218 N.W. 559 | Minn. | 1928
Plaintiff at the trial withdrew the claim of maintenance for herself and was not awarded any. But the court directed defendant to pay to plaintiff $60 per month for the support of the children. We do not understand that the amount is attacked as excessive. The girls are of an age when their wishes are to be somewhat consulted in determining with whom to live, the parents living apart. There was no custody of children asked for by either party or given by the decree. Had there been the court would undoubtedly have awarded the custody to the mother, there being nothing to show that she was not a proper mother. By preference the home of the mother should be the home of young girls, and so also of the two-year old boy. The court cannot compel the parents to live together, but it can compel the father to support his minor children if able. Spencer v. Spencer,
Legal justification for one spouse's living apart from the other is such cruel and inhuman treatment as would constitute a cause for an absolute or limited divorce. However this court has also held that misconduct of the one toward the other, though not sufficient in degree to warrant granting divorce, may nevertheless be such as to justify temporarily living apart, so that the living apart would not be legal desertion furnishing a cause for divorce. Stocking v. Stocking,
Harding v. Harding,
When properly considered as to issues raised and litigated, cases like Stocking v. Stocking,
But estoppel by verdict is applicable to actions of divorce and actions for separate maintenance. This doctrine should be kept in mind when considering the proof herein. The former action of plaintiff for absolute divorce was on the ground of specified acts of cruelty. As to the acts so alleged the court found not only that they were not proved, but "specifically that the defendant was not guilty of the cruel and inhuman treatment towards the plaintiff as alleged in the complaint." It is difficult to escape the conclusion that the court found the specific acts alleged were not committed, for if they had been there was cruel and inhuman treatment as a matter of law. It seems to us that the learned trial court did not give sufficient effect to the findings in the former case as determinative of the nonexistence of the specific acts there alleged as cruel and inhuman treatment, and again alleged and relied on in this case.
Again, the court in the instant case does not find that either plaintiff's health or safety makes it necessary that she live separate from defendant. The finding is too vague as to what the misconduct of defendant was which justified her in refusing longer to live with him. Nor is anything definite contained in this part of the finding which purports to set out the only justification for the conclusion of law, viz:
"The court finds that the plaintiff cannot longer live with the defendant and maintain her self-respect and the court further finds *164 that the plaintiff is justified in living separate and apart from her husband, the defendant, under the circumstances set forth."
There are no circumstances set forth in the findings. We must then examine the evidence, applying the rule of estoppel by verdict — or, which is the same, by the findings in the former case (Wagener v. City of St. Paul,
Q. "This difficulty that you experienced with reference to his improper eating, did that seem to be in his breeding — did that seem to be characteristic of him?"
A. "Yes, it was just — he didn't realize he was doing it, I guess."
Q. "Now, has he been running around nude for the last five or six years?"
A. "No, sir."
Q. "He has been careless about himself?"
A. "No, he hasn't."
Q. "He has been telling you stories?"
A. "Not the last five years, no."
Q. "He hasn't been telling you dirty stories in the last five or six years?"
A. "No, sir."
Q. "He has made vulgar remarks during the last five or six years?"
A. "No, sir."
The vulgarity and obscenity charge should certainly upon the above admissions and his denials be rejected as a cause for her living *165 apart from him. So also should his table manners, which the evidence tends to show are limited to carelessness in serving so that the table cloth becomes quickly soiled, that he has been seen to put his knife in the jelly glass and once, when in a hurry to accommodate his neighbor and plaintiff by giving them a ride down town, he was seen thinning his cereal with milk or cream and drinking it. In view of plaintiff's experience with her mother's gift when first married, it is difficult to understand why her sensibilities should be shocked by the incident regarding like remedies later shown her by the husband. The inducements held out by defendant for resumption of marriage relations subsequent to the decision in the divorce suit need not be judged too harshly. Giving utterance to them in public does not indicate an over-delicacy of feeling on her part.
While it is true that the misconduct of a husband which justifies his wife in living apart from him may not warrant either an absolute or limited divorce, still the misconduct of the husband must be of a serious character to warrant granting the wife separate maintenance. Stocking v. Stocking,
Neither Grace v. Grace,
We are impressed with the thought that the learned trial court was right when he wrote his first "decision" directing findings to be drawn in favor of defendant, except as to support for the children, and erred when he changed his views.
The order denying a new trial is reversed.