[¶ 1.] Following service of a summons and complaint with no response, plaintiff obtained a default judgment without notice to defendants. Yet before suit, plaintiff and defendants’ insurer engaged in settlement negotiations. Was this a sufficient “appearance” to require notice before taking a default judgment? We conclude these negotiations constituted an appearance, and defendants’ failure to respond resulted from excusable neglect. We therefore reverse the circuit court’s refusal to set aside the default judgment.
Facts
[¶ 2.] On November 12, 1993, Eric Roso and his passenger were injured while driving near Kranzburg when they were struck from behind by a Yeblen Cheese Factory truck driven by Daniel Henning. Both Roso and the passenger hired the same attorney to prosecute their claims for damages. The passenger’s case proceeded to court first, where he eventually won a jury award of $80,000. The attorney then conferred with defendants’ insurer, CNA, to settle Roso’s claim. These negotiations proved unsuccessful, and on June 27, 1996, counsel sent a letter to CNA stating that if the $115,000 settlement demand was not met, suit would commence in ten days. On July 5, 1996, CNA telephoned Roso’s counsel to inform her no further offer was forthcoming. Veblen Cheese and Henning were served on July 12 with a summons and complaint in Lea County, New Mexico, the place where the company had relocated. No copy was sent to CNA’s claims representative, who had handled the matter since 1993, or to defendants’ lawyer in the passenger’s case. Doug Tob-kin, a Veblen Cheese corporate officer, claims he then sent the summons and complaint to insurance agent, Culbert-Davis, in Sioux Falls, following the same procedure he took when served in the earlier proceedings. Culbert-Davis did not receive them. In the end, the judge concluded Tobkin never sent the documents.
[¶ 3.] Without giving notice to defendants, Roso applied for a default judgment. At the ex parte hearing on August 28, 1996, the circuit court acknowledged on the record a familiarity with the facts from presiding in the passenger’s case. After taking evidence on damages, the court entered a judgment for $350,000, the exact amount requested by counsel. On September 5, 1996, defendants received Notice of Entry of the Default Judgment. Tobkin called the claims manager at Culbert-Davis and faxed the summons, complaint, and judgment. This was the first phone call the manager recalled receiving from Tobkin on the matter. Tobkin then retained attorney Roger Ellyson to request that the judgment be set aside; he also spoke to attorney Reed Rasmussen, who had represented defendants in the passenger’s suit. Tobkin told Rasmussen he was not sure if he had mailed the summons and complaint when the company was served.
[¶ 4.] On September 6,1996, Ellyson filed a Motion to Set Aside Judgment by Default, and Rasmussen later filed a Notice of Appearance as co-counsel. A hearing was held on the motion in October, but the court denied relief and later rejected a motion for reconsideration, striking from the record Tobkin’s affidavit explaining why he initially was unsure if he mailed the pleadings. The *139 court concluded Tobkin’s testimony was not credible. It ruled: (1) TobMn had inexcusably failed to send the pleadings to the insurance agent and failed to follow up with a phone call to confirm his company’s interests were being protected; and (2) there was no meritorious defense. This appeal followed.
Standard of Review
[¶ 5.] “For good cause,” SDCL 15-6-55(c) allows a court to “set aside a judgment by default in accordance with § 15-6-60(b).” “The decision to grant or deny relief from a default judgment rests with the sound discretion of the trial court and we will not disturb the trial court’s decision absent an abuse of that discretion.”
First Federal Sav. & Loan Ass’n v. Strub,
Analysis and Decision
[¶ 6.] A default judgment may be taken against a party who has “failed to plead or otherwise defend ” a suit. SDCL 15-6-55(a). The mechanism for obtaining a default judgment is set forth in SDCL 15 — 6—55(b)(1):
By the Court. In all eases the party entitled to a judgment by default shall apply to the court therefor; but no judgment by default shall be entered against a minor or incompetent person unless represented in the action by a guardian, conservator or guardian ad litem who has appeared therein. If the party against whom judgment by default is sought has appeared in the actioyi, he (or, if appearing by representative, his representative) shall be served with written notice of the application for judgment at least three days prior to the hearing on such application. If, in order to enable the court to enter judgment or to carry it into effect, it is necessary to take an account or to determine the amount of damages or to establish the truth of any averment by evidence or to make an investigation of any other matter, the court may conduct such hearings or order such references as it deems necessary and proper and shall accord a right of trial by jury to the parties when and as required by any statute of this state. (Emphasis added).
If an appearing party has not been given notice of hearing on an application for default judgment, prejudice is conclusively presumed.
Heitman v. Gross,
[¶ 7.] Courts take an expansive view toward the definition of “appearance,” often finding it when a party shows an intent to defend.
Muniz v. Vidal,
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[¶ 8.] A default judgment is an extreme remedy,
Tank v. Munstedt,
[¶ 9.] Failure to submit a responsive pleading or a formal appearance in court will not always eliminate the notice requirement before seeking a default judgment. In considering the sufficiency of an appearance, the Fifth Circuit Court of Appeals offered sound advice:
We are aware of the burden that delay imposes on litigants, and of a busy trial court’s need to maintain an efficient procedural regimen that provides for trial on the merits in those eases that warrant trial. Courts, however, can deal with obstinate and dilatory parties in a variety of ways, and judgment by default should not be the first resort. In a suit that had been in progress for months and in which counsel for [Defendant] was fully aware that [Third-Party Defendant] had evinced a desire to defend itself, counsel might well have observed the courtesy of a bygone day that is still, fortunately, practiced by some members of our profession, of simply advising [Third-Party Defendant] that, if it continued to fail to plead formally, [Defendant] would be obliged to request a judgment by default.
Sun Bank,
[¶ 10.] Earnest negotiations took place here before the complaint was served. CNA’s last offer to Roso before suit was $45,000. Unquestionably, CNA was defending this claim for Veblen Cheese and Hen-ning. The same parties, lawyers, and adjuster were involved in this matter, as were involved in the passenger’s case, which arose from the same accident. We believe “informal contacts” between attorneys and others should be treated with “a degree of commonsense flexibility,” which we now apply in holding these settlement conferences were sufficient to create an appearance.
Muniz,
[¶ 11.] Defendants made an appearance entitling them to notice of the default judgment hearing under SDCL 15-6-55(b). “Failure to give the notice when it is required is grounds for setting the judgment aside.”
Shoemaker,
must be neglect of a nature that would cause a reasonable, prudent person to act similarly under similar circumstances. The term “excusable neglect” has no fixed meaning and is to be interpreted liberally to insure that cases are heard and tried on the merits. Excusable neglect is illusive and difficult to define: “I could never succeed [in defining it intelligibly]. But I know it when I see it.” Jacobellis v. State of Ohio,378 U.S. 184 , 197,84 S.Ct. 1676 , 1683,12 L.Ed.2d 793 , 804 (1964) (Stewart, J., concurring, describing obscenity).
Clarke,
[¶ 12.] As cases should ordinarily be decided on their merits, elementary fairness demands of courts a tolerant exercise of discretion in evaluating excusable neglect.
City of Lemmon v. U.S. Fidelity & Guaranty,
[¶ 13.] Furthermore, the defendants had a meritorious defense, the second requirement for relief:
“The party seeking relief must present facts either by answer or affidavit from which it could be inferred that upon a trial he would be entitled to a judgment more favorable to himself than the judgment from which he is seeking relief.” Clarke,423 N.W.2d at 821 . An applicant for relief from a judgment satisfies the meritorious defense requirement, however, if he makes only a prima facie showing. National Surety Corp. v. Shoemaker, 86 S.D. 302, 310,195 N.W.2d 134 , 138-39 (1972). “The rule does not intend that there should be two trials on the merits.” Id.
Frieberg v. Frieberg,
[¶ 14.] Reversed and remanded.
Notes
. See Annotation, What Amounts to an “Appearance” Under Rule 55(b)(2) of the Federal Rules of Civil Procedure, Providing that if the Party Against Whom a Judgment by Default Is Sought Has "Appeared” in the Action, He Shall Be Served With Written Notice of Application for Judgment, 27 ALRFed 620 (1976 & 1996 Supp.); Annotation, What Amounts to "Appearance" Under Statute or Rule Requiring Notice, to Party Who Has "Appeared,” of Intention to Take Default Judgment, 73 ALR3d 1250 (1976 & 1996 Supp.).
. Compare the appearance necessary for obtaining personal jurisdiction over a defendant:
While a party that has appeared for the purposes of personal jurisdiction is certainly entitled to notice under Rule 55(b)(2), the converse might not be true. An appearance for the purposes of Rule 55(b)(2) may consist only of letters or conversations, while a general appearance sufficient to waive an objection to personal jurisdiction requires a greater showing of the defendant’s acceptance of the court's jurisdiction.
10 J. Moore,
Moore’s Federal Practice
¶ 55.21[2][b] (3d ed 1997).
See also Milton v. Gesler,
. Evidentiary use of settlement negotiations is ordinarily prohibited under SDCL 19-12-10 (Fe-dREvid 408)(limited admissibility of compromise offers and settlement negotiations). Such negotiations are not admissible "to prove liability for or invalidity of the claim or its amount.” The policy behind the rule "is to promote the settling of disputes, which would be discouraged if offers of compromise were admitted.” 2 J. Strong,
McCormick on Evidence
§ 194 (4th ed 1992). Using the settlement discussions in this instance as proof of defendants’ “appearance" does not contravene the rule or its rationale, as this evidence is being considered for a different purpose than proof of liability or the validity of the total amount Roso seeks.
See Coakley & Williams v. Structural Concrete Equip.,
