[¶ 1] Diane and Mark Hendrickson’s 1995 divorce and subsequent child custody and visitation dispute are the subject of two prior appeals to this court,
Hendrickson v. Hendrickson,
I.
[¶ 2] Diane and Mark Hendrickson married in 1980 and purchased a home in Jamestown. Diane lived in Jamestown with their four children. Mark lived and worked in Dickinson, but lived with Diane and the children on weekends, holidays and vacations. The couple divorced in 1995. Diane received custody of the children and Mark was granted visitation. In the original decree, the trial court found the children were attached to their lives in Jamestown and had developed a warmer and more secure relationship with their mother than with their father, due substantially to the long-distance living arrangement. The trial court noted, “Mark and Diane effectively — even if not deliberately or knowingly — jointly decided in advance the issue of custody through the residential arrangements they voluntarily made.” The trial court issued a visitation schedule allowing Mark visitation two weekends per month and at Christmas. We affirmed the child custody award in
Hendrickson I,
concluding that it was not clearly erroneous in light of the family’s circumstances.
[¶ 3] On October 1, 1997, Mark filed a motion for change of custody asserting Diane was alienating the children from him. He filed the motion after disputes arose over visitation, which went unresolved despite the trial court’s modification of the visitation order. Several months before Mark’s motion of October 1, the trial court appointed Karen Mueller as guardian ad litem and directed her to evaluate the Hendrickson family. According to the report Mueller submitted, Diane believed herself completely blameless in the breakdown of her marriage and the ensuing child custody dispute. She considered herself the children’s sole caregiver and asserted she was “unaware of any parenting skills Mark might possess.” Diane admitted to Mueller that she hung up on Mark when he called and until he gave her $20,000 she would continue to do so. Mueller also reported on several occasions *899 assistance from police officers was required to complete a visitation exchange; at one exchange, Diane’s son-in-law verbally attacked Mueller, and at a second, one of the children obstinately dared her to “try to make me go.” Mueller explained Mark’s relationship with the children had been tenuous from the beginning because of his absence from the family home, and that Diane’s alienating behavior was causing additional, harmful estrangement between Mark and the children. In an order dated December 9, 1997, the trial court awarded custody of the children to Stuts-man County and ordered the family into therapy.
[¶ 4] Stutsman County, however, declined to take custody of the Hendrickson children. On February 24, 1998, the trial court issued another order, in which the court stated, “[tjhis is the most outrageous case that I have seen since I began law school twenty-five years ago.” The court also stated:
by deed and innuendo, Diane rewards the children’s rejection of their father making this perhaps the worst case of alienation syndrome in the history of the United States.... Her statement on the stand that she has “tried and tried” to encourage visitation is patently ridiculous.
[¶ 5] The court expressed a desire to send Diane to jail for her failure to comply with court orders, yet was concerned this would harm the children. Rather, the court ordered Mark’s child support payments to be placed in escrow. The order also stated Mark should continue to have reasonable visitation, but did not grant Mark custody because the relationship between the children and their father had been so poisoned.
[¶ 6] We reviewed that order upon Diane’s appeal and Mark’s cross-appeal in
Hendrickson II,
we recognize methods other than a change of custody should be used initially to remedy a parent’s misbehavior, ... we also recognize that, after exhausting other remedies, a change in custody may be the only method to correct the damage of a particularly stubborn and defiant custodial parent. If the alternative remedies fail, the district court should consider a change of custody.
Id. at ¶ 13.
[¶ 7] Just before the Hendrickson II appeal, Mark filed another motion to change custody on April 9, 1998, with a supporting affidavit by the guardian ad litem, Karen Mueller. Following that motion, Diane demanded a change of judge. The case was then reassigned to Judge Allan Schmalenberger. Following our remand, Judge Schmalenberger informed the parties that if Mark’s pending motion for change of custody were withdrawn, he could invalidate the demand for change of judge and reassign the case to Judge Hil-den to carry out this Court’s directions in Hendrickson II. Mark withdrew the motion, and on April 5, 1999, Judge Schmal-enberger reassigned the case to Judge Hil-den because “he is in the best position to understand the case and to carry out the directions of the North Dakota Supreme Court.”
[¶ 8] On April 26, 1999, Judge Hilden issued an order, first denying Diane’s motion for change of venue and then turning to consideration of our remand. In its order, the court found Diane had frustrated visitation between Mark and the children and had attempted to alienate the *900 children from their father. The court concluded there had been a significant change of circumstances following the original child custody determination. The court then stated:
This Court has exhausted remedies available to correct Diane Hendrickson’s misbehavior. Diane Hendrickson has proven, to be a stubborn and defiant custodial parent and the only option yet available is to change custody. Moreover, I find that it is in the best interest of the children that custody be changed and, therefore, I grant immediate custody of the Hendrickson children to their father, Mark Hendrickson. -
In addition, the trial court ordered that Diane have no visitation for one year after the custody transfer and required her to submit to counseling with a counselor chosen by Mark. Diane appeals from this order.
II.
[¶ 9] Diane asserts the trial court abused its discretion when it denied her motion for a change of venue. We disagree. Under N.D.C.C. § 28-04-07(3), a trial court may change the place of trial “[w]hen the convenience of witnesses and the ends of justice would be promoted by the change.” A motion for change of venue on grounds of convenience of witnesses and furtherance of the ends of justice is addressed to the sound judicial discretion of the court.
American State Bank of Dickinson v. Hoffelt,
[¶ 10] Diane asserts this case is similar to
Whitehead v. Whitehead,
in which we declared the denial of a motion for change of venue would be an abuse of discretion when both parties, their child, and all material witnesses lived outside the county where the action was then venued.
III.
[¶ 11] Diane contends the trial court’s decision to change custody was clearly erroneous and should be reversed. We analyze this issue under N.D.C.C. § 14-09-06.6, which imposes limitations on post-judgment custody modifications. We conclude the trial court’s order was supported by the evidence. We determine, however, the order should be modified to allow Diane supervised visitation.
A.
[¶ 12] Diane submits the trial court erroneously used a change of child custody as a contempt sanction. Further, Diane asserts Mark’s withdrawal of the April 9, 1998, motion for change of custody left no such request pending, so that the trial court was without power to change custody. Diane also contends, even if such a motion was properly before the court, it could not order the change without first holding an evidentiary hearing. Diane misunderstands the trial court’s order and *901 the procedural stance of the action following our remand.
[¶ 13] We first address Diane’s contempt argument. The trial court’s April 26,1999, order does not find Diane in contempt. The order contains no indication the trial court used a change of custody as a contempt sanction.
[¶ 14] Second, the withdrawal of Mark’s April 9, 1998, motion for change of custody did not divest the trial court of jurisdiction to consider the custody issue on remand from this Court. The appeal in Hendrickson II included a cross-appeal by Mark asserting the court should have granted his motion for change of custody. Our remand encompassed that issue and allowed the trial court to reexamine its decision on child custody. When the case returned to the trial court on remand, the issue was properly before the court.
[¶ 15] Third, the order appealed from in
Hendrickson II
was preceded by a full evidentiary hearing and submission of a guardian ad litem’s report. Our decision in
Hendrickson II
clearly contemplated custody might be changed upon remand.
B.
[¶ 16] Diane next argues the change of custody to Mark was clearly erroneous because it was unsupported by the evidence. We disagree. When a trial court entertains a motion to change custody of children of divorced spouses, the judge must determine two issues: whether or not there has been a significant change in circumstances since the original divorce decree and custody award and, if so, whether or not those changed circumstances compel or require a change in custody to foster the best interests of the child.
Mosbrucker v. Mosbrucker,
[¶ 17] In the order of April 26, 1999, the trial court expressly concluded both elements required for a change of custody existed: the circumstances significantly changed after the original child custody award and the changed circumstances required a change in custody in the best interests of the children. Supporting these conclusions were the trial court’s findings that Diane frustrated both the original and subsequent visitation orders and attempted to alienate the children from their father. Specifically, the court noted Diane’s removal of the children from the home at scheduled visitation times, her refusal to allow Mark to take the children for visitation, and her refusal to make visitation arrangements. Testimony from the record supports these findings, as does the guardian ad litem’s report, which states Diane’s alienating behavior was “indicative of an unhealthy parental figure.” Further, the court noted Diane had numerous opportunities to change her behavior and failed to do so.
[¶ 18] In
Blotske v. Leidholm,
we stated “frustration of visitation does not alone constitute a sufficient change in circumstances to warrant a change in custody,” and a court should first resort to a more rigid visitation schedule, rather than change custody.
[¶ 19] While the trial court did not expressly find Diane’s persistent frustration of visitation worked against the best interests of her children, we can discern the rationale for the court’s conclusion from inference and deduction, so we need not remand for the court to clarify its finding.
Holtz,
[¶ 20] In her reply brief, Diane asserts the trial court erred because it did not allow her to cross-examine the guardian ad litem regarding her report. We do not address issues raised for the first time in a reply brief because, under Rule 28(c), N.D.R.App.P., a reply brief must be confined to new matter raised in the appel-lee’s brief.
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Friedt v. Moseanko,
C.
[¶ 21] Though we conclude the change of custody was proper and we sympathize with the trial court’s frustration, we do not believe Diane should be deprived of all visitation for one year. We have stated visitation between a non-custodial parent and a child is presumed to be in the child’s best interests and that it is not merely a privilege of the non-custodial parent, but a right of the child.
Blotske,
IV.
[¶ 22] Diane next asserts the trial court abused its discretion when it ordered her to see a counselor of Mark’s choosing. A trial court abuses its discretion only when it acts in an arbitrary, unreasonable, or unconscionable manner, or when its decision is not the product of a rational mental process leading to a reasoned determination.
Krizan v. Krizan,
[¶23] In
Johnson,
we reviewed a trial court order requiring the parties’ children to receive counseling to deal with problems arising from visitation.
[¶ 24] In this case, we conclude the trial court correctly determined Diane’s behavior merited counseling. We also agree Diane’s continual defiance of court orders suggests she should not be allowed to choose her own counselor, for fear she will frustrate the court’s goals. We do not agree, however, the situation will be best served by allowing Diane’s ex-husband to choose her counselor. We, therefore, direct the trial court to obtain from both parties a list of qualified counselors. The trial court should then choose Diane’s counselor from among those named.
V.
[¶ 25] This Court recognizes the difficulty divorced spouses encounter when trying to resolve post-marital disputes regarding their children. We wish to emphasize, however, divorced parents may not use their children as pawns in their battles. Children benefit from healthy relationships with both parents; divorced parents must seek to facilitate such bonds. When a custodial parent deprives a child of the right to have contact with the noncustodial parent, the custodial parent may lose custody. We, therefore, affirm the trial court’s order changing custody to Mark and denying Diane’s motion for a change of venue. We reverse and remand for a modification of the order to allow Diane supervised visitation and for the trial court to choose Diane’s counselor.
Notes
. We recently considered a party's right to cross-examine an investigator in an evidentia-ry hearing on a motion to change custody.
Quame v. Quame
