{1} On the Court’s own motion the following opinion is substituted for that filed March 17,1999. The motion for rehearing is denied.
{2} This appeal presents novel questions regarding the torts of intentional infliction of emotional distress, and, to a lesser extent, prima facie tort. We examine the kinds of behavior that, although immoral and personally offensive, may not rise to the level of actionable civil claims under law. In this case Plaintiff Padwa seeks compensatory damages from Defendant Hadley for having engaged in a pattern of intrusive and often times sexual behavior with Padwa’s wife, his former wife, and his former fiancée, with the intent to cause severe emotional distress and injure Padwa, allegedly without justification for his acts. • After analyzing the conduct alleged and even assuming the truthfulness of all material allegations, we conclude that Padwa does not state a claim for relief in tort under New Mexico law. Accordingly, we affirm the district court’s dismissal of the complaint.
BACKGROUND
{3} The following facts are alleged in Padwa’s complaint and are assumed to be true for purposes of our review of an order dismissing the complaint for failure to state a claim upon which relief can be granted. See Rule 1-012(B)(6) NMRA 1999. Padwa was divorced from his first wife (former wife) in New York City in 1966. In 1971, he moved away from New York to Santa Fe “because of the sorrowful nature of the divorce.” While in Santa Fe he met Hadley, and they became casual friends. Padwa subsequently met another woman (wife), and the couple married in 1973.
{4} In 1981, Padwa went to New York on business. Hadley invited himself along on the trip and shared Padwa’s hotel room. While in New York, Hadley began asking Padwa intrusive questions about his prior marriage which revealed a prurient interest in Padwa’s private life and in his former wife. Padwa was deeply offended and told Hadley so. Padwa was still sensitive about his divorce and remained involved with his former wife because they had a daughter together. According to Padwa, he made clear to Hadley that any intrusion into the privacy of his relationship with his former wife would be extremely painful, especially considering their daughter. Later that night, Padwa returned to his hotel room close to midnight and discovered that Hadley had left a note telling Padwa that he had gone over to Padwa’s ex-wife’s house. Hadley returned at approximately 2:15 a.m. Padwa was incensed at Hadley’s callousness and ended his friendship immediately.
{5} For the next four or five years, Hadley sought unsuccessfully to resume a friendly discourse with Padwa, but Padwa wanted nothing to do with him and told him repeatedly how disgusted he was at Hadley’s behavior, how much he had hurt him, and that he wanted Hadley to stay away from him and his family. Years later in 1994, Hadley telephoned Padwa at his home in Santa Fe, and in a conciliatory gesture Padwa invited him over to his house to “let bygones be bygones.” Padwa then described to Hadley how he had become separated from his wife, how he had then become engaged to another woman (ex-fiancée), how he had ended the engagement for the sake of reclaiming his marriage, and finally that he and his wife were together again and fully reconciled for nearly a year. He also explained to Hadley that he continued to have a warm and platonic friendship with his ex-fiancée.
{6} Within days of this conversation, Hadley initiated a sexual relationship with Padwa’s wife. A few months later, Hadley sought out Padwa’s ex-fiancée and began a sexual relationship with her as well. Hadley told the ex-fiancée about his affair with Padwa’s
{7} Padwa was outraged at Hadley’s invasion of his private life. As Padwa saw it, Hadley was a sexual predator. Hadley had been told not to become involved with these women, and yet he had done so purposefully, intentionally, and with full knowledge of the severe emotional injury that would follow. In his brief to this Court, Padwa describes Hadley as a man who “repeatedly went to extraordinary lengths” to injure him, and one “who knowingly, intentionally and with mocking cruelty, targets [him], waiting for the opportunity to sexually humiliate him and to hurt him deeply.” Continuing, Padwa elaborates that “[s]exual pursuit of these women was [Hadleyj’s weapon of choice for attacking and hurting [him]” and that Hadley was “highly effective” in doing so. Padwa filed this lawsuit against Hadley for intentional infliction of emotional distress and, alternatively, for prima facie tort. Pursuant to Rule 1 — 012(B)(6), the district court dismissed both claims for failure to state a claim upon which relief may be granted, and Padwa appeals from that dismissal.
DISCUSSION
Standard of Review
{8} The decision of the trial court to grant Hadley’s Rule 12(B)(6) motion is a question of law that we review de novo. See Wilson v. Denver,
The Tort of Intentional Infliction of Emotional Distress
{9} Initially, the court determines as a matter of law whether conduct reasonably may be regarded as so extreme and outrageous that it will permit recovery under the tort of intentional infliction of emotional distress. See Trujillo v. Puro,
{10} We first addressed this tort, also known as the tort of outrage, in Mantz v. Follingstad,
Liability has been found only where the conduct has been so outrageous in character, and so extreme in degree, as to go beyond all possible bounds of decency, and to be regarded as atrocious, and utterly intolerable in a civilized community. Generally, the case is one in which the recitation of the facts to an average member of the community would arouse his resentment against the actor, and lead him to exclaim, “Outrageous!”
Restatement, supra, § 46 cmt. d; accord Mantz,
{12} Before examining those facts, however, we emphasize one notable opinion from this Court that comes the closest to the present case and provides us with special guidance. In Hakkila v. Hakkila,
{13} Both sides to this litigation appear to recognize that the Hakkila heightened threshold, with its “cautious approach” and “very limited scope,” can serve as a helpful model for various kinds of intimate personal relationships, beyond just marriage, and the interpersonal torts that arise from them. That is, relationship partners in various forms (for example, wife, ex-wife, fiancée, paramour), and not just wives and husbands, need similar protection of the right to privacy in their intimate lives. Accordingly, the Hakkila heightened threshold is a comfortable fit with the present relationships even though only one of these women was actually married to Padwa when Hadley intervened. See Jose F. v. Pat M.,
{14} Assuming such a claim for damages would not lie against Padwa’s former partners, the question that follows is whether a similar claim in tort against Hadley, the alleged seducer of the wife, the former wife or the fiancée, should be subject to any less caution, less “limited scope,” and less heightened threshold than would apply if Padwa were suing his former partners directly. In short, the question is: Can Padwa sue Hadley for the emotional distress caused by Hadley’s repeated affairs when Padwa likely could not sue the women themselves for the same injuries? For the reasons that follow, we are persuaded that Padwa cannot, and we hold that he must demonstrate the same high standard of extreme and outrageous conduct for maintaining an action against Hadley as he would have to do against his former partners. Finally, we conclude that Padwa has not demonstrated that the facts alleged, even taken as true in the present posture of the case, can meet such a threshold. We base our reasoning upon persuasive precedent elsewhere, upon a compelling analogy to the disfavored tort of alienation of affections, and finally upon important policy factors present in New Mexico’s judicial and social fabric that mitigate against recognizing such a tort in this context.
{15} As a general rule, engaging in consensual sexual relations, even with another’s spouse, does not rise to the level of extreme and outrageous conduct that justifies an action in tort. See Strauss v. Cilek,
{16} An exception arises when a defendant owes a plaintiff an independent duty of care, such as when that defendant also has a special relationship with the plaintiff. For example, when the psychiatrist seducing the wife is also the psychiatrist of the husband, the court will recognize a claim in tort. See Figueiredo-Torres v. Nickel,
{17} Padwa and Hadley, of course, had no such special relationship between them; they were merely casual friends. Neither had any special power or authority over the other, and neither had any special responsibility for the other. Accordingly, the prevailing view in those cases from other jurisdictions that have addressed a similar situation is that Padwa’s claim, and Hadley’s conduct, do not rise to the necessary level to justify the tort of outrage. See Strauss,
{18} The closest New Mexico parallel is the common law action for alienation of affections which authorized a husband to sue another for interference with his supposed “right” to the undiluted affections of his spouse. See Thompson v. Chapman,
diminishes human dignity. It inflicts pain and humiliation upon the innocent, monetary damages are either inadequate or punitive, and the action does not prevent human misconduct itself. In our judgment, the interests which the action seeks to protect are not protected by its existence, and the harm it engenders far outweighs any reasons for its continuance.
Id. (quoting Wyman v. Wallace,
{19} The foregoing eases from New Mexico and elsewhere share the common concern, grounded in sound public policy, against undue interference in consensual sexual relations between adults. See Browning v. Browning,
{20} It is difficult to envision how the cuckolded spouse or lover could successfully state a claim in tort against the third party, whatever the label, without simultaneously trammelling the privacy rights and liberty interests of the other spouse, or the former spouse or partner. We do not see how we could recognize such conduct as tortious and not, in effect, create a legal right in a husband or paramour to the affections and loyalty of his partner. A person may have such a moral claim to marital loyalty, or a lover’s fidelity, and a moral right to be free from the sexual blandishments of an interloper. However, “the morals of mankind are more perfectly judged by a court having a final and eternal jurisdiction.” Browning,
{21} Padwa relies on certain cases from other jurisdictions, such as Muratore v. M/S Scotia Prince,
{22} We recognize that nonprivileged conduct that is “already at the edge of outrageous” may become actionable by virtue of its repetition. See id. at 1056. Under such circumstances, repetition may compound the outrageousriess of incidents which, taken individually, might not be sufficiently extreme to warrant liability. See id. at 1055-56 (harassing telephone calls including one at a.m. after woman asked the defendant not to call her again because she had recently given birth to her child and been discharged from the hospital); Muratore,
{23} Padwa also contends that Hadley’s conduct was motivated in significant part by a malicious intent to injure Plaintiff after actual notice of the harm it would cause. Plaintiff argues that this tips the balance in favor of providing a remedy and outweighs the countervailing privacy interests that caution against recognizing a cause of action in this case. We disagree. “[L]iability does not flow from every act that intends to cause and does cause emotional distress.” Hakkila,
Padwa’s Prima Facie Tort Claim
{24} Padwa’s complaint contains a claim for prima facie tort as an alternative to intentional infliction of emotional distress. “The theory underlying prima facie tort is that a party that intends to cause injury to another should be liable for that injury, if the conduct is generally culpable and not justifiable under the circumstances.” Schmitz,
{25} If a defendant commits an otherwise lawful act with the intent to injure a plaintiff, as Padwa claims Hadley did in this case, then a court balances (1) the nature and seriousness of the harm to the plaintiff, (2) the interests promoted by the defendant’s conduct, (3) the character of the means used by defendant, and (4) the defendant’s motives. See Schmitz,
{26} “The issue of justification, or excusability [of a defendant’s conduct], focuses primarily on the question of whether the defendant’s conduct was privileged.” Beavers,
{27} Padwa has alleged conduct that does not rise to the level of extreme and outrageous behavior which cannot be the basis for recovery in tort for all the policy reasons previously discussed. Padwa would have us disregard the same policy and ignore the defects in Padwa’s claim by, in effect, finding a substitute theory in prima facie tort. But prima facie tort “should not be used to evade stringent requirements of other
CONCLUSION
{28} We decline to extend the tort of outrage to situations involving the repeated pursuit of sexual relations between consenting adults. Hadley’s participation in consensual sexual relations with adult women who had a past or present relationship with Padwa is not so extreme and outrageous as to permit Padwa to recover for intentional infliction of emotional distress. Additionally, Padwa does not state an independent claim for prima facie tort and cannot alternatively plead prima facie tort where he fails to meet the stringent requirements of the tort of outrage.
{29} IT IS SO ORDERED.
