[¶ 1] In this action the trial court, on motion of Mother’s former boyfriend, adopted the “equitable parent doctrine” and found boyfriend to be the “legal” father of Mother’s child. The judge placed physical custody of the child with Mother and gave visitation to the equitable father. Both parties appeal. We affirm in part, reverse in part, and remand.
FACTS AND PROCEDURAL HISTORY
[¶ 2] Mother met boyfriend (D.G.) either in October 1990 or in February 1991.
[¶ 3] Following Child’s birth, Mother and D.G. continued to live together for approximately seven months. During this time, D.G. financially supported Mother and Child, as well as providing assistance for Mother’s
[¶ 4] Mother and D.G.’s relationship further deteriorated over the next several months. Mother ultimately filed for a protection order against D.G- alleging, among other things, that he was not Child’s biological father. The circuit court entered its protection order on March 17, 1993, and ordered no visitation between D.G. and Child. The basis for the circuit court’s refusal of visitation was that D.G. had made no showing of paternity.
[¶ 5] D.G. commenced a paternity action on March 23, 1993. Blood test results conclusively determined he was not Child’s biological father. Following the test results, D.G. acknowledged he was not Child’s biological father and agreed to dismiss the paternity action. The circuit court, the Honorable Merton B. Tice presiding, dismissed D.G.’s paternity action “with prejudice and on its merits” as agreed by the parties.
[¶ 6] In April of 1993, Mother moved with Child to Missouri. Mother struggled financially, at times having to live out of her car. After four months, she asked D.G. to care for Child while she settled in Missouri. He agreed and sent money to pay for Child’s return to South Dakota. Mother brought Child to D.G. in October. She left telephone numbers and addresses where she could be reached and told D.G. she would return in two or three weeks.
[¶ 7] Mother was unable to secure employment in Missouri as quickly as planned. By November, she still had not found employment or a place to live.
[¶ 8] Child remained with D.G. for the next year. Mother occasionally sent letters and telephoned.
[¶ 9] In September of 1994, Mother traveled to Rapid City, South Dakota, to pick up Child. She returned to Missouri because she was unable to locate D.G. or Child while in Rapid City. She again returned to Rapid City on October 14, 1994. Despite the assistance of law enforcement, who accompanied Mother to D.G.’s residence, she was again unable to locate D.G. or her daughter. She returned to Missouri.
[¶ 10] On October 19, 1994, D.G. commenced a second paternity action requesting that he be declared Child’s father and further that he be awarded custody of Child. Mother answered the complaint denying D.G. was the father of Child and alleging that Judge Tice’s order dismissing the original paternity action with prejudice barred D.G.’s second action as res judicata.
[¶ 11] Mother filed a motion for return of custody and a hearing was scheduled for February 9, 1995. She failed’to attend the hearing.
[¶ 12] On February 10, 1995, Mother returned to Rapid City. She secured employment in the area and resided in Rapid City throughout the custody proceedings. On March 10, 1995, after a preliminary investigation and allegations of sexual abuse against D.G.,
[¶ 13] On April 11, 1995, a hearing was held on Mother’s motion to dismiss. During this hearing, the court noted Mother’s inability to pay her legal fees associated with contesting D.G.’s paternity action. Sua sponte, the trial court appointed Mother’s attorney at county expense. The court found the appointment was necessary to ensure the court would receive all relevant information to determine the best interest of Child. A guardian ad litem and an attorney were appointed for Child on June 19,1995.
[¶ 14] Numerous experts testified at trial.
[¶ 15] D.G. has had several encounters with law enforcement.
[¶ 16] Mother has a history of unreliability, often embellishing or fabricating stories to accomplish the immediate task at hand. Virtually nothing is known about her husband, M.M., other than he is currently on probation for a sexual assault conviction. Child has never met M.M. or interacted with his six-year-old son. During a home study and evaluation, Mother was observed to use appropriate parenting skills and appeared to have redeveloped a close emotional bond with her daughter.
[¶ 17] Child suffers from great anxiety and a fear of separation from both D.G. and Mother. She denies being sexually abused, but drawings done by her as part of an evaluation indicated “red flag” warnings she had been exposed to a traumatizing event of a sexual nature.
[¶ 18] The experts varied in them recommendations concerning the permanent placement of Child.
[¶ 19] Following a court trial, D.G. was determined to be Child’s legal father under the equitable parent doctrine. The trial court found it to be in the best interest of Child to place physical custody with Mother. D.G. was granted visitation and ordered to pay child support. Both parties appeal the decision.
[¶ 20] I. Whether the trial court had the authority to appoint counsel for an indigent mother in a paternity action.
[¶21] On appeal, D.G. contends the circuit court was without authority to appoint counsel for Mother at Pennington County expense.
[¶22] As we recently explained in Agar School District No. 58-1 Board of Education v. McGee,
“Standing is established through being a ‘real party in interest’ and it is statutorily controlled.” Wang v. Wang,393 N.W.2d 771 , 775 (S.D.1986). Under SDCL 15-6-17(a), “[e]very action shall be prosecuted in the name of the real party in interest.” The real party in interest requirement for standing is satisfied if the litigant can show “ ‘that he personally has suffered some actual or threatened injury as a result of the putatively illegal conduct of the Defendant.’ ” Parsons v. South Dakota Lottery Commission,504 N.W.2d 593 , 595 (S.D.1993) (quoting Gladstone, Realtors v. Bellwood,441 U.S. 91 , 99,99 S.Ct. 1601 , 1608,60 L.Ed.2d 66 , 76 (1979)).
Standing is determined by the status of the party seeking relief, not the issues presented. In re Matter of Baby Boy K,
[¶ 23] D.G. has not challenged the appointment of Mother’s counsel as a taxpayer of Pennington County.
[¶ 24] II. Whether the earlier order dismissing D.G.’s paternity action with prejudice made the issue of biological fatherhood res judicata.
[¶ 25] The blood test results performed in conjunction with D.G.’s original paternity ac
[¶26] In this subsequent action, Judge Grosshans found the issue of whether D.G. was Child’s biological father was res judicata based on the previous order. D.G. contends the issue is not res judicata because Judge Tice did not take evidence or conduct a hearing, but rather based the dismissal on the agreement of the parties and an unrecorded meeting in chambers.
[¶ 27] The doctrine of res judicata is well established.
Res judicata bars an attempt to relitigate a prior determined cause of action by the parties or one of the parties in privity to a party in -the earlier suit. Du-Al Mfg. Co. v. Sioux Falls Const. Co.,487 N.W.2d 29 (S.D.1992); Melbourn v. Benham,292 N.W.2d 335 (S.D.1980). This Court applies four factors in determining if this doctrine applies: (1) was the issue decided in the former adjudication identical'to the present issue; (2) was there a final judgment on the merits; (3) are the parties in the two actions the same or in privity; and (4) was there a full and fair opportunity to litigate the issues in the prior adjudication? Moe v. Moe,496 N.W.2d 593 , 595 (S.D.1993); Raschke v. DeGraff,81 S.D. 291 , 295,134 N.W.2d 294 , 296 (1965).
Wintersteen v. Benning,
[¶ 28] “The test for determining if both causes of action are the same is a query into whether the wrong sought to be redressed is the same in both actions.” Du-Al Mfg. Co.,
[¶ 29] The original paternity action was dismissed by order of the circuit court “with prejudice and on its merits.” The only record evidence on the matter is a letter to the court from D.G.’s counsel agreeing to the order of dismissal. D.G. contends the absence of evidence and a hearing before Judge Tice precluded the possibility of the court determining the issue on the merits. Absent a complete record, in this case the lack of a transcript
[¶ 30] Thus, Judge Grosshans correctly applied the principle of res judicata.
[¶ 31] III. Whether D.G. is the legal father of Child under the equitable parent doctrine.
[¶ 32] The facts and circumstances surrounding this ease present us with a case of first impression: Does the equitable parent doctrine exist in South Dakota and, if so, does it apply in this case? We have previously addressed corollaries of this issue, see Crouse v. Crouse,
[¶ 33] Relying on the holding of Atkinson v. Atkinson,
a husband who is not the biological father of a child born or conceived during the marriage may be considered the natural father of that child where (1) the husband and the child mutually acknowledge a relationship as father and child, or the mother of the child has cooperated in the development of such a relationship over a period of time prior to the filing of the complaint for divorce, (2) the husband desires to have the rights afforded to a parent, and (3) the husband is willing to take on the responsibility of paying child support.
Atkinson,
[¶ 34] In applying the Atkinson factors to this case, the trial court removed the marriage requirement. The court concluded that requiring the parties to be married as an element of the equitable parent doctrine “would be to view the legal issue from the perspective of the parent rather than the perspective of the child. Furthermore, such a view would deny a minor child the right of a supporting parent solely because of her illegitimate birth, a situation beyond the child’s control.” The trial court thus determined D.G. to be Child’s equitable father under the remaining Atkinson factors.
[¶ 35] For a number of reasons, the trial court incorrectly relied on the equitable parent doctrine in this case. First, the Atkinson decision is distinguishable. Unlike the Michigan case law relied on for the result in Atkinson, South Dakota case law recognizes a stepparent cannot be considered a natural parent against the stepparent’s will and cannot be forced to provide child support for minor stepchildren after the divorce. E.H.,
[¶ 36] Second, the equitable parent doctrine is based in equity. The elements considered in the application of the equitable parent doctrine are essentially the same as those that underlie an application of estoppel. In re Marriage of Gallagher,
[¶ 37] Equitable estoppel is based on fair dealing, good faith and justice.
In order to constitute equitable estoppel, false representations or concealment of material facts must exist, the party to whom it was made must have been without knowledge of the real facts, the representations or concealment must have been made with the intention that it should be acted upon, and the party to whom it was made must have relied thereon to his prejudice or injury. There can be no estoppel if any of these essential elements are lacking, or if any of them have not been proved by clear and convincing evidence. Heupel v. Imprimis Technology, Inc.,473 N.W.2d 464 , 466 (S.D.1991); L.R. Foy Const. v. South Dakota State Cement Plant Comm’n.,399 N.W.2d 340 , 344 (S.D.1987); Taylor v. Tripp,330 N.W.2d 542 , 545 (S.D.1983).
Century 21 Associated Realty v. Hoffman,
[¶ 38] Following the blood test results in the original paternity action, D.G. was aware he was not Child’s biological father. Prior to Mother’s move to Missouri, D.G. acknowledged he was not Child’s biological father. With this admission, he cannot now contend he was without knowledge of the real facts surrounding Child’s parentage. D.G. cannot profess a concealment or false representation by Mother that he was, in fact, Child’s father or that he relied upon any false representation or concealment in agreeing to care for Child. The blood test results proved otherwise months before he agreed to care for the child. “To maintain estoppel, there must have been an act or conduct by the party to be estopped which induces reliance by another to his or her detriment, thus creating a condition that would make it inequitable to allow the guilty party to claim what would otherwise be his or her- legal rights.” E.H.,
[¶ 39] Third, D.G. has no legal relationship to Child. He is not her biological father. He is not her adoptive father. He never petitioned for guardianship of Child. He never married Child’s mother. Simply put, he is an interested third party who at one time lived with Mother and cared (be it ever so deeply) for Child. “When a man is neither the biological or adoptive father nor married to the mother, there is little authority that supports a claim of a right to visitation or custody.” C.M. v. P.R.,
[¶ 40] In In re Ash,
[¶ 41] In the instant case, the trial court rejected the Atkinson requirement that the parties need to have been married for the equitable parent doctrine to apply. We recognize married couples are no longer the exclusive forum for raising children. Social norms have evolved to create numerous situations in which children are nurtured and eared for outside the bounds of the traditional family. While the perspective of the child is paramount for determining the child’s best interest, without the marriage requirement as a limit to the application of the equitable parent doctrine, the legal definition of parent is rendered meaningless.
“[Expanding the definition of a ‘parent’ in the manner advocated by appellant could expose other natural parents to litigation brought by child-care providers of long standing, relatives, successive sets of stepparents or other close friends of the family. No matter how narrowly we might attempt to draft the definition, the fact remains that the status of individuals claiming to be parents would have to be litigated and resolution of these claims would turn on elusive factual determinations of the intent of the natural mother, the perceptions of the children, and the course of conduct of the party claiming parental status. By deferring to the legislature in matters involving complex social and policy ramifications far beyond the facts of the particular case, we are not telling the parties that the issues they raise are unworthy of legal recognition. To the contrary, we intend only to illustrate the limitations of the courts in fashioning a comprehensive solution to such a complex and socially significant issue.”
Ash,
[¶42] We do not question D.G.’s love for Child. We acknowledge his noble intentions in providing a home for her. However, he is without a legal basis to assert any parental rights concerning Child. The trial court’s adoption of the equitable parent doctrine and the award of parental rights to D.G. is reversed.
[¶ 43] Our rejection of the equitable parent doctrine makes moot the issues of whether an equitable parent is equal to a natural parent for purposes of awarding custody and whether the trial court abused its discretion in awarding custody to Mother. We turn now to the remaining issue in this appeal.
[¶ 44] IV. Whether the trial court abused its discretion in awarding D.G. visitation.
[¶ 45] After determining D.G. to be Child’s legal father, the trial court awarded custody of Child to mother and granted D.G. visitation with the child. We have reversed the trial court’s determination D.G. is Child’s legal father.
[¶ 46] The right to visitation is derived from the right to custody. Sedelmeier,
[I]n order to grant a nonparent visitation rights with a minor child over the wishes of a parent, a clear showing against the parent of gross misconduct, unfitness or other extraordinary circumstances affecting the welfare of the child is required.
Cooper,
[If 47] We remand the issue of visitation to the trial court for an evidentiary hearing to determine whether extraordinary circumstances exist which would permit visitation for D.G.
[¶ 48] We affirm the trial court’s appointment of Mother’s counsel and determination that the issue of fatherhood was res judicata, reverse the trial court’s adoption of the equitable parent doctrine, and remand the issue of visitation for proceedings consistent with this opinion.
Notes
. The parties dispute when they first met. D.G. contends he met Mother in October, 1990. Mother contends they met on Valentine's Day, February 14, 1991. The trial court made no specific finding concerning the date the couple first met.
. Mother originally indicated she would return for Child by November 8, 1993.
. All letters sent by Mother were addressed to Child using D.G.'s surname.
.Mother stated she was driving truck out of state at the time the hearing was held.
. Further investigation failed to substantiate the claims of sexual abuse.
. The trial court observed "[s]eldom in my experience have there been so many experts assembled to analyze the circumstances surrounding one child's future.”
. In 1976, D.G. was convicted of third-degree burglary. He was convicted of obstructing justice in violation of his probation in 1979, and he committed his third driving under the influence offense in 1986. D.G. violated his parole and was charged with obstructing justice in 1990.
. M.L. has been under treatment for depression since January, 1993. She is currently taking anti-depressants.
. No specific act of sexual abuse was identified and the experts opined the traumatizing sexual abuse could have occurred any time during the child’s life and could stem from a number of inappropriate sexual activities. Expert testimony indicated coaching by Mother may also have contributed to the drawings.
. The experts noted the lack of sufficient time they had to observe the parties and make a specific recommendation to the court concerning custody. DSS recommended continuing custody with DSS so the situation could be monitored when Mother and Child returned to Missouri.
. Pennington County filed an appeal of the circuit court's appointment of counsel for Mother. It subsequently withdrew its appeal and is no longer a parly to this appeal.
. Taxpayer actions require formalities not followed by D.G. in challenging the appointment of Mother’s counsel at county expense. SDCL 7-8-28 sets forth the procedure for a general taxpayers' challenge to county commission decisions and provides, in relevant part:
Upon written demand of at least fifteen taxpayers of the county, the state's attorney shall take an appeal from any action of such board if such action relates to the interests or affairs of the county at large or any portion thereof, in the name of the county, if he deems it to the interest of the county to do so....
See also Weger v. Pennington County,
. D.G.'s briefs repeatedly contend Mother bears the burden of providing a transcript of the proceedings concerning the dismissal of D.G.'s original paternity claim. This is an incorrect statement of Mother's burden on appeal. As the appellant on this issue, D.G. has the burden of providing this Court with an adequate record for review, including a transcript, if necessary. Owens v. Moyes,
. The trial court’s written opinion refers to the factors analyzed as elements of equitable adoption. However, the factors cited and the language of Atkinson referred to by the trial court specifically deal with the doctrine of equitable parent. The trial court analyzed the facts and circumstances of this case in light of the equitable parent doctrine and appears to have interchangeably referred to the doctrine as that of equitable adoption. Under the doctrine of equitable adoption, an implied contract to adopt is found when a close relationship, similar to parent-child, between the child and nonparent exists. Wright v. Wright, 99 Mich. 170,
