Oriola v. ThalerOriola v. Thaler
Opinion
Joy Oriola appeals from an order dismissing her application for a restraining order against Adam Thaler for lack of jurisdiction under the
Domestic Violence Prevention Act (DVPA or the Act) (
.The sole legal question this case presents, which is considerably more difficult than it may first appear, is the meaning of the phrase “dating relationship” as used in the DVPA.
Statement of the Case and Facts
On August 7, 1998, appellant filed an application for a restraining order against respondent under the DVPA. In her application, appellant indicated that she and respondent had had a “dating or engagement relationship”; that respondent had “caused, threatened, or attempted bodily injury to [her] or another member of [her] household,” “made [her] or another member of [her] household afraid of physical or emotional harm,” and “stalked” her. She requested restraining and stay-away orders, including staying away from the gym facility to which the parties belonged, as well as attorney fees and reimbursement for gym expenses of $733.20 and lost wages of $1,680.
In the declaration accompanying her application, appellant stated that she first met appellant during the fall of 1996, at the 24-hour Nautilus gym where they were both members. In
According to appellant’s declaration, several days after the party, respondent indicated appellant did not spend enough time with him or make time
for him as she did for her other friends. He said, “I don’t know what I’d do if you started dating another man.” She reminded him she was not interested in establishing a romantic relationship and told him she would be happy to listen if he needed to talk but did not think they should “hang out” anymore. For the next several weeks, respondent repeatedly telephoned
From late December 1997 through March 1998, appellant received 25 to 40 “crank calls and hang up calls” per day from respondent, mostly after he saw her at the gym. In February 1998, while the parties were at the gym, appellant inquired how respondent was doing, and he told her, “shut the fuck up.” She told him he had to “stop doing this” and “[i]f you try intimidating me, it would be harassment.” In March, respondent followed appellant into the sauna at the gym, giving her dirty looks. After others in the sauna left, respondent began to “hit the bench and bang the walls with his shoulders and elbows.” Appellant told him if he did this again she would assume he was physically threatening her; he hit the walls and bench again. She told him she would report him to the management and he again hit the wall and bench. She reported the matter to the manager. In late March, respondent paged some 45 individuals and left them appellant’s cell phone and work numbers. Also in late March, respondent called appellant at work; when she told him she would take action if he did not stop bothering her, he said, “I have nothing to lose, you asshole.”
Afraid respondent would continue to threaten her and might hurt her, appellant made a police report against appellant in early April 1998. She avoided the gym from April until mid-June and then, having not seen respondent for 11 weeks, hoped he would no longer threaten or harass her. On June 15, she went to the gym; respondent was there but did not talk to her. From June 16 until June 30, she received approximately 25 “crank calls” daily. On or about June 30, appellant received an “e-mail bomb” with approximately 263 messages resulting from appellant’s e-mail address having been subscribed to receive crop, livestock and United States Department of Agriculture reports from all 50 states. The overload “created a potential shutdown” at appellant’s workplace. Subsequent investigation revealed the e-mail “bomb” had been sent from respondent’s computer at his place of employment.
The initial police report reflecting appellant’s complaint of harassment and threats described appellant as having “be-friended” respondent and explained to him that she was not interested in him “outside of a platonic relationship,” and reported that appellant “stated there was only a platonic relationship between [respondent] and herself.” This report listed appellant as the suspect’s girlfriend. In a subsequent police department incident report statement, appellant sought to correct “errors” in the prior report, including that the “reporting party relationship is ‘acquaintance,’ not ‘girlfriend.’ ” 1
In a supplemental declaration in support of her application for restraining orders, appellant stated that she had never been respondent’s “girlfriend” but did “briefly date” him. Appellant explainеd that when, after the concert date, she told respondent
Respondent took the position that the apрlication should be denied because a “platonic relationship” with an “acquaintance” did not amount to a “dating or engagement relationship” within the meaning of the DVPA; that the restraining orders sought were overbroad; and that the monetary relief appellant sought exceeded that available under the DVPA. Respondent sought attorney fees and restitution for vacation and sick leave he used after being served with appellant’s application at his place of work, without warning, in a humiliating manner.
Respondent’s declaration stated his recognition of appellant’s desire to have no contact with him and his intention to honor that request. According to respondent, when he began exchanging e-mails with appellant in the summer of 1996, he had a girlfriend of more than four years and was not looking to date anyone else. He and his girlfriend brоke up in November 1996. In December, appellant invited respondent to join a group attending a concert; in a subsequent conversation, respondent told appellant about his break-up and said he “could really use a friend.” Appellant spoke about other men she was dating. Respondent stated that he and appellant “expressly agreed to be ‘friends.’ ” At appellant’s family Christmas dinner, when someone told the parties to move closer together for a picture, appellant said, “No, we’re just friends.” Respondent’s declaration stated his desire to be able to use his gym, where his friends were members, and asked that any restraining order entered establish a schedule for the parties’ separate use of the facility rather than prohibiting respondent from all such use.
The parties stipulated that Commissioner Susan B. King could act as temporary judge in this case and a hearing was held on September 2, 1998.. At the hearing, the judge stated that she thought appellant had a “great case for a harassment order,” but it was a civil harassment case rather than a domestic violence one. The judge noted that the other relationships enumerated in the DVPA were “spouses, people with whom you’ve had a child, people that you’ve lived with, cohabitants,” and stated that “four outings in groups in 1996 is not a dating relationship.” The judge suggested treating the case as one for a civil harassment order, but appellant apparently did not wish to pursue that course. After a brief discussion of the parties’ wishes regarding use of the gym, the court concluded it was going to be “impossible” to work out an order and dismissed the case for lack of jurisdiction, without prejudice to appellant filing a civil harаssment case.
On September 4, 1998, appellant filed a petition for an injunction under Code of Civil Procedure section 527.6.
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An order to show cause and temporary restraining
The order dismissing the DVPA case was filed on October 13, 1998, and notice of entry of the order was served on October 15 and filed on October 21. Appellant’s notice of appeal was timely filed on December 11, 1998.
Discussion
I.
The DVPA provides for issuance of orders “to restrain any рerson for the purpose of preventing a recurrence of domestic violence and ensuring a period of separation of the persons involved, if an affidavit shows, to the satisfaction of the court, reasonable proof of a past act or acts of abuse.” (
“(a) A spouse or former spouse.
“(b) A cohabitant or former cohabitant, as defined in Section 6209.
“(c) A person with whom the respondent is having or has had a dating or engagement relationship.
“(d) A person with whom the respondent has had a child, where the presumption applies that the male parent is the father of the child of the female parent under the Uniform Parentage Act ....
“(e) A child of a party or a child who is the subject of an action under the Uniform Parentage Act, where the presumption applies that the male parent is the father of the child to be protected.
“(f) Any other person related by consanguinity or affinity within the second degree.” (Italics added.)
Appellant sought the protection of the DVPA under subdivision (c) of Family Code
“The fundamental rule of statutory construction is that a court should ascertain the intent of the Legislature so as to effectuate the purpose of the law.
(T. M. Cobb Co.
v.
Superior Court
(1984)
The DVPA was originally enacted in 1979. (Stats. 1979, ch. 795 § 10, pp. 2710-2711.) At that time, the Legislature had been advised that legal remedies then available to battered persons—specifically the injunctive relief available under Code of Civil Procedure section 527, subdivision (a), and protective orders then available under the
As a result of this and similar advice from other sources, the Legislature inserted in the pertinent law, which now appears in the Family Code, elaborate provisions relating to the issuance and effect of emergency protective orders (
Originally, the DVPA did not protect persons in a “dating relationship.” As first enacted, the DVPA applied only to family members and persons who regularly resided in the household and had sexual relations with another family or household member, or had so resided within the last six months. (Former
This last language was added in 1990, in a measure (Assem. Bill No. 4000 (1989-1990 Reg. Sess.)) sponsored by the Los Angeles City Attorney’s Office. A report on the bill states that “[t]he laws governing eligibility for a restraining order need to be expanded to include the many victims who do not qualify currently as they are not a blood relative, former or current
The DVPA does not define the phrase “dating or engagement relationship,” 4 and the meaning of a “dating relationship” 5 is not clear enough to delineate the particular meaning the Legislature had in mind when it used these words. 6
The practice of “dating” evolved in this nation during the 1920’s. (Modell,
Dating Becomes the Way of American Youth
in Essays on the Family and Historical Change (Moch & Stark edits., 1983) p. 91.) “The defining characteristic of the new dating system and, what is more critical, of the graduated series of dates that might lead to a closer relationship between young men and women was that a date was away from home, unchaperoned, and not subject to parental veto; it depended upon the free election of the participants. Certainly,
some
American boys and girls of the middle classes had coupled in every imaginable way without parental awareness before the turn of the century, but ‘dates’ of this sort lacked the continuity and regularity that the full evolution of the dating system would permit after World War I.”
(Id.,
pp. 92-93, italics in original.) “Dating,” it has been said, is “a twentieth-century term for a primarily recreational aspect of сourting.” (1 Encyclopedia of Soc’y (1991) p. 333.) “In twentieth-century America, the new system of dating added new stages to courtship and multiplied the number of partners (from serious to casual) an individual was likely to have before marriage. All this premarital experience necessarily had an impact on the final stages of mate selection. Thus, ... the unattached flirt, the engaged college seniors, the eighth-grade ‘steadies,’ and the mismatched couple on a blind date are all engaged in courtship.” (Bailey, From Front Porch to Back Seat: Courtship in Twentieth-Century America (1988) p. 6.) It is important to note, finally, that customs, of courtship, and in particular those that relate to “dating,” are not fixed and are constantly changing. (See, e.g., Newcomb,
Recent Changes in Attitude Toward Sex and Marriage
(1937) 2 Am. Soc. Rev. 659 and Waller,
The Rating and Dating Complex
(1937) 2 Am. Soc. Rev. 727; cf. Gordon,
Was Waller Ever Right? The Rating and
Dating Complex Reconsidered
(1981) 43 J. of Marriage and the Fam. 67, 75 [“Now, even non-competitive, pluralistic dating is giving way to more group-based activity. Young
While the DVPA “clearly has a broad protective purpose, both in its stated intent and the breadth of the persons protected (see
Caldwell v. Coppola, supra,
The parties assume, without discussion, that for purposes of the DVPA a “dating relationship” is simply one in which the parties have a “romantic” interest in one another, and that this excludes relationships in which the mutual interest, or perhaps even the interest of just one party, is “platonic.” The parties disagree only as to whether their past relationship was, in fact, “romantic” or “platonic.”
We have no quarrel with the proposition that a “dating relationship” ordinarily refers to a “romantic,” as opposed to a “platonic” relationship between two people, as those words are today commonly understood.
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However, while contemporary
The graver danger presented by the simplistic proposition that a “dating relationship” is one involving a certain level of physical intimacy is that the need to establish such past intimacy in a public forum in order to obtain relief under the DVPA would almost certainly discourage many from seeking the relief that Act affords, though they be desperately in need of it. The amorous intentions or sexual expectations of the parties are undoubtedly important characteristics of a “dating relationship,” but the definition of such a relationship cannot be made to depend on the past sexual intimacies of the parties or the nature of such intimacies.
The failure of the Legislature to define the nature of the “dating relationship” it had in mind creates a daunting judicial problem. “Dating” can signify so many different types of relationships—some clearly within the ambit of the DVPA, some clearly not (see, e.g.,
People v. Elliott
(1966)
We commence our exegetical enterprise by looking to the law of other jurisdictions that have addressed the problem. Domestic violence prevention statutes in many other states employ language similar to that found in Family Code
The above statutory definitions limit the term “dating relationship” not just by requiring some showing of “affectional involvement” but by excluding casual social relationships. Massachusetts case law similаrly limits the reach of that state’s “substantive dating relationship” language. In one case, considering the scope of the “dating” relationship as relevant to a determination of probable cause in a criminal case, the court explained, “Mass.Gen.L.Ch. 209A exists to enable victims of domestic violence to distance themselves from their batterers. ... [¶] The ‘substantive dating relationship’ language of the statute is clearly a proxy for a close domestic relationship between an individual living with, or near, another.”
(White v. Town of Marblehead
(D.Mass. 1997)
Because they all relate to statutes similar to the DVPA, the foregoing legislative and judicial definitions of “dating relationship” are instructive as
to what the California Legislature most likely had in mind by its use of that phrase. Adopting the sense of those legislative and judicial prescriptions, and in light of the other classes of persons protected by our Legislature under the DVPA, we conclude that, for purposes of the Act, a “dating relationship” refers to serious courtship. It is a social relationship between two individuals who have or have had a reciprocally amorous and increasingly exclusive interest in one another, and shared expectation of the growth of that mutual interest, that
We do not think there ever was such a continuing and mutually committed emotional relationship between the parties before us. Appellant and respondent went on four social outings (on only one of which they were alone) and had telephone conversations, e-mail correspondence and contacts at the gym for a period of several months. Immediately after their first date, however, appellant told respondent she was not interested in a romantic relationship with him; their relationship was relatively brief and never exclusive, at least insofar as appellant was concerned, and respondent was immediately disabused of any expectation that an exclusive romantiс relationship might be established. The police report resulting from appellant’s complaint about respondent’s harassment stated that appellant described her relationship with respondent as “platonic” and indicated she had conveyed this sentiment to respondent. Appellant specifically corrected the police report’s listing of her as appellant’s “girlfriend,” stating she should be referred to as an “acquaintance.” Respondent’s declaration confirms that the parties expressly agreed to be no more than “friends” and relates appellant’s having reiterated this point by telling her family at the Christmas dinner that she and respondent were “just friends.” The prospect of a “dating relationship” was, in short, quashed almost at the outset.
This finding does not leave appellant without any relief. It must be remembered that finding the DVPA inаpplicable to a given instance of harassment or abuse does not leave the victim without remedy, as he or she can seek a temporary restraining order and injunction under Code of Civil Procedure
One of the chief differences between the relief available to appellant under Code of Civil Procedure
II.
Respondent seeks sanctions against appellant and her attorney, claiming the appeal is frivolous and arguing that appellant and her attorney improperly used legal procedures to harass and impose undue expense upon respondent, twice serving him in an unduly humiliating manner and taking advantage of respоndent’s attorney’s vacation to schedule the hearing on the Code of Civil Procedure
“[A]n appeal should be held to be frivolous only when it is prosecuted for an improper motive—to harass the respondent or delay the effect of an adverse judgment—or when it indisputably has no merit—when any reasonable attorney would agree that the appeal is totally and completely without merit.”
(In re Marriage of Flaherty
(1982)
While we have rejected appellant’s position on this appeal, we cannot say the appeal was frivolous. Respondent attempts to portray appellant as having acted in bad faith, stressing her reluctance to informally resolve the restraining order issue as well as the timing of her application for the civil restraining order and service of the order to show cause and the manner in which respondent was served with process in both the DVPA and civil harassment cases. This appeal, however, did raise a legitimate issue; indeed, definition of the scope of the DVPA by clarifying the meaning of the phrase “dating relationship” will affect cases other than this one. Additionally, while the fact that appellant is presently protected by the Code of Civil Procedure
Disposition
The trial court’s order dismissing the application for injunctive and other relief under the DVPA is affirmed. Respondent’s request for sanctions is denied. Costs to respondent.
Haerle, J., and Lambden, J., concurred.
Notes
Appellant also corrected the prior report’s erroneous statement that the parties’ first contact was in December 1996 rather than December 1997.
Appellant’s supplemental declaration was dated August 25 and filed on August 28. According to the declaration of respondent’s attorney, appellant’s supplemental declaration was filed after he proposed informal resolution of the matter to appellant’s attorney.
Pursuant to respondent’s request, we take judicial notice of the petition and other court documents and transcript related to the Code of Civil Procedure
Nor does Penal Code section 13700, from which this phrase in the definition of “domestic violence” was drawn. (Cal. Law Revision Com. com., 29E West’s Ann. Fam. Code (1994 ed.) foll.
We confine our analysis to the concept of a “dating relationship” rather than an “engagement relationship,” as the parties are not and never were engaged.
Standard dictionaries do not define a “dating relationship,” and the pertinent definition of a “date”—“[a]n appointment or engagement at a particular time, freq. with a person of the opposite sex, a social activity engaged in by two persons of opposite sex” (Oxford English Dict. (2d ed. CD-ROM 1994))—is not particulаrly useful. Moreover, contrary to this definition, we perceive no basis for limiting the reach of the DVPA to relationships between persons of opposite sex.
The Oxford English Dictionary, supra, provides five primary definitions of “romantic” when the word is used as an adjective. The most relevant states that “collocation of the adjective with love, lover, friendship, and the like, provide evidence of the emergence of its common present-day use to convey the idealistic character or quality of a love affair.” (Italics in original; for an interesting disquisition on the use of the word "romantic” in the English language, which goes back to the 17th century, see Barzun, From Dawn to Decadence: 500 Years of Western Cultural Life, 1500 to the Present (2000) pp. 467-469.)
The most pertinent definition of “platonic” provided by the Oxford English Dictionary, supra, states that the word is “[a]pplied to love or affection for one of the oрposite sex, of a purely spiritual character, and free from sensual desire.” It also notes that “platonic” was earlier used “to denote the kind of interest in young men with which Socrates was credited: cf. the last few pages of Plato’s Symposium. As thus originally used, it had no reference to women.”
Respondent’s declaration in the trial court described the service of the DVPA papers as follows: Minutes before a public meeting he was supposed to attend as staff liaison, the receptionist informed him there was someone to see him. In the reception area, in front of respondent’s coworkers, the visitor began to explain each of several court papers in a loud voice, asking “[w]ere you living with her?” and stating “[a]nd you have to appear in court on this date!” Respondent was distraught and began to cry in front of his coworkers; his branch chief took him and his supervisor into a private office, allowed him to take off the remainder of the day and had his supervisor attend the public meeting in his place.
With respect to the Code of Civil Procedure
According to the declaration of respondent’s attorney, just before the hearing on the DVPA application, he asked appellant’s attorney to discuss entering a stipulated restraining order, with a compromise on the attorney fees and restitution appellant was seeking, and was told appellant would not compromise on the financial issues. According to respondent’s attorney’s declaration submitted on this appeal, after the September 2 hearing he left a telephone message and wrote to appellant’s attorney, asking her to discuss working out the civil restraining order informally. In this letter, he informed appellant’s attorney that he would be on vacation from September 5 through 21.