161 Iowa 647 | Iowa | 1913
Plaintiff and defendant were married in 1906 and lived together until May 15, 1911. On May 24,1911, plaintiff commenced an action against defendant for separate maintenance, alleging cruel and inhuman treatment. The petition also prays for general equitable relief.
The parties lived together happily the first two or three years, when they were living together by themselves in Nebraska. They went to Davenport and for about three weeks lived in the same house with defendant’s parents as a part of the family. They then took rooms by themselves but in the same house with the parents. This arrangement was not entirely satisfactory to any of the parties; at least defendant’s parents were not entirely agreeable to plaintiff, nor was she to them. Plaintiff’s mother came on from Nebraska, taking a room near, but staying with plaintiff during the day. She and defendant were not congenial. They all seemed to be good people. The troubles seem to have started over matters which were not serious. The father complained that plaintiff used the telephone too much. Other small matters came up from time to time. Because of these and defendant’s alleged mistreatment of Her, she left him May 15th. At different times after this, before trial, and when the case was called for trial, plaintiff, in the presence of defendant, offered to live with him if he would provide a home for her apart from others. This was refused by the defendant. The trial in the district court was had May 31, 1912, and on June 8, 1912, the court made ite findings and found that plaintiff had not
The court did not attempt to require defendant to change his domicile. It held that the refusal of defendant to return to his wife or take her back, if persisted in, would constitute desertion on his part. In the hope that the defendant would stop and consider the situation and perhaps remember his marriage vows, which both he and his wife had apparently forgotten or not appreciated when made, the court gave him the opportunity to provide another home, but with the alternative that if he failed to do so and deserted his wife he should support her. The defendant could do either one. He chose to desert her, and the court very properly entered a decree for separate maintenance. The case is in some respects like Russell v. Russell, 150 Iowa, 137, and Harlow v. Harlow, 150 Iowa, 173.
Ordinarily the husband may select the domicile, but it must be a suitable one. Franklin v. Franklin, supra. We do not suppose counsel for appellant would contend that a husband, able to provide a good home, could arbitrarily seek to force a wife of refinement into a hovel or an immoral or improper place. This is mentioned only by way of illustration. The home of defendant’s parents was all that could be desired, so far as the building and furnishings were concerned, and the parents were in the highest degree respectable, so far as anything appears in the record, but they were elderly people, while these parties are young. It is a matter of common observation that it is often impossible for two related families to live happily together under one roof. In this instance there was more or less friction. - We think plaintiff’s request for a separate home was not unreasonable.
We have purposely refrained from quoting the evidence. These parties may even yet come to their senses and become reconciled. As stated by the trial court, plaintiff seems high spirited and exacting, defendant proud and sulky. Neither one is entirely blameless. They should have tried to make the best of the situation. Defendant is industrious and has good habits; plaintiff is a good housekeeper. Both are attractive and of good character. Thoughtfulness and forbearance, with a due regard for their duty and obligations to each other, would have saved them all their troubles.
In argument counsel for plaintiff ask for a further allowance for attorneys’ fees in this court, but no proper application therefor has been made.
There was no error, and the judgment of the district court is in all respects Affirmed.