Lusk v. Lusk

28 Mo. 91 | Mo. | 1859

Richardson, Judge,

delivered the opinion of the court.

The judgment of divorce rendered on the defendant’s cross-bill expressly removed the restriction on the right of the plaintiff to marry again, and as she has really secured all tliat she asked, it is no longer a practical question whether she was entitled to a judgment in her favor, and it is therefore unnecessary for us to consider it. We think, however, that the judgment should be modified so as to give her the care and custody of the children.

As a general proposition, the father is the guardian of his children, and entitled against all the world to their custody during their minority. Biit this is not an absolute right under all circumstances, and it is controlled in the sound discretion of the courts in reference to the best interests of the children. Our statute regulating the subject of divorce provides that the court shall make such order touching the care, custody and maintenance of the children, or any of them, as from the circumstances of the parties and the nature of the case shall be reasonable. If the party against whom the decree is rendered is unfit to be trusted with the care and education of the children, they ought to be assigned to the custody of the other parent; but it does not follow as a matter of course, that the party prevailing in the suit shall have the care of the children. No absolute rule is laid down for determining which of the parties shall keep the children, but “ the leading principle is to consult the good of the children rather than the gratification of the parents.” (Bishop, Mar. & Divorce, § 636.)

It appears in this case that when the defendant went to California, whore he remained more than seven years, the oldest child was about two years of age, and the other an infant, and that during all that time he rarely wrote a letter to his family, and never contributed any thing to their support. So long an absence would naturally to some extent alienate the children from him, and he would not perhaps feel so tender to them as if he had remained at home. It is shown, on the contrary, that during the defendant’s absence the children were under the exclusive care of the plaintiff; that she provided for all their wants ; watched faithfully over their education; was a kind and affectionate mother, and that they were in all respects well taken care of. They would naturally cling to her, as she would to them, and it would be unkind to them to take them from her. There, is not a breath of suspicion against her character, and nothing is disclosed by the evidence to justify the inference that she is not a proper person to protect their health, to provide for their comfort, to guard their morals and direct their education. Their happiness requires that they should be reared up together, and it would be cruel to separate them; and, considering their tender age, no one so well as their mother can give them that kind attention and assistance which they will daily need. The defendant of course can visit them and they may visit him, and as the separation is believed to be necessary for their good and not on accoixnt of any distrust of his parental regard for them, he will no doubt find it to be his pleasure, as it is his duty, to cultivate their affection for him and to contribute to their maintenance as he may be able and their necessities may require.

The judgment will be reversed and modified in conformity to this opinion;

Judge Scott concurring. Judge Napton absent.