JOHN CHRIS KIRIAKOU v. HEATHER KATHERINE KIRIAKOU
Record No. 0323-20-4
COURT OF APPEALS OF VIRGINIA
OCTOBER 13, 2020
GLEN A. HUFF
Present: Judges Beales, Huff and O‘Brien
Argued by videoconference
FROM THE CIRCUIT COURT OF ARLINGTON COUNTY
Louise M. DiMatteo, Judge
MEMORANDUM OPINION* BY JUDGE GLEN A. HUFF
Norman A. Thomas (Norman A. Thomas, PLLC, on briefs); for appellant.
Edward V. O‘Connor, Jr. (Edward V. O‘Connor, Jr., P.C., on brief), for appellee.
John Chris Kiriakou (“father“) appeals the order of the Circuit Court for the County of Arlington (the “trial court“), which, in relevant part, awarded Heather Katherine Kiriakou (“mother“) sole legal and physical custody of father and mother‘s three children. Additionally, father challenges the trial court‘s order requiring him to initiate revocation of the children‘s Greek citizenship.
Father contends that the trial court erred in two respects. First, father contends that the trial court‘s custody and visitation order was an abuse of discretion because it was not in the children‘s best interests and not otherwise supported by еvidence in the record. Second, father asserts that the trial court‘s order requiring him to initiate revocation of the children‘s Greek
This Court affirms the judgment of the trial court in part and reverses it in part. This Court affirms the trial court‘s custody and visitation order because the trial court did not abuse its discretion in fashioning that award. However, this Court reverses the trial court‘s order related to the children‘s Greek citizenship because that order was outside the scope of relief requested by mother in her pleadings.
I. BACKGROUND
On appeal, this Court views the evidence in the light mоst favorable to the prevailing party and does not “retry the facts or substitute [its] view of the facts for [that] of the trial court.” Congdon v. Congdon, 40 Va. App. 255, 266 (2003) (internal citations and quotation marks omitted). So viewed, the evidence is as follows:
After a marriage lasting approximately fifteen years, father and mother separated on May 16, 2017, and obtained a final order of divorce from the Arlington County Circuit Court on November 2, 2018. That final order of divorce incorporated the parties’ marital settlement agreement (“MSA“), which, among other things, provided for a temporary custody arrangement whereby father and mother shared joint legal and physical custody over the children.
Not long after the divorce, and under a belief that thе impetus for their divorce had been an alleged affair between mother and mother‘s current husband Nicholas Maan (“Maan“), father engaged in a series of actions that led to the relevant proceedings in this case. Father first obtained a computer belonging to mother and perused several emails between mother and Maan that contained sexual imagery and romantic discourse. In response, father hired a private investigator to follow mother and Maan and also sent both of them a number of explicit and accusatory emails outlining his disdain for them and their relationship. In addition, father
On July 18, 2019, mother filed a verified petition and affidavit for rule to show cause as well as a motion to modify legal and physical custody in the trial court. In those pleadings, mother alleged that father committed multiple breaches of the MSA and rеquested that (1) the trial court award her sole legal and physical custody of the children, (2) the trial court order father to submit to an independent psychological evaluation, and (3) the trial court award her appropriate fees and costs. On August 9, 2019, the trial court ordered a rule to show cause directed to father.
The trial court set the show cause matter for a hearing to be tried concurrently with the custody determination on January 27-28, 2020. The trial court also entered an order for an independent psychological and custodial evaluation and appointed Dr. Christopher H. Lane (“Dr. Lane“) to serve as an independent psychological evaluator for the purpоse of conducting evaluations of father and mother and to otherwise provide analysis to assist the trial court in making its custody determination.
While the custody and show cause proceedings were pending and shortly after the picture frame shattering incident, mother separately sought a two-year protective order against father in the juvenile and domestic relations district court (the “JDR court“), which was granted on August 2, 2019. Father appealed the JDR court‘s ruling to the Arlington County Circuit Court,
On January 24, 2020, Dr. Lane submitted his written report to the parties. That report was based on multiple psychological tests taken by mother and father, interviews with mother, father, and the children, as well as interviews with over thirty non-familial individuals.
Dr. Lane‘s report noted that both father and mother had “well-developed” parenting skills and also detailed the children‘s attachment to and affection for father and a desire to maintain the status quo with respect to his shared custody of them. Additionally, the report described the negative impact that father‘s behavioral patterns had on the children. Specifically, the report outlined father‘s habit of “denigrating” mother‘s character in the children‘s presence, which Dr. Lane concluded has “had an enormously unhealthy effect on the children‘s healing” from the fаllout of their parents’ separation. Additionally, the report described an unhealthy level of dependence father had on his children‘s loyalty and further identified that the children had taken on a “parentified” role in their relationship with father. Tying these concerns together, the report went on to state the following:
[T]his evaluation would support the contentions of [mother] that [father] has confused his own interests with those of his children, has unhealthily involved them in his hurt and in his anger, has inappropriately engendered or strengthened negative feelings on the part of the children toward [mother], has interfered with the healing of the children as he struggled with his own healing, and has exercised poor control in statements to the children, those made around the children, and those made to individuals who have an ongoing relationship with the children. While there is data that he has made some degree of progress in these domains during recent months, he is seen as still manifesting a worrisome self-justifying position and an inattentiveness to costly collateral damage as he pursues self-serving goals.
Notwithstanding his concerns with the state of father‘s relationship with the children, Dr. Lane recommended that father and mother continue sharing joint legal custody of the
Dr. Lane testified to his report and recommendations at trial and reiterated his findings and opinions in his report. Notably, Dr. Lane also suggested that visitation between father and the children take place in a therapeutic setting, where “boots-on-the-ground work between [father] and the children occur . . . [which] can be monitored by the therapist, it can be adjusted by the therapist[,] and it can be reported by the therapist.”1
In addition to Dr. Lane‘s testimony, the trial court received other evidence related to custody matters and the children‘s best interests. Among the other witnesses was father‘s psychiatrist Dr. Stephen Xenakis (“Dr. Xenakis“). Dr. Xenakis testified that father suffered from depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, hypertension, and diabetes. In his view, these medical illnesses diminished father‘s “ability to think and make decisions and act in a purposeful fashion and impair[] and interfеre[] with good functioning in [his] daily life.”
Although not mentioned in any of mother‘s pleadings, the issue of the children‘s Greek citizenship arose during mother‘s testimony. In her testimony, mother alleged that father
[Counsel:] Now, with this revelation today that [father] has gained Greek citizenship without your knowledge, what would you ask the Court to do?
[Mother:] Thrеe things. I would ask the Court to order [father] to do whatever is needed to revoke the citizenship. I would ask the Court to order that [father] provide me with all of the applications and paperwork that went into them acquiring Greek citizenship, [and provide] all of the proof that the revocation of their citizenship had, indeed, been followed through.
Mother did not seek leave to amend her pleadings to include factual allegations or requests for relief regarding the Greek citizenship issue at any point before or after this testimony.
In his testimony on the Greek citizenship issue, father admitted that he had applied for the children‘s Greek citizenship in 2008 and officially obtained it for them in 2011. Father dеnied that mother was unaware of the children‘s Greek citizenship and alleged that mother actually co-signed the documentation necessary to obtain that citizenship. Father stated that the primary reason for obtaining Greek citizenship for the children was for them to enjoy work permits in the European Union and to have the ability to go to any public university in the European Union for free. Father also alleged that he had successfully petitioned the Greek government to waive the children‘s military service.
After reviewing the evidence, the trial court determined that granting sole legal and physical custody to mother was in the best interests of the children. Additionally, the trial court ordered that fathеr‘s “visitation with the children, if any, shall take place only in a therapeutic
Although the trial court‘s custody order did not adopt Dr. Lane‘s recommendations in full, the trial court relied upon findings in Dr. Lane‘s report detailing the negative impact that father‘s continual denigration of mother had on the children‘s well-being, the degree to which father‘s behavior undermined the children‘s relationship with mother, as well as the report‘s conclusion that an unhealthy relationship of “enmeshment” between father and the children existed. Moreover, the trial court‘s visitation order adopted Dr. Lane‘s suggestion that visitation between father аnd the children take place in a therapeutic setting. The trial court also relied on evidence outside of Dr. Lane‘s report, including the existence of the protective order against father, the materials sent to Northrop Grumman Corporation by father, and the current state of father‘s mental health. Viewing the totality of the evidence, the trial court determined that mother exhibited superior judgment and parenting skills and was therefore properly suited to have sole custody of the children.
After offering the reasons for its child custody and visitation order from the bench, the trial court permitted Dr. Lane and Dr. Xenakis to ask clarifying questions regarding the scope of that order. Both doctors were initially concerned that the trial court‘s order gave the children‘s therapists control over custody and visitation decisions, which they intimated was a responsibility beyond the therapists’ qualifications and expertise. Additionally, Dr. Lane asked that the trial court clarify the precise expectation of the children‘s therapists so that the therapists would not confuse their role under the visitation order or run into potential ethical dilemmas flowing from their duties under that order.
In response to those concerns, the trial court explained that it was not the children‘s therapists who had ultimate authority over father‘s visitation with the children. Rather, the trial
On the Greek citizenship issue, the trial court ordered father to, within thirty days of January 29, 2020, “initiate revocation of the children‘s Greek citizenship” and to provide the court with “a copy of the revocation paperwork, and the original [citizenship] paperwork, if any, signed by [mother] seeking Greek citizenship for the children.” Father filed a motion for reconsideration on February 19, 2020, in which he argued that the trial court lacked jurisdiction to order the revocation of the children‘s Greek citizenship and that its order presented a legal impossibility because under Greek law, only the children could revoke their citizenship and that revocation could not occur until they reached the age of majority. The motion for reconsideration was denied on February 26, 2020.
This appeal followed.
II. STANDARD OF REVIEW
“In matters of custody, visitation, and related child care issues, the court‘s paramount concern is always the best interests of the child.” Farley v. Farley, 9 Va. App. 326, 327-28 (1990). In reviewing a trial court‘s child custody and visitation decision, this Court will reverse on appeal only upon a showing that the trial court abused its discretion. Armstrong v. Armstrong, 71 Va. App. 97, 102 (2019). Additionally, where, as here, a trial court “hears the evidence ore tenus, its finding is entitled to great weight and will not be disturbed on appeal unless plainly wrong or without evidence to support it.” Martin v. Pittsylvania Cty. Dep‘t of Soc. Servs., 3 Va. App. 15, 20 (1986).
III. ANALYSIS
A. Child Custody and Visitation Order
Father makes a series of arguments in support of his contention that the trial court‘s child custody and visitation order constituted an abuse of discretion. Each are addressed in turn.
1. The trial court did not abuse its discretion in differing with Dr. Lane‘s recommendation.
Father first argues that the trial court‘s custody order was an abuse of discretion to the extent it differed from Dr. Lane‘s recommendation. To that point, father concedes that the trial court was not bound by Dr. Lane‘s expert recommendations. Nonetheless, he argues that the trial court‘s deviation from Dr. Lane‘s recommendations was an abuse of discretion because Dr. Lane was the only witness to offer an opinion on the issue of child custody and that opinion was uncontradicted by any contrary opinion from any other expert witness.
This argument is without merit. It is well-settled that a trial court has “broad discretion in making decisions necessary to guard and to foster [children‘s] best interests.” Eaton v. Dep‘t of Soc. Servs., 66 Va. App. 317, 324 (2016) (quoting Farley v. Farley, 9 Va. App. 326, 328 (1990)). In exercising that discretion, a trial court is under no obligation to adopt a recommendation given
Even so, the trial court‘s decision, although not in agreement with Dr. Lane‘s ultimate recommendation, was based in substantial part on the findings made in Dr. Lane‘s report. The trial court noted that Dr. Lane‘s report outlined an unhealthy “enmeshment” between father and the children within which the children play a “parentified role” with father. The trial court also relied on Dr. Lane‘s description of father‘s continual denigration of mother to the children, which, in the view of both the trial court and Dr. Lane, has had an “enormously unhealthy [e]ffect on [the children‘s] healing from the divorce in general.” Additionally, the trial court‘s visitation order was in accordance with Dr. Lane‘s suggestion that visitation between father and the children take place in a therapeutic setting.
The trial court‘s ruling was also supported by other evidence in the record. To that end, the trial court relied on evidence such as the protective order against father, father‘s decision to send sexualized photos of mother to her place of employment, Dr. Xenakis‘s testimony as to father‘s compromised mental health, and father‘s efforts to undermine the children‘s relationship with mother. As such, this Court does not agree with father‘s assertion that the trial court‘s child custody decision was an abuse of discretion for lack of evidentiary support.
2. The trial court‘s order does not improperly delegate authority over visitation matters to the children‘s therapists.
Father next argues that the trial court‘s visitation order improperly delegates authority over visitation matters to the children‘s therapists. In particular, he claims that the trial court “repeatedly charged the children‘s therapists with responsibility to determine when the children
This argument mischaracterizes the trial court‘s order. The trial court did not, as father suggests, give the children‘s therapists ultimate authority over father‘s visitation with the children. Rather, the child custody order requires the children‘s therapists to monitor the children‘s progress in therapy, determine whether a therapy session where father is present would further the children‘s progress, and if so, to notify mother and give her the opportunity to either approve or disapprove of visitation between father and the children. In this way, it is mother, under the circuit court‘s order, who now has the day-to-day responsibility of deciding whether the children will have visitation with father.2
Moreover, to the extent father argues that the trial court‘s order requires the children‘s therapists to violate their professional and ethical obligations, this Court finds that no authority proffered by father supports that assertion. Father relies on an unpublished decision from this Court in Timmons v. Mutiso, No. 1158-17-4 (Va. Ct. App. Feb. 20, 2018), which he contends prevents child therapists from being charged with the responsibility of making custody or
3. The trial court‘s order does not deprive father of the ability to exercise visitation rights with the children.
Father next argues that the trial court‘s visitation order “deprives [him] of any lawful means to enforce his visitation rights.” In particular, he argues that, as the non-custodial parent, he “cannot inquire of the children‘s therapists or demand access to their records to determine (a) when and if they have recommended that he have visitation, or (b) whether [mother] has unreasonably withheld her consent to it.” He also contests that the order unduly grants mother “veto power” such that father may never have the opportunity to have visitation with his children if mother exercises such power in bad faith and against his interests. This Court disagrees.
Contrary to his assertion, father‘s status as the non-custodial parent does not bar him from inquiring of the children‘s therapists as to whether they have made any recommendations as
Likewise, this Court finds no error in the trial court‘s decision to give mother the responsibility of either approving or disapproving of the visitation recommendations given by the children‘s therapists. Although it is conceivable that mother could proceed in bad faith and unduly disapprove the visitation recommendations offered by the children‘s therapists, father‘s appropriate recourse in that situation would be to seek a modification of the trial court‘s custody and visitation order:
Once a court has ruled on matters relating to the custody and care of minor children, and visitation rights of the non-custodial parent, the court retains jurisdiction throughout the minority status of the child[ren] involved. The court, in the exercise of its sound discretion, may alter or change custody or the terms of visitation when subsequent events render such action appropriate for the child[ren‘s] welfare.
Eichelberger v. Eichelberger, 2 Va. App. 409, 412 (1986).4
In addition,
4. Father‘s argument regarding the application of the visitation order to the youngest child is waived.
Finally, father contends that the order as written makes it impossible for him to see the youngest child. Specifically, he argues that because a recommendation from the children‘s therapists is a condition precedent to him having any visitation with the children, the fact that the youngest child is currently without a therapist means that he will never be able to have visitation with that child.
This argument is beyond this Court‘s consideration because it was not asserted at the trial court and was raised for the first time in his reply briеf on appeal. Arguments not timely raised are deemed waived.
By neglecting to raise the issue of the visitation order‘s application to the youngest child until filing his reply brief, father deprived mother of any “meaningful opportunity to address arguments and authorities” that he intended to rely upon. Jeter, 44 Va. App. at 740. Accordingly, this Court holds that any argument based on the issue is waived.5
B. Greek Citizenship Revocation Order
Father contends that the trial court abused its discretion in ordering him to revoke the children‘s Greek citizenship and produce related documentation. Specifically, he argues that the trial сourt erred because no factual allegations or request for relief related to the children‘s Greek citizenship were presented in mother‘s pleadings and because mother never sought leave to amend her pleadings to request relief on the issue.6 For her part, mother concedes that the issue of the children‘s Greek citizenship was not raised in her pleadings and that she made no motion for leave to amend the pleadings to include that issue. Nevertheless, she argues that the trial court properly exercised its discretion by issuing the Greek citizenship order because revocation
This Court agrees with father and holds that the trial court abused its discretion in issuing the Greek citizenship order because that order was not based on any allegations or requests for relief made in mother‘s pleadings. Under well-settled Virginia law, a “litigant‘s pleadings are as essential as his proof, and a court may not award particular relief unless it is substantially in accord with the case asserted in those pleadings. Thus, a court is not permitted to enter a decree or judgment order based on facts not alleged or on a right not pleaded and claimed.” Dabney v. Augusta Mut. Ins. Co., 282 Va. 78, 86 (2011) (quoting Jenkins v. Bay House Assocs., 266 Va. 39, 43 (2003)). The purpose of pleadings is to “give notice to the opposing party of the nature and charactеr of the claim [against him], without which the most rudimentary due process safeguards would be denied.” Boyd v. Boyd, 2 Va. App. 16, 19 (1986).
Explained more thoroughly, the Supreme Court has said:
The basis of every right of recovery under our system of jurisprudence is a pleading setting forth facts warranting the granting of the relief sought. It is the sine qua non of every judgment or decree. No court can base its decree upon facts not alleged, nor render its judgment upon a right, however meritorious, which has not been pleaded and claimed. . . . Pleadings are as essential as proof, the one being unavailing without the other. . . . Every litigant is entitled to be told by his adversary in plain and explicit language what is his ground of complaint or defense. . . . The issues in a case are made by the pleadings, and not by the testimony of witnesses or other evidence.
Ted Lansing Supply Co. v. Royal Aluminum & Constr. Corp., 221 Va. 1139, 1141 (1981) (quoting Potts v. Mathieson Alkali Works, 165 Va. 196, 207 (1935)). Thus, a court is without authority to issue an order unless it is based upon pleadings before it.
Mother‘s pleadings made no factual allegations relating to the Greek citizenship issue either explicitly or implicitly. Furthermore, the crux of the special relief requested by mother in
That mother included a general prayer requesting any relief the trial court deemed necessary and appropriate is unavailing. A general prayer “will support relief only for those matters placed in controversy by the pleadings and, thus, any relief granted must be supported by allegations of material facts in the pleadings that will sustain such relief.” Jenkins v. Bay House Assocs., L.P., 266 Va. 39, 45 (2003); see also Gologanoff v. Gologanoff, 6 Va. App. 340, 346 (1988) (“The issues in a case are made by the pleadings . . . .“). Because mother did not make any factual allegations related to the Greek citizenship issue in her pleadings, any order involving the children‘s Greek citizenship based on mother‘s general prayer was outside the scope of what was put at issue in this case by mother‘s pleadings.
In short, while the Greek citizenship issue presented itself as a point of concern to mother in the midst of the trial proceedings, her appropriаte course of action to seek redress on the issue was to move to amend her pleadings, not to seek relief based on her testimony in the absence of amended pleadings. Because mother failed to do so, this Court holds that the trial court‘s order against father regarding the children‘s Greek citizenship was an abuse of discretion.
C. The Trial Court‘s Award for Attorney‘s Fees
Father seeks a reduction of the trial court‘s award of attorney‘s fees to mother. “An award of attorney‘s fees is a matter submitted to the sound discretion of the trial court and is reviewable on appeal only for an abuse of discretion.” Graves v. Graves, 4 Va. App. 326, 333 (1987). Additionally, the test for the appropriateness of a trial court‘s award of attorney‘s fees is “reasonableness under the circumstances.” Joynes v. Payne, 36 Va. App. 401, 429 (2001) (citing McGinnis v. McGinnis, 1 Va. App. 272, 277 (1985)). Applying those principles, there is no
D. Appellate Attorney‘s Fees
Both father and mother seek an award оf appellate attorney‘s fees. On appeal, this Court “may award” some or all of the fees requested or “remand the issue to the circuit court . . . for a determination thereof.”
IV. CONCLUSION
This Court affirms the trial court‘s child custody and visitation order, but reverses its order requiring father to initiate revocation of the children‘s Greek citizenship and to produce related documentation. The trial court‘s custody and visitation order did not constitute an abuse of discretion becаuse evidence in the record supports the order and the order was not otherwise impaired by reversible error. However, the trial court abused its discretion in ordering father to revoke the children‘s Greek citizenship and produce related documentation because mother never requested relief in her pleadings that in any way related to the children‘s Greek citizenship and never sought leave to amend her pleadings to request such relief.
Affirmed in part, and reversed in part.
