Plаintiff Sue Ellen Estroff appeals from the district court’s 17 November 2006 order dismissing her claim for joint custody of two children bom to her former domestic partner, defendant Srobona Tublu Chatterjee. This appeal is resolved by the principles set forth in our opinion filed this same date in
Mason v. Dwinnell,
As in many custody cases, the struggling of adults over children raises concern regarding the consequences of the rulings for the children involved. Our General Assembly acted on this concern by mandating that disputes over custody be resolved solely by application of the “best interest of the child” standard.
See
N.C. Gen. Stat. § 50-13.2(a) (2007). Nevertheless, our federal and state constitutions, as construed by the United States and North Carolina Supreme Courts, do not allow this standard to be used as between a legal parent and a third party unless the evidence establishes that the legal parent acted in a manner inconsistent with his or her constitutionally-
In this case, we hold that the trial court was entitled to conclude, based on the evidence presented at trial and its findings of fact, that Chatterjee did not engage in conduct inconsistent with her constitutionally-protected status. As a result, we affirm the trial court’s order dismissing Estroff’s custody action.
Facts
The custody dispute in this case arises from the relationship between Estroff and Chatterjee, who were domestic partners for approximately eight years. The trial court made the following findings of fact.
Estroff is a university professor and Chatterjee is a medical doctor. The two met when Chatterjee, a graduate student at the time, took a seminar taught by Estroff. After Chatterjee completed the seminar, the. two women entered into an intimate relationship. At the time the relationship began, Estroff was 44 years old and Chatterjee was 30.
The women lived together from June 1996 until January 2003. In May 1997, the couple bought a house together. Prior to the purchase of the residence, Estroff and Chatterjee signed an agreement establishing each person’s rights and responsibilities with respect to the residence and identifying each individual’s personal property. Simultaneously, each woman signed a document appointing the other as her attorney-in-fact. Estroff executed a health care power of attorney naming Chatterjee as her аttorney-in-fact; Chatterjee did not do the same. Although they never discussed having a commitment ceremony, the two women identified themselves as a couple, and it was well-known by their families and select friends that the women were in an intimate relationship.
In 1997, Chatterjee, who was then 32, decided that she wanted to conceive a child. Estroff had previously chosen not to have children herself. When Chatterjee asked whether Estroff had any objection, Estroff responded that because it was Chatterjee’s body, it was her
Chatterjee first asked a long-time friend to be the sperm donor because it was important to her that her child know and have a relationship with his or her biological father. When the friend declined, Chatterjee decided to use an anonymous sperm donor from a particular sperm bank. While family and friends helped Chatterjee review several profiles, Chatterjee ultimately chose the donor. Among her reasons for selecting the particular donor was the donor’s willingness to meet any child when he or she becаme an adult.
A joint credit card for the couple paid for the purchase of the sperm. Estroff also went to medical appointments with a reproductive specialist and with an obstetrician for pre-natal care. Estroff learned how to perform the artificial insemination and did so when Chatterjee’s physician could not.
After a miscarriage, Chatterjee became pregnant in September 2000 with twins. When Chatterjee was required to go on bed rest in March 2001, her mother came to stay with her and became her primary caretaker. During this time, Chatterjee began to feel concerned about her relationship with Estroff. Estroff, however, announced to her colleagues and friends that Chatterjee was going to have twins and that they would be raising the children together. The trial court found that Chatterjee never made similar pronouncements to her colleagues and was uncomfortable when Estroff did so. Nonetheless, Chatterjee did not express her objections or feelings to Estroff.
Before the twins’ birth, Estroff requested and Chatterjee agreed to give the children Estroff’s last name as their middle names. When it came time for the twins to be born, Estroff and Chatterjee’s mother both accompanied Chatterjee to the hospital. Estroff was in the delivery room when the children were bom and held them before Chatterjee did. When, however, hospital staff referred to Estroff as the other “mom,” Chatterjee objected to Estroff’s being called a “mom,” and, as a result, Estroff asked the staff to stop referring to her as a “mom.”
Because the children were born prematurely, they required around-the-clock care. When they first came home from the hospital, both Chatterjee’s mother and Estroff helped Chatterjee care for the twins. After Chatterjee’s mother left, Estroff and Chatterjee shared
Estroff took the children to university events and held the children out as her own. Estroff helped financially support and care for the children. The women jointly interviewed applicants for a nanny and decided who to hire. Chatterjee, however, reminded Estroff that Estroff was not the mother of the children and that Chatterjee was and always would be their only mother.
In early 2002, Chatterjee finally decided to terminate her relationship with Estroff and began looking for a separate residence. After moving to a new house in January 2003, approximately 18 months after the birth of the twins, Chatterjee worked with a parental coach to develop a structured schedule so that the children were in Estroff’s custody approximately half of every week. According to the trial court’s findings, “[i]t was [Chatterjee’s] intent to gradually reduce the time the children would spend with [Estroff] as they became settled and at ease in their new home.”
In the spring of 2005, Chatterjee told Estroff that she would no longer be allowed to spend time with the twins more than one night a week. In response, on 26 May 2005, Estroff sued seeking joint custody, recognition of her parеntal status, and reinstatement of the original visitation schedule. Chatterjee subsequently moved to dismiss for lack of standing and failure to state a claim. The trial court denied the motion to dismiss in a 3 August 2005 order. Beginning on 17 April 2006, the trial court held a two-week trial and ultimately dismissed Estroff’s claims.
The trial court entered its order on 17 November 2006. With respect to Estroff’s status, the trial court found:
While [Estroff] has played a unique and special role in the lives of [Chatterjee’s] children, she is neither a biological nor an adoptive parent of [the twins]. [Estroff] is not a “parent by estoppel” nor a “de facto parent”. There was never a legal nor contractual written or verbal agreement between [Estroff] and [Chatterjee] that [Estroff] was a parent, custodian or legal guardian. Moreover, [Estroff] and [Chatterjee] never discussed entering into a parenting or custodial agreement or filing a friendly lawsuit to attempt to formally provide [Estroff] with parental or custodial rights. [Chatterjee] never would have agreed to such a request if it had been made by [Estroff]. [Chatterjee] would never have agreed tobestow on [Estroff] or anyone else any parental or custodial rights with regard to her children.
With respect to Chatterjeе, the trial court found that she had “not conveyed or relinquished custody or parental status to [Estroff] by her conduct and/or by her actions.”
The court then concluded that “[Chatterjee], as the biological parent of [the twins] has a constitutionally-protected right to the care, custody, and control of her children under the Fourteenth Amendment to the Constitution of the United States.” Further, according to the trial court, “[Estroff] has failed to establish by clear and convincing evidence that [Chatterjee] has engaged in conduct inconsistent with her constitutionally-protected status as a parent or otherwise forfeited her constitutionally-protected status as a parent.”
On 27 November 2006, Estroff filed a motion for a new trial and/or relief from the judgment. That motion primarily argued that a new trial was warranted ■ based on misconduct by Chatterjee. According to the motion, although Chatterjee had “repeatedly and consistently represented] to the Court throughout the proceedings until June 5, 2006 that she would never cut off contact between the Minor Children and [Estroff], [she] cut off all contact between the Minor Children and [Estroff]” once the trial court indicated it was dismissing the case. The trial court denied the motion in аn order filed 20 December 2006. Estroff timely appealed from both the 17 November 2006 order and the 20 December 2006 order.
Discussion
Estroff primarily challenges the trial court’s ultimate determination, pursuant to
Price v. Howard,
[T]he parent may no longer enjоy a paramount status if his or her conduct is inconsistent with this presumption [that he or she will act in the best interest of the child] or if he or she fails to shoulder the responsibilities that are attendant to rearing a child. If anatural parent’s conduct has not been inconsistent with his or her constitutionally protected status, application of the “best interest of the child” standard in a custody dispute with a nonparent would offend the Due Process Clause.
This determination must be based on clear, cogent, and convincing evidence.
Adams v. Tessener,
I
As an initial matter, Estroff contends that the trial court erred as a matter of law, when applying the
Price
test, by basing its determination in part on Chatterjee’s “intentions” as to Estroff’s role in the children’s lives. According to Estroff, in making the determination mandated by
Price,
courts should apply the “well settled” principle of civil legal responsibility “that it is not a party’s intention that controls whether he is to be held legally accountable, but his conduct and the reasonably foreseeable consequences of his conduct.” This case is not, however, a contract or tort action, but rather involves a legal parent’s “constitutionally protected paramount interest in the companionship, custody, care, and control of his or her child.”
Price,
Estroff further argues, however, that
Price
supports her view that only manifested intentions are relevant. She asserts that, in
Price,
“the Supreme Court held that the mother needed to have made it clear at the time she left the child with the Plaintiff that the placement was temporary.” (Emphasis omitted.) We disagree with Estroff’s reading of
Price.
To the contrary, the Court noted that the biological mother
“chose
to rear the child in a family unit with plaintiff being the child’s
de facto
father.”
Id.
at 83,
In our decision in
Mason,
we held that the specific question to be answered in cases such as this one is: “Did the legal parent act inconsistently with her fundamental right to custody, care, and control of her child and her right to make decisions concerning the care, custody, and control of that child?”
Mason,
Indeed, in
Mason,
we pointed out that the trial court had found that the legal parent and her domestic partner had “intentionally” taken steps to identify Mason as a parent of the child and that the legal parent “intended that [the] parent-like relationship [between her partner and child] be a permanent relationship for her child.”
Id.
at 223,
Our analysis of the trial court’s findings of fact stressed:
While this case does not involve the biological mother’s lеaving the child in the care of a third person, we still have the circumstances of [the mother’s] intentionally creating a family unit composed of herself, her child and, to use the Supreme Court’s words, a “de facto parent.” [Price,346 N.C. at 83 , 484 S.E.2d at537], . . . Even though [the mother] did not completely relinquish custody, she fully shared it with [her partner], including sharing decision-making, caretaking, and financial responsibilities for the child. And, in contrast to Price, the findings establish that [the mother] intended — during the creation of this family unit — that this parent-like relationship would be permanent, such that she “induced [her partner and the child] to allow that family unit to flourish in a relationship of love and duty with no expectations that it would be terminated.” Id. [at 83, 484 S.E.2d at 537 .]
Id.
at 225-26,
Thus, as
Mason
holds, the court’s focus must be on whether the legal parent has voluntarily chosen to create a family unit and to cede to the third party a sufficiently significant amount of parental responsibility and decision-making authority to create a permanent parent-like relationship with his or her child.
Id.
at 226,
In
V.C. v. M.J.B.,
We agree with the New Jersey Supreme Court that the focus must, however, be on the legal parent’s “intent during the formation and pendency of the parent-child relationship” between the third party and the child.
Id.
Intentions after the ending of the relationship between the parties are not relevant because “the right of the legal parent ‘[does] not extend to erasing a relationship between her part
Estroff also complains that the sole evidence to support the trial court findings of fact regarding Chatterjee’s intentions was Chatterjee’s own testimony and that none of those intentions were disclosed to Estroff. Our authority does not, however, require that the intentions be disclosed to the third party, although if they were, it might make resolution of the Price issue easier, as Price pointed out. Estroff’s emphasis on the harm to her from the lack of disclosure— including her concerns about Chatterjee’s deceit towards her and Chatterjеe’s “us[ing]” her — reflects Estroff’s mistaken belief that principles of civil liability should be imported into the custody context. Estroff’s approach implies that she has rights and has suffered harm, but harm to the third party is immaterial to the standard set forth in Price and further discussed in Mason.
Estroff also argues that “there is ample evidence to contradict [Chatterjee’s] statements of her intentions . . . .” Even if so, such evidence simply presented questions of credibility and weight for the trial court to resolve.
Phelps v. Phelps,
II
Estroff next argues that the trial court’s determination that she failed to meet her burden of proof under
Price
is not supported by the evidence, citing testimony and exhibits that she asserts warrant a ruling in her favor. Findings of fact are, however, binding on appeal— regardless of the sufficiency of the evidence — unless assigned as error.
Koufman v. Koufman,
Estroff does argue in her brief that no evidence supports the trial court’s finding that “[Estroff] agreed that [Chatterjee] could raise a child within the context of their relationship and in their jointly owned home.” While Estroff urges, that this finding “attributes to [Estroff]
her agreement
to view [Chatterjee] as a single parent,” we cannot accept that construction of the court’s finding. We believe a more reasonable reading of the finding is that it was intended to convey that although the couple did not make a joint decision to have a child, Estroff did not object to Chatterjee’s raising the child while the women continued to have a relationship. The evidence may not explicitly support this finding, but it is a reasonable inference from the evidence as to Chatterjee’s conversations with Estroff regarding Chatterjee’s decision to have a child. The trial court is entitled to draw all reasonable inferences from the evidence.
NationsBank of North Carolina v. Baines,
Estroff next challenges findings of fact that actually appear favorable to her. Finding of fact 22 states that “[Chatterjee] needed [Estroff’s] help and depended on it.” Finding of fact 24 states: “[Chatterjee] was grateful for [Estroff’s] presence and her help in the care of the сhildren.” Third, finding of fact 33 states: “[Estroff] supported [Chatterjee] in many ways both before and during the pregnancy.” Estroff’s argument as to these findings is based on her belief that the trial court was portraying Estroff as only a “handmaiden” and “helper” to Chatterjee rather than a joint caretaker of the children. We do not believe this is a necessary inference from the findings; nor is such an inference consistent with other findings of the trial court.
Finally, Estroff objects to the trial court’s findings of fact that (1) Estroff was not a parent by estoppel or a
de facto
parent, (2) Chatterjee had not voluntarily relinquished custody of her children, and (3) Chatterjеe had not conveyed or relinquished custody or parenthood status to Estroff by her conduct or her actions. Estroff argues only that these assertions are in fact conclusions of law. While the first statement may be a conclusion of law, we believe the other two are mixed questions of law and fact. In any event, Estroff has not
Thus, Estroff has not demonstrated that any of the trial court’s findings of fact were unsupported by competent evidence. Those findings are, thеrefore, binding on appeal. The question remains whether the findings are sufficient to support the trial court’s conclusion that Estroff failed to establish that Chatterjee engaged in behavior inconsistent with her constitutionally-protected status as a parent.
Estroff lists in her brief eight findings that she contends were necessary in order to reach the trial court’s conclusion, but were not made. Estroff argues that in order to rule in favor of Chatterjee, the trial court was required to find the following: (Í) that there was no parent-child bond, (2) that the children were not attached to Estroff, (3) that Estroff was not involved in performing parent-like duties and responsibilities with the children, (4) that Estroff did not provide substantial financial support and caretaking for the children, (5) that Estroff was not viewed as a co-parent by family and friends, (6) that Estroff was not seen by the children as one of their parents, (7) that Chatterjee had not engaged in “any conduct inconsistent with her claim to exclusive control of the children,” and (8) that Estroff was not viewed as a co-parent by professionals and medical providers. Estroff then argues that “[t]here were no such findings because they could not have been made. The evidence was overwhelmingly to the contrary.”
We pointed out in
Mason
that
Price
“declined to specify the universe of conduct that would ‘constitute conduct inconsistent with the protected status parents may enjoy,’ but rather directed that a parent’s conduct ‘be viewed on a case-by-case basis.’ ”
Mason,
Here, the trial court’s findings establish that Chatterjee did not jointly decide with Estroff to create a family, but rаther made the decision on her own and asked only if Estroff had any objection to sharing her home with children. Chatterjee chose the sperm donor
The trial court’s findings reflect that Chatterjee did not choose to create a family unit with two parents, did not intend that Estroff would be a
“defacto
parent,” Price,
Consistent with that role, the trial court found that Estroff assisted in the care of the children, financially supported the children, and joined with Chatterjee in interviewing and hiring the children’s nanny. Contrary to Estroff’s contention, these facts do not preclude the trial court’s ultimate determination in Chatterjee’s favor. The fact that a third party provides caretaking and financial support, engages in parent-like duties and responsibilities, and has a substantial bond with the children does not necessarily meet the requirements of Price and Mason. Those factors could exist just as equally for a person such as the plaintiff in Mason (who was found to have met the standard in Price) as for a step-parent or simply a significant friend of the family, who might not meet the Price standard.
These facts establish the existence of a relationship “in the nature of a parent and child relationship” and are sufficient to support a finding of standing to bring a custody action.
Ellison v. Ramos,
As the Pennsylvania Supreme Court has stated, “[w]hat is relevant ... is the method by which the third party gained authority” to assume a parent-like status and perform parental duties.
T.B. v. L.R.M.,
The trial court’s findings of fact — although made without benefit of our opinion in
Mason
— essentially decide that Chatterjee did not choose to do so. The findings are, therefore, sufficient to support the trial court’s determination that Estroff did not establish that Chatterjee engaged in conduct inconsistent with her parаmount constitutionally-protected status.
Compare id.
at 223-25,
Finally, Estroff argues that the trial court erred in concluding that she was neither a parent by estoppel nor a de facto parent because the court failed to make the necessary findings of fact to support that conclusion. We need not address this argument since those doctrines, as adopted in other states, have not yet been recognized in North Carolina and are not appropriately considered in this appeal.
During the oral argument in this case, Estroff’s counsel represented that her client was not seeking parental status, but rather was only seeking visitation. Our Supreme Court has set out in
Price
the standard, under the federal and state constitutions, for determining whether a third party is entitled to custody, including visitation. This Court, in light of
Price
and subsequent Supreme Court decisions following
Price,
does not have authority to adopt a different standard as to custody.
See Seyboth,
Affirmed.
Notes
. We use the phrase “legal parent” to reference both biological and adoptive parents.
. Wе note, in passing, that Estroff has also argued that the trial court erred by finding that she did not have standing to seek custody in this case. The trial court, however, in its 3 August 2005 order, denied Chatterjee’s motion to dismiss for lack of standing and, in its 17 November 2006 order, concluded that it “ha[d] personal
and subject matter jurisdiction."
(Emphasis added.)
See Estate of Apple v. Commercial Courier Express, Inc.,
. Although Estroff appealed from the trial court’s denial of her motion for a new trial, she has not addressed that order on appeal.
