Murray v. MurrayMurray v. Murray
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- Before:
- Shebell, Long, Landau
The opinion of the court was delivered by LANDAU, J.A.D.
This is an appeal by defendant George H. Murray from an order entered by the Family Part under the Prevention of Domestic Violence Act,
Defendant‘s complaint for divorce from the plaintiff was filed on July 16, 1992. That a divorce was imminently contemplated by defendant and known to plaintiff is shown by the only “harassment”
Endangering plaintiff‘s life, health, or well-being by: Threatening to take over the assets of the house in a divorce settlement. Victim stated that she knows her husband has been cheating on her and refuses to talk to her.
There was no prior history of domestic violence, according to the complaint.
Following a hearing on the complaint, the sole reason given by the trial judge to sustain the finding of harassment was “that over a period of a year on several occasions, more than — certainly more than one and I find more than three or four, that it‘s repeatedly been brought up to the plaintiff that she is not sexually attractive to him, he doesn‘t love her.... And I find that they are the types of statements that have been meant to belittle her and to demean her and inflict emotional abuse upon her.” There followed findings respecting support, mortgage payments, automobile, and the like. Defendant was ordered out of the house, and directed to make various payments. Plaintiff was given possession of a Volvo automobile as well as the matrimonial residence.
Defendant does not dispute telling his wife that he didn‘t love her or have sexual feelings for her. He says they attended marital counselling without success, and that he was merely responding honestly to his wife‘s inquiries. The only evidence of record which touched on plaintiff‘s fear of violence (there were no acts of physical violence) was plaintiff‘s testimony that she heard defendant say he might hit her if plaintiff tried to stop him from moving out or leaving her.1
There was no evidence of record to sustain a finding that the purpose of defendant‘s remarks was to repeatedly alarm or annoy the plaintiff, although it may have had that effect. Indeed, the domestic violence complaint and plaintiff‘s own testimony appear
The Legislative findings which undergird the Prevention of Domestic Violence Act are set forth in
We are concerned, too, with the serious policy implications of permitting allegations of this nature to be branded as domestic violence and used by either spouse to secure rulings on critical issues such as support, exclusion from marital residence and property disposition, particularly when aware that a matrimonial action is pending or about to begin.
As we read the findings, and the record, this defendant was tarred with the brush of domestic violence because he told his wife on a number of occasions that he planned to divorce and leave her, and that he no longer loved or felt attracted by her. One spouse has thus entered the pending matrimonial litigation with two strikes already called; spousal abuse and adverse disposition of support and property issues. The
We think it clear that pre-divorce statements respecting absence of affection or physical desire alone were not intended to be sufficient to fulfill the elements of purposeful alarm or serious
The order under review is reversed, and the Domestic Violence Complaint dismissed. We recommend that, if not heretofore addressed, the property and support issues treated in the Domestic Violence order be promptly considered in the pending divorce suit upon application to the Family Part.