On November 25, 1964, almost eighteen years after her marriage to defendant Arthur Reeves on December 25, 1946, plaintiff Doris Reeves instituted this action for divorce by the filing of her petition in which she sought dissolution of the marital relationship on the ground of indignities [V.A. M.S. § 452.010], asked for the custody of Patricia Ann, then fifteen years of age, one of the two children born of the marriage, and prayed for alimony, child support, attorneys’ fees and costs. On December 15, 1964, defendant filed his answer and cross-bill in which he sought a decree of divorce for alleged indignities and prayed for custody of both children, namely, Patricia Ann and Michael Eric, then seventeen years of age. Following trial on February 9 and 16, 1965, the court entered a decree dismissing defendant’s cross-bill, granting a divorce to plaintiff on her petition, awarding custody of Patricia Ann to plaintiff and custody of Michael Eric to defendant (with each parent to have the right of reasonable visitation with the child whose custody was awarded to the other parent), and adjudging that defendant should pay to plaintiff the sum of $2,500 as alimony in gross, the additional sum of $1 on the first day of March each year as permanent alimony, and $75 per month for the support of Patricia Ann. On this appeal by defendant, he complains that plaintiff’s petition should have been dismissed and he should have been granted a divorce on his cross-bill and that, in any event, the trial court erred in entering judgment against him for $2,500 as alimony in gross.
Defendant came to Poplar Bluff in September 1961 as associate sales manager in that area for a life insurance company, and he moved his family from Flat River to Poplar Bluff in February 1962. The transcript on appeal discloses nothing pertaining to the prior course of the marital venture, excepting only that plaintiff and defendant had acquired title, as tenants by the entirety, to two properties in Flat River, namely, (1) their six-room home and (2) an adjoining property to which plaintiff referred as a “small brick building” worth $1,500 and defendant’s attorney referred as “a house and lot” not valued in evidence but said to have been subject to a deed of trust securing payment of approximately $230.
Within a few weeks after the family came to Poplar Bluff, to wit, about March 15, 1962, plaintiff instituted an action for divorce (hereinafter referred to as the first divorce action) in the Circuit Court of Butler County on grounds here neither revealed nor important. During April or the first part of May 1962 and while the first divorce action was pending, defendant discovered that plaintiff was having “an affair” with one L-, a resident of St. Louis, with whom (as plaintiff readily admitted upon trial of the instant case) she had had adulterous relations on two occasions at a Poplar Bluff motel. When accused of infidelity by her husband, plaintiff made full confession to him and, upon his insistence, like confession to her minister at an appointment made by her husband. On May 14, 1962, defendant “helped” plaintiff to compose, and typed for her a letter to her attorney requesting him to dismiss *644 the first divorce action, which was done. Thereafter, plaintiff and defendant resumed cohabitation and lived together as husband and wife for approximately two and one-half years until their separation about November 14, 1964, shortly prior to institution of the case at bar.
From plaintiff’s testimony, it appears that the primary factors contributing to marital friction (subsequent to the reconciliation in May 1962) were defendant’s unexplained evenings away from home, his late hours, and his habitual-beer drinking. As plaintiff put it, “Art likes his good times without me, so he stays out late at night and comes in when he pleases.” When asked whether defendant told her “where he went and what he did and why he was out late,” plaintiff said that “sometimes he would and sometimes he didn’t, but it wasn’t any of my business.” Marital discord mounted to a climax and the parties came to a parting of the ways on the Monday before defendant “moved out” on November 14, 1964. Defendant had gone bowling that evening as he had “so many times in the last three years.” In a telephone call to plaintiff, he had told her that “I am going out and have some beer tonight and I don’t want you to say anything when I come in, I intend to come in when I get good and ready”; and, when she asked where he was going, he named an establishment which, as plaintiff ascertained, closed at 1:30 A.M. When defendant came home at 2:45 A.M. “drinking as usual,” he offered the explanation that “he had drank (sic) fourteen bottles of beer” and had “passed out” in his automobile after the establishment closed. In the ensuing argument, plaintiff expressed her disbelief of defendant’s explanation, told him that “we can’t get along this way,” and invited him to leave. He did so on November 14.
Although avoiding any charge that defendant came home unable “to navigate under his own power” (to borrow the words of his attorney), plaintiff asserted that her husband had made “a practice of coming home” after he had been drinking (as he had done on the final Monday night) “four or five times a week at the last and ... in the last three years about two or three times a week . anywhere from midnight until three in the morning.” Plaintiff did not profess any knowledge as to whether defendant had been involved with other women — “I have never followed him.” But, as plaintiff put it, “Art told me he didn’t love me and he didn’t want me and if we continued to live together it would be as he desired to do, and I might as well keep my mouth shut about it.”
Our courts long ago recognized the impossibility of formulating any all-encompassing rule as to what will justify a decree of divorce for alleged indignities and confirmed the necessity of determining each case on its own particular facts and circumstances; 1 but, as a guide in cases of this character, it is said that indignities warranting the granting of a divorce ordinarily must amount to a continuous course of conduct by one spouse constituting a species of mental cruelty, connoting settled hatred and a plain manifestation of alienation and estrangement, and rendering the condition of the other spouse intolerable through acts of such character and frequency as to be subversive of the family relationship. 2 We have no doubt but that plaintiff’s testimony, which was accepted by the trial court, showed such indignities by defendant and established plaintiff’s status as that of the injured party.
However, she would not have been entitled to a decree of divorce unless the *645 trial court reasonably could have found (as he did) that she also was the innocent party. 3 In our review of the evidence bearing upon this finding, we remain mindful that the requirement of innocence did not contemplate proof of such exemplary deportment or angelic perfection as to have excluded all misconduct but simply a showing that, in the circumstances of the case, plaintiff had not been guilty of such conduct as would have entitled defendant to a divorce. 4
We turn to a consideration of the specific conduct on the part of plaintiff which defendant here points out in support of his contention that he should have been granted a divorce on his cross-bill. One indignity pleaded therein was that “plaintiff has threatened the life of the defendant.” The evidence pertaining to this allegation follows. When asked on cross-examination whether she had told defendant “shortly before” November 14, 1964, that “you were going to shoot off a certain part of his body if you didn’t get a divorce,”
plaintiff
answered: “When he came in drunk ... I said, Art, I am getting so tired of this I can’t stand it. I had spent in September four days in the hospital up here for depression mostly, and I told him I couldn’t stand it any longer, that I could kill him for what he was doing to me. I didn’t say any portion of his body.” In response to a question by his counsel directed to the same incident,
defendant
stated: “She said that if the judge didn’t give her what she asked for she would.” There was no suggestion that plaintiff’s cry of anguish and despair was accompanied or followed by any move to inflict harm or injury upon defendant. Cf. Culp v. Culp, Mo.App.,
The only other indignities
pleaded in defendant’s cross-bill
were plaintiff’s institution of the first divorce action in March 1962 and her consorting with L-prior to dismissal of that action in May 1962. Defendant admitted upon trial that, after he had discovered plaintiff’s infidelity, she had made full confession thereof to him and, upon his insistence, like confession to her minister, that he (defendant) thereafter had “helped” plaintiff to compose, and had typed for her, a letter to her attorney requesting him to dismiss the first divorce action, and that, upon his (defendant’s) purpose and intention “to forgive her of everything ... to the best of my ability,” the parties had become reconciled and had lived together as man and wife for two and one-half years be
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fore they separated about November 14, 1964. All of this worked (so plaintiff insists) a condonation or “ ‘a blotting out’ ” [Ratcliff v. Ratcliff,
In Weber v. Weber,
Instant defendant does not, and could not well, deny his condonation of plaintiff’s prior adulterous conduct by his reconciliation and extended period of cohabitation with her after having obtained full knowledge of her activities. But, relying upon the holdings that condoned infidelity may be revived by a subsequent course of cruel treatment of the forgiving spouse by the one forgiven, 9 defendant contends that “condonation is not available to plaintiff” because (so he avers), after the reconciliation, “she treated him with a continual course of abuse clearly amounting to indignities” for which he should have been granted a decree of divorce.
In addition to the hereinbefore-discussed incidents pleaded in his cross-bill as alleged indignities, defendant also calls our attention to certain unpleaded matters characterized by his counsel as demonstrating plaintiff’s “continual course of abuse clearly amounting to indignities.” The first such matter, primarily emphasized in defendant’s brief, involved the Corning time savings account and developed in the following manner. As a predicate for the prayer for monetary allowances, plaintiff alleged in her petition that she was “wholly destitute, without funds with which to support herself or her minor child [Patricia Ann], or to pay her attorney fees and costs.” Upon trial, plaintiff testified on direct examination that she worked part time for a Poplar Bluff department store and in that employment had earned about $1,000 during 1964. On cross-examination, it was shown that, prior to separation of the parties in November 1964, defendant had paid the rent, had given plaintiff $25 per week “for groceries” — an allowance sufficient for that purpose, and had purchased some clothing for plaintiff and the two children. When asked “what happened to your money,” plaintiff explained that “usually when I get a payday, I have got several things checked out that I pay for”— “I have bought a lot of clothes for the kids and bought all my clothes . . . and I sent my mother some money . *647 about $100 in the last year.” Further particularizing, plaintiff said that she had paid for herself and her daughter the expenses incident to such feminine niceties as “hairdos” and “permanents,” and then, apparently provoked by the searching interrogation, she petulantly added, “if you are asking me if I have any money now, no, I don’t have any money.”
The foregoing testimony was given by plaintiff on February 9, 1965. When additional evidence was taken on February 16, defendant testified that, during the intervening period, he had conducted a personal investigation at banks in Poplar Bluff, Dexter and Sikeston, Missouri, and in Corning, Arkansas, and thereby had discovered a time savings account of $1,020 in the joint names of plaintiff and her daughter in a bank at Corning, which said sum had been deposited there on October 29, 1964. In the absence of either denial or explanation by plaintiff, defendant’s testimony on this subject should be accepted.
From time immemorial, truthfulness has been recognized as a cornerstone of morality and has been regarded with reverential respect [L- v. N-, Mo.App.,
However, no issue has been raised concerning plaintiff’s fitness to have the custody of her daughter, Patricia Ann. And, notwithstanding the falsity, inexcused and inexcusable on the record presented, of the above-noted averment in plaintiff’s petition and her positive statement on the witness stand, the trier of the facts was not, for that reason,
required
to reject and disregard plaintiff’s testimony in its entirety.
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The credibility of the parties was for the sagacious trial judge, wise in the ways of witnesses [Wilson v. Watt, Mo.,
Another matter characterized in defendant’s brief as an “indignity” was plaintiff’s unauthorized endorsement of defendant’s name on, and cashing of, a tax refund check of $171 payable to the joint order of both spouses. Plaintiff’s proffered excuse was that “every time I asked where the money was for the house, he [defendant] had no explanation — the only thing he did say, he said he just buried it away.” And the comment in plaintiff’s brief, i. e., that “this income tax was a joint return and was a result of a substantial portion of the tax which she paid herself from her job” and “the cashing of that check was nothing but taking back that which was already hers,” is wide of the mark and wholly unpersuasive. However, this matter was not pleaded as an indignity; and, on the record as a whole, it is fairly in-ferable that plaintiff’s action, which “was just before” the final separation about November 14, 1964, first became known to defendant after that date. Accordingly, this conduct likewise could not have contributed to the final rupture of the family relationship.
Other unpleaded matters, now urged by defendant as indignities, were: (a) that plaintiff told defendant’s superior, the district manager (at a time and place not specified), that “she wanted me [defendant] to leave home and she wanted out, she didn’t want to live with me any longer”; (b) that “when I would come in sometimes at nine o’clock and ask if there was anything for supper, she would say no, if you wanted supper you should have been here at five o’clock”; and (c) that plaintiff had told him “repeatedly” after the reconciliation in May 1962 that she did not love him, this being elicited by a leading question fashioned by defendant’s counsel which called for and brought forth a simple “yes, sir” from the witness. Again reminding ourselves that the credibility of the parties was for the trial judge, we think that he well might have concluded that defendant’s testimony concerning these unpleaded matters did not “clearly demonstrate or plainly persuade with convincing probative force that they constitute [d] the contemplated insufferable, intolerable indignities” affording a statutory ground for divorce [V.A.M.S. § 452.010] and that his testimony was “lacking in that naturally compelling ring of sincerity manifesting innocent injury . .” Clemens v. Clemens, Mo.,
Although it is our duty to review this court-tried case upon both the law and the evidence as in suits of an equitable nature, we are enjoined by both rule and statute that “[t]he judgment shall not be set aside unless clearly erroneous, and due regard shall be given to the opportunity of the trial court to judge of the credibility of the witnesses.”
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While we are not bound by the action of the trial judge, it is our duty to defer to his findings unless we can point to some reason for not doing so,
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for, as it has been logically pointed out, an appellate court cannot declare the decree nisi to be “clearly erroneous” unless it “can discover and present some good reason for that conclusion.” Pappas v. Pappas, Mo.App.,
Passing to the monetary provisions of the decree, defendant does not criticize the requirements that he pay $1 each year as permanent alimony and $75 per month for the support of his minor daughter, Patricia Ann, but he complains that the judgment of $2,500 for alimony in gross “failed to take into consideration the financial situation of the parties.” As associate sales manager in the Poplar Bluff area for a major life insurance company, defendant received “a base salary” of $77.50 per week and additional compensation dependent upon and varying with the insurance written and kept in force by himself and the men working under him, seven in number at the time of trial. Plaintiff testified that defendant’s average earnings during the first six months of 1964 were $136 per week, and defendant stated that his “gross earnings” for 1964 were $6,900 or approximately $133 per week. Without detailing deductions or offering any actual figures, he estimated his average “take-home pay” at $100 to $110 per week.
However, the record indicates that the allowance of $2,500 as alimony in gross was not made on the basis of defendant’s weekly earnings but rather was motivated by, and related to, the sale of the six-room family home at Flat River, owned by the parties as tenants by the entirety, during the Spring of 1964 for the gross sale price of $6,500. After payment of delinquent taxes, agent’s commission, and other expenses incident to the sale, the sellers received (a) cash in an amount (according to plaintiff) “in the neighborhood of $3,200 to $3,300” or (according to defendant) “between $3,000 and $3,100” and (b) a note in the principal sum of $2,000, payable in monthly installments of $15 each, and secured by second deed of trust on the real estate sold. Whatever the precise amount of the cash payment may have been, plaintiff testified that defendant told her “that we would put the money in the savings and loan.” (Emphasis ours) She did not know in whose name or names the money had been deposited until “a little later” when she “had reason to add some money,” called the Poplar Bluff Loan and Building Association, and then learned that defendant had deposited $3,000 in his individual name, “payable on [his] death” to her.
Upon trial defendant said that he had deposited the sale proceeds in his individual name because “I had been threatened with a divorce practically since the inception of this marriage, and we have a lot of bills coming up, and I wanted to make certain that they would be paid,” and that he had withdrawn the money “as the bills piled up, where I didn’t have the money to pay them out of my current earnings, and I paid bills out of that as I went along, until it just dwindled down to nothing.” The only specific bill allegedly paid from the sale proceeds, which defendant could remember at the first hearing on February 9, 1965, was the additional premium for automobile liability insurance when his teen-age son began to drive. The remainder of the sale proceeds “just dwindled down to nothing” (so he asserted) by payment of “bare necessities” for which his current earnings were insufficient. By the time he testified again on February 16, defendant had recalled that $212 of the sale proceeds had been used to discharge a note obligation for money borrowed to pay delinquent taxes on the property sold, and that $128 had been used, over his wife’s protest, to join a country club — an affiliation not generally regarded as a “bare necessity” except in certain self-glorifying strata of sophisticated social climbers. But, regardless of what defendant eventually may have done with the sale *650 proceeds, be conceded that on May 2, 1964, he had withdrawn $300 of those proceeds from his individual account in the Loan and Building Association, and that on September 10, 1964 (only about two months before the final separation), he had closed out that account by withdrawing the entire balance of $2,740.50 (including $40.50 interest) which, so he blandly declared, he had carried in cash on his person “as long as I had it.”
As for the $2,000 note secured by second deed of trust on the property sold, defendant admitted having received six monthly payments, no portion of which had been given to his wife. At the hearing on February 16, 1965, he produced the second deed of trust (not offered in evidence) but denied possession of the $2,000 note secured thereby or any knowledge of its whereabouts at that time. When he last had seen it (at a time and place not disclosed), it was (so he testified) in plaintiff’s possession. However, she denied having it.
Defendant had a bank account in a Poplar Bluff bank, but the balance on deposit there was not shown. Notwithstanding his far-flung investigation at banks which had uncovered plaintiff’s time savings account at Corning, Arkansas, defendant professed his inability to give any information concerning his own bank account in Poplar Bluff for the reason that: “I have no way of knowing. My check stubs (sic) were sent to my previous address, and my wife got those and wouldn’t turn them over to me, and so I have no way of knowing.” On the other hand, defendant had no difficulty in remembering that he still owed twenty-five monthly payments of $82.73 each on his 1964 Chrysler Newport with power equipment and air conditioning.
An award of alimony generally is regarded as an allowance in the nature of an award of damages because of the husband’s breach of the marriage contract.
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Although V.A.M.S. § 452.070 does not impose a mandatory duty upon the trial judge to award alimony to a prevailing wife,
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an allowance usually is made “in the interest of social welfare and justice” where it is reasonable to do so [Smith v. Smith,
In determining whether an award of alimony should be made and, if so, in what amount, numerous factors properly may be considered, such as the financial status of the respective parties; their incomes, obligations and necessities; the con-' tributions of each to the property accumulated during marriage; the probable future prospects of each; their ages, state of health, and ability to follow gainful occupations; their children and the custodial provisions concerning them; the duration of the marriage and whether it was contracted as one of affection or of convenience; and the conduct of the parties, particularly with regard to the cause of the divorce and the
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relative or comparative responsibility of each therefor. Ridgley v. Ridgley, Mo.App.,
The marriage of the parties in the instant case, solemnized in the bloom of their youth, was one of affection. Plaintiff’s efforts through a relatively long marital period should be recognized as having contributed to acquisition of the jointly-held home in Flat River, from the sale of which $3,000 to $3,300 in cash and a secured note for $2,000 were received. Fields, supra,
At the time of trial, plaintiff had a savings account of $1,020 and was earning about $1,000 per year or less than $85 per month. Except upon proof of a subsequent change in conditions which would justify modification of the continuing nominal award of $1 per year [Schulte v. Schulte, Mo.,
When the case was submitted upon appeal, counsel for both parties requested us to enter judgment, pursuant to their agreement, in favor of plaintiff and against defendant in the sum of $260 for attorneys’ fees and suit money on appeal. Desirous as we are to accommodate counsel, that request nevertheless must be denied for want
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of jurisdiction in this court to enter judgment for such allowances on appeal. State ex rel. Clarkson v. St. Louis Court of Appeals,
The judgment of the circuit court is, in all respects, affirmed.
Notes
. Hooper v. Hooper,
. Heaven v. Heaven, Mo.App.,
. O’Leary v. O’Leary, Mo.App.,
. Simon v. Simon, Mo.,
. Harwell v. Harwell, Mo.App.,
. Myers v. Myers, Mo.App.,
. Stone v. Stone, Mo.App.,
. Stone, supra,
.Tootle v. Tootle, Mo.App.,
. L- v. N-, Mo.App.,
. Stewart v. St. Louis Public Service Co., Mo.App.,
. V.A.M.R. Rule 73.01(d); V.A.M.S. § 510.310 (4); Spencer v. Spencer, Mo. App.,
. Bailey v. Bailey, Mo.App.,
. Brinker v. Brinker,
. Smith, supra,
. Adkins v. Adkins, Mo.App.,
