Focks v. Munger

20 N.M. 335 | N.M. | 1915

OPINION OF THE COURT.

BOBEETS, C. J.

(after stating the facts as above).— Appellee concedes that the adoption proceedings are not binding upon appellant, as she was not made a party or served with notice therein. This being true, the only question for determination here is whether, upon the facts as disclosed by the record and found by the court, judgment was properly rendered for the respondent.

[1] It is true the trial court expressed the conclusion, upon the facts found and after an interview with the child, that “in the judgment of the court the best interests and welfare of the child requires that he be left in the care and custody of tire defendant, Mary Mfunger, and not taken from that care and custody”; but, if this conclusion is not supported by the facts, it can have no bearingupon the decision here. There was no dispute as. to the facts in the case. Both the mother and Mrs. Munger, the respondent, were shown to be most excellent women, and suitable and proper persons to have the care and custody of children. The moral influence in both homes was apparently above reproach, and, while neither the petitioner nor the respondent was wealthy, yet each was shown to have sufficient resources to enable her to properly care for the child. It is true the child expressed a desire to the trial judge to be allowed to remain with his foster mother; but this was only natural, because he was taken from his own mother when but two or three years of age, and naturally looked upon her as a stranger. He had received from Mrs. Munger the kindest of treatment, and returned it with his love and affection. We do not believe, however, that the expressed desire of a child, 10 years of age, should control; for it is a matter of common knowledge that children of this age bestow their afeotions upon those who are kind to them, and soon forgot their parents, when they are taken from them by death or other causes. In the case of Moore v. Christian, 56 Miss. 408, 31 Am. Rep. 375, the court said:

“The boy, it is true, expresses a preference to remain with the appellee; but, while in doubtful cases the wishes of a child of this age will be sought, and to some extent be observed, we cannot for a moment agree that a boy of 13 can be allowed, at pleasure, to abandon his filial duties, and select elsewhere a home more agreeable either to his desires or his wordly interests. So to hold -would simply be to offer a premium to the children of the poor to shirk the duties to which their station in life has called them, and to permit them, at the sacrifice of all the natural affections, to set about bettering their condition, at a period of life when the law dedicates both their persons and their services to parental control.”

[2] This being true, we must eliminate the expressed desire of the child from consideration, unless it appears from the evidence that there is a doubt as to the capability of the natural mother to care for the child in a proper manner. No such doubt exists in this case; therefore we are relegated to the simple question as to which of the two women, both shown to be equally capable and worthy, should the custody of the child have been given — one being the natural mother, the other the foster mother, of the child. On this question there can be no doubt but that the natural mother is entitled to its custody. Any other rule would run counter to the law of nature and to every emotion of the human heart. While Mrs. Munger is doubtless deeply attached to the boy and-loves him devotedly, yet the mother who gave him birth, and suckled him as a babjq and from whom he was stolen, has the first claim upon him, under both the human and divine law, unless by her dissolute life, or for other reasons, she has forfeited this claim.

This case is to be distinguished from those cases, wherein the parents have surrendered voluntarily the custody of their child, or children, to others, who have cared for them for years, when the parents seek to recover them. In such eases some of the courts refuse to aid them. 'Here the child was stolen from tire mother, who ever since has expended all the money she could spare in a ceaseless search for him, which was finally rewarded by finding him in the possession of the respondent.

,[3] If it be assumed that in this case, under the peerdiar facts which exist, the court could properly enter upon an inquiry as to what would be for the best interest of the child, it must likewise be apparent that the burden of showing that the welfare of the child would be best subserved by allowing it to remain with its adopted mother would be upon her, and not upon the natural mother to show that its best interests would be subserved by awarding her its custody. . Any other rule would place the parent at a decided disadvantage, and would enable strangers to take and hold possession of children, unless the parents were able to establish that the children would be better eared for and raised by them than by the parties having them in custody. The presumption is that the child will be better cared for by its own parents than by strangers, and therefore it is incumbent upon the stranger to show to the contrary, if he would retain the custody of the child under this rule. Weir v. Marley, 99 Mo. 484, 12 S. W. 798, 6 L. R. A. 672; State v. Deaton, 93 Tex. 243, 54 S. W. 901. In State v. Richardson, 40 N. H. 272, the court said:

“The discretion to be exercised is not an arbitrary one; but, in the absence of any positive disqualification of the father for tlje proper discharge of his parental duties, he has, as it seems to us, a paramount right to the custody of his infant child, which no court is at liberty to disregard. And while we are bound also to- regárd the permanent interests and welfare of the child, it is to be presumed that its interests and welfare will be best -promoted by continuing that guardianship which the law had provided, until it is made plainly to appear that the father is no longer worthy of the trust.”

“A mother of high character, who was well able to- take care of her infant daughter, was entitled to her custody, though parties who had attempted to adopt the child under proceedings subsequently declared void were in better pecuniary circumstances than the mother.” Carter v. Botts, 77 Nan. 765, 93 Pac. 584.

For other cases in which the courts have held similarly, see Com. v. Briggs, 33 Mass. (16 Pick.) 203; Terry v. Johnson, 73 Neb. 653, 103 N. W. 319; Sloan v. Jones, 130 Ga. 836, 62 S. E. 21; Ex parte Jones, 153 N. C. 312, 62 S. E. 217, 138 Am. St. Rep. 670; Hammond v. Hammond, 90 Ga. 527, 16 S. E. 265; Wakefield v. Ives, 35 Iowa, 238.

In this case the burden was upon the appellee to show that the natural mother, because of some vice, or some other lawful reason, was not the proper person to have the care and custody of her child. This she failed to do, and the court found:

“That said petitioner, Mrs. F. A. Foeks, has been a good, responsible, and worthy mother, and one against whose character or capacity to take care of said child, Wallace Peters, there are no charges.”

Such being the state of the case, the trial court should .have awarded the custody of the child to the appellant.

The judgment of the trial court will be reversed, with instructions to enter judgment awarding the custody of the child, Wallace Peters, to the petitioner, Mrs. F. A. Foeks; and it is so ordered.

Hanna and Parker, J.J., concur.