Here is the case in outline. After divorce, custody of the two minor children of the marriage was granted to the mother, with visitation rights to the father. The mother, a member of a Congregational church, later complained that the father, who had become a Jehovah’s Witness, was indoctrinating the children in that faith, and that this confused and disoriented the children and in some degree alienated them from her. A judge of the Probate Court entered judgment modifying the visitation provisions of the divorce judgment in effect to forbid visitation unless *233 the father refrained from instructing the children in his religion. The father appealed, and we transferred the case here on our own motion for direct review. Holding that the evidence brought forward was not sufficient to support the judge’s disposition, we reverse the judgment and remand for further proceedings (if the mother should elect) at which the facts, including particularly those bearing on the physical and emotional consequences to the children, may be more fully developed.
1. The question whether or how to accommodate diverse religious practices of parents, living apart, in the upbringing of minor children, is a not unfamiliar one in State courts, but has not had much аttention here. Typical is the approach taken in a recent case,
In re Marriage of Murga,
To enlarge on this. The parents together have freedom of religious expression and practice which enters into their liberty to manage the familial relationships. See
Custody of a Minor,
If the dominating goal of the enterprise is to serve a child’s best interests, as the cases asseverate (see
Vilakazi
v.
Maxie, supra
at 409; cf. G. L. c. 208, § 31 [as to awards of custody]), then it might be thought to follow that a policy of stability or repose should be adopted by which the child would be exposed to but one religion (presumably that of the custodial parent) at whatever cost to the “liberties” of the othеr parent.
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The law, however, tolerates and even encourages up to a point the child’s exposure to the religious influences of both parents although they are divided in their faiths. This, we think, is because the law sees a value in “frequent and continuing contact” of the child with both its parents
(Murga, supra,
2. The parents at bar, Diane and Wayne Felton, were married in September, 1967, at the respective ages of twen *236 ty and twenty-three. Deborah was born to them in March, 1971, and Jennifer in May, 1974. Wayne began to live apart from the family in April, 1976, on an informal arrangement that left custody with Diane and allowed liberal visitation to Wayne. The divorce judgment nisi of June 1, 1977, continued custody and visitation on a similar agreed basis. 4 The orientation of the family had been Protestant, and what religious experience or training the children received was at the Foster Memorial Church (Congregational) in Springfield.
Sometime in summer or fall, 1976, soon after the separation, Wayne beсame interested in the Jehovah’s Witnesses, which on this record may be described as a Protestant sect of fundamentalist doctrine with strict attachment to the Biblical texts. 5 By the time the divorce judgment became absolute in December, 1977, Wayne was committed to these precepts, a commitment probably strengthened by his marriage to Gail, a Jehovah’s Witness, in the same month. It was not until May, 1978, however, thаt he took the step of being baptized as a Witness.
According to Diane’s later testimony, she knew of Wayne’s new religious interest around the time of the separation. In the last months of 1977 she became apprehensive of the effect on the children of the religious instruction imparted to them by their father during the periods of visitation. She remonstrated with Wayne about this in October or November, 1977. Therе was an abortive effort, about mid-March, 1978, for the two to meet to discuss the matter. When, on April 8, 1978, Wayne and Gail, on a visitation day, took the children to a lengthy “family” convention of Jehovah’s Witnesses, Diane decided to take a firm *237 stand and refused to allow further visitation, permitting Wayne only weekly telephone conversations with the children. On April 28, 1978, Wayne commenced contempt proceedings against Diane, in response to which Diane sought a change of the visitation part of the divorce judgment. Following a pretrial conference, the probate judge on January 11, 1979, made an interim order suspending Wayne’s visitation rights. An evidential hearing took place on January 30, 1979, resulting in dismissal of the contempt application and entry of judgment the same day: 6 “[Sjaid defendant [Wayne Felton] shall hereafter have the right to visit and to take Deborah Jean Felton and Jennifer Lynn Felton, minor children of said parties, at reasonable times, provided that he refrains from giving his children any religious training or education which shall be in conflict or contrary with the religious training and beliefs of the custodial parent.” This on its face would require subtle interpretation and raise infinite difficulties of enforcemеnt, but the intent in substance was to forbid religious instruction of the children by Wayne or his involving them in religious practice. 7
The hearing had rambled through many pages of transcript. 8 When the mere chatter or banter is put aside, we find a relatively small bundle of relevant material. From Diane’s testimony it appeared that she disliked what she took to be Jehovah’s Witnesses’ doctrine and style, and her negative feelings were probably communicated to the then seven-yеar old Deborah (Jennifer at age four hardly figured). What especially concerned Diane was that the Witnesses did not celebrate birthdays, Christmas included, *238 and regarded Halloween and Santa Claus as atavisms to be shunned. So also the Witnesses were negative with respect to the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy. Diane thought Wayne should not be impairing Deborah’s enjoyment of birthdays and holidays or puncturing hеr fantasies — there would be time for disillusionment as she grew up. Diane at the family home celebrated birthdays and carried on in the other conventional ways with the children. Their upbringing on Diane’s side was not intensely religious but was Congregational as far as it went, with attendance at Sunday school and Bible reading there. In Diane’s view, the Bible reading on Wayne’s side (about the exact nature of which neither she nоr Wayne actually testified in detail) was too strict or literal and not suited to young children. She thought it detracted from Wayne’s “knowing” the children. Similarly attendance from morning to afternoon at the April 8 convention (described only sketchily in the testimony) in her estimation was wrong for children. Deborah, Diane said, was upset and confused; this was largely through reluctance to recount to her mother what happened during visits with her father, presumably because she sensed her mother’s disapproval of that regime.
So much for Diane’s testimony. Wayne in his testimony verified that the doctrine of his church forbade birthday celebrations and so forth and bound him to instruct the children in his religion with its emphasis on strict reading of, and implicit belief in Biblical text. He held that those who deviated from this text and the direct derivations from it were “wrong,” but he did not depreciate or lessen them on account of such errors. It was not true that the children’s visits consisted only of Bible lessons and other religious instruction: the children were entertained by being taken to the movies on occasion, by games played with Gail’s young sons, and other diversions. Deborah did not seem to Wayne to be upset, and there was love between his daughters and himself (this seemed cоnceded by Diane) , 9
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3. We apply the words of
Schuler
v.
Schuler,
We have noted the meagerness of the evidence on such elementary points as the precise manner of Wayne’s Bible lessons. The more striking weakness is a failure of proof about Deborah’s physical and emotional condition or about any causal connections between her visits with her father and that condition, such as it may have been. General testimony by Diane that the child was upset or confused (and that testimony was contradicted by testimony of like generality on the part of Wayne) will not suffice. See
Compton
v.
Gilmore, supra,
We conclude the discussion of the inadequacy of the record to basе the judgment by referring to a pair of cases comparable to the present. A trial judge in
Robertson
v.
Robertson, supra,
had forbidden the father, a Jehovah’s Witness, to discuss his beliefs with his children during visitation. This order was grounded on the custodial mother’s affidavit that the father’s teachings “confuse and alarm [the] children” and “have a detrimental and confusing impact upon [their] welfare.”
Id.
at 427. Pointed to specifically was the father’s teaching about holidays which, according to the mother, “causes a great deal of trauma for the children at school because they feel guilty.”
Id.
In reversing the order and remanding for further proceedings, the appellate court said the case called for a
“factual
showing, not mere conclusions and speculation” (court’s emphasis).
Id.
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In
In re Marriage of Murga, supra,
4. Upon the reversal of the judgment of modification appealed from (which will have the effect of restoring the оriginal judgment) and remand of the case to the Probate Court, Diane may, if so advised, again apply for modifica
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tion upon additional and updated evidence. A suggestion of the kind of proof that might be influential on either side, and the likely sources of such proof, appears by implication in
Pope
v.
Pope, supra,
Some two years will have elapsеd between the judgment appealed from and the coming down of this opinion. We do not know how circumstances may have changed in the meanwhile. It will be for the probate judge to consider upon competent proof whether some order adjusting the visitation provisions of the original judgment would be advisable during an interim period, pending the result of any further hearings that may be in prospeсt on the mother’s application. Cf.
Osier
v.
Osier, supra,
Judgment reversed.
Notes
Indeed there are situations where even the joint wishes of the parents are disregarded by the courts in order to avert threatened or real harm to the child. See
Custody of a Minor,
The parties in the present case do not challenge this or other policies underlying the current doctrines described in text, which in turn rest on common psychologic beliefs.
See J. Goldstein, A. Freud, & A. Solnit, Beyond thе Best Interests of the Child 38,116-133 (2d ed. 1979), for support of the idea that in case of difference between divorced parents as to upbringing of their children, the custodial parent should have virtually full command, including denial of visitation to the other. But see
Seneca
v.
Seneca,
This last point is developed in
Osier
v.
Osier,
Wayne’s visitation rights appear in the agreement thus: “a. Between 9:00 a.m. and 5:00 p.m. b. Alternate Saturdays and Sundays c. One wеek-end per month d. One week during the year, both children for vacation e. Holidays and birthdays on an alternate basis.”
We hew to the record, which might not accord with a theologian’s description. No point has been made in this case of ideas about blood transfusion or flag salute associated with the Witnesses.
There was an unfortunate delay in the review of this case because of a mixuр in the defendant’s perfection of the appeal in the Appeals Court.
Thus the judge said Wayne was not to read Bible with the children or take them to church services (or even cite to them the Ten Commandments) .
A further provision of the judgment of January 30, 1979, is mentioned at n.12 below.
A few acrimonious exchanges, some aimless discussion of church doctrine, and a number of lengthy interjections by the judge might better have been avoided.
There was also brief testimony by Gail Felton. She sought to picture Diane as balefully influencing the children and deliberately turning them *239 against their father. Gail said that when Deborah told her on April 8 that she feared telling her mother that she was at the convention, she, Gail, indicated that Deborah need not report this when she got home. Gail’s testimony merely adds to the difficulty on the presеnt record of making a satisfactory estimate of the children’s state of mind.
The father allowed to stand and did not appeal from a provision of the order, otherwise favorable to him, forbidding him to discuss religion with the boy during their weekly telephone conversations.
In
Morris
v.
Morris,
In
Vilakazi
v.
Maxie,
The judgment to be reversed stated that “upon request of either of said parties, said visitations shall be monitored” by a named probation officer. What was intended is unclear, but the provision seems to look to assuring enforcement of the judgment rather than to call for investigation that might lead to the court’s approving a changed regime.
