. There is a total absence of evidence in the record to suggest that the mother's relationship had any unfavorable effect on the child, or to support the trial *186 judge's concerns. Although the trial court expressed concerns about future potential problems, even describing the concerns as "what ifs," the record fails to demonstrate that the mother's relationship and resulting pregnancy and birth of her second child have had or probably will have a harmful effect on the child.
We recognize that custody decisions today are becoming more challenging for trial courts as the gatekeepers where the number of women employed outside the home is increasing, the father's role within the family is changing, and family structures are becoming more diverse. In spite of these ongoing changes, the trial judge must still determine what is in the best interests of a child whose parents no longer wish to continue their marriage. While acknowledging the difficulty confronting the trial court, we conclude that it abused its discretion in designating the father as the residential parent of the child. The trial court's very findings of fact and conclusions of law manifestly placed a disproportionate emphasis on the mother and her "priorities" and not enough on the best interests of the child.7
Judgment reversed and cause remanded.
DOAN and MARIANNA BROWN BETTMAN, JJ., concur.