Bernadette Elshoff (Mother) appeals from an order entered in the Court of Common Pleas of Philadelphia County, awarding primary physical custody of Jennifer Elshoff (Daughter) to Margaret Cardamone (Maternal Aunt), and awarding partial physical custody of Daughter to Mother. We affirm.
*268 Daughter was born on March 27, 1980. 1 In 1985, Mother married Theodore Rafalko (Stepfather). As a result of that marriage, Mother gave birth to her second child, Gregory (Brother). Mother and Stepfather separated numerous times due to marital problems and substance abuse problems. Because of these separations, Mother and the children were forced to periodically move in with various family members.
Some time in March of 1992, Daughter contacted Maternal Aunt and asked if she could reside with Maternal Aunt, Maternal Aunt’s husband (Uncle), and Theresa Elshoff (Maternal Grandmother), all of whom reside in the same household in Philadelphia. The following month, in April of 1992, Daughter moved into Maternal Aunt and Uncle’s home. Presently, Daughter is fifteen years old and has been residing in Maternal Aunt’s residence for approximately three years. Mother, Stepfather, and Brother currently reside in Scranton, Pennsylvania.
In June of 1992, while Daughter was in the care of Maternal Aunt, Maternal Aunt filed a petition to confirm custody of Daughter. In August of 1992, Mother filed an emergency petition, seeking to regain physical custody of Daughter from Maternal Aunt. Shortly thereafter, the Honorable Nicholas Kozay, Jr., consolidated the petitions and entered a temporary order, pending a full custody hearing, granting physical custody of Daughter to Maternal Grandmother.
The matter was continued on several occasions. On September 17, 1993, a full hearing was held before the Honorable Frank M. Jackson on the cross-petitions for custody. The trial court was presented with the testimony of Mother, Maternal Aunt, Uncle, Maternal Grandmother, and Stepfather. In addition, in the presence of only the attorneys, the trial court examined Daughter in camera. At the conclusion of the testimony, Judge Jackson entered a temporary order, maintaining the status quo and giving Mother partial custody on alternating weekends. Pursuant to the order, Mother was *269 required to make Daughter’s travel arrangements to and from Scranton.
On October 14, 1993, Judge Jackson entered an order, holding the cross-petitions for custody in abeyance until Daughter completed her last year in grammar school. As such, a hearing was scheduled for June 17, 1994. In the interim, temporary physical custody of Daughter remained with Maternal Aunt. Mother filed a notice of appeal from Judge Jackson’s temporary order. This court dismissed Mother’s appeal via a per curiam order because Mother failed to file her brief in a timely fashion. Pa.R.A.P. 2188.
On August 1, 1994, the trial court again heard extensive testimony from all of the participants and again interviewed Daughter in camera, then fourteen years old. On August 31, 1994, the Honorable Frank M. Jackson entered an order, awarding primary physical custody to Maternal Aunt, and granting partial physical custody to Mother. Specifically, Mother was awarded partial physical custody of Daughter for one-half of the winter and spring vacations, as well as six weeks during the summer school vacation. This timely appeal followed. On appeal, Mother presents the following questions for this court’s consideration:
(1) Whether the trial court erred in its failure to dismiss a third party petition for custody where the third party did not have in loco parentis status to maintain a custody action?
(2) Whether the trial court erred in ruling that the record supports a finding by convincing evidence that Mother’s prima facie right to custody should be forfeited in the child’s best interests?
(a) Whether the trial court erred in basing its decision on mother’s past history rather than on her present capabilities to care for the child?
(b) Whether the trial court committed error in according the child’s preference sufficient weight to overcome Mother’s prima facie right to custody when the record as a whole does not support such a finding?
*270 (c) Whether the trial court erred in its failure to consider the well established policy within the law to keep siblings living together whenever possible?
Before we address the merits of Mother’s contentions, we must first note this court’s standard of review of child custody orders:
The scope of review of an appellate court reviewing a child custody order is of the broadest type; the appellate court is not bound by the deductions or inferences made by the trial court from its findings of fact, nor must the reviewing court accept a finding that has no competent evidence to support it---- However, this broad scope of review does not vest in the reviewing court the duty or the privilege of making its own independent determination.... Thus, an appellate court is empowered to determine whether the trial court’s incontrovertible factual findings support its factual conclusions, but it may not interfere with those conclusions unless they are unreasonable in view of the trial court’s factual findings; and thus, represent a gross abuse of discretion.
Kaneski v. Kaneski
The Fourteenth Amendment to the United States Constitution provides that “[n]o state shall ... deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law.” U.S. Const, amend XIV, § 1. While there is no mention of family, a parent’s right to child custody, or the protection of a child’s welfare in this amendment or elsewhere in the Constitution, the United States Supreme Court has constitutionally protected each of these interests as a fundamental liberty under the Fourteenth Amendment. 2
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Pennsylvania courts have similarly recognized that the law protects the natural parent’s relationship with his or her child and will not interfere unnecessarily with that relationship, even at the expense of estrangement to the extended family.
See Jackson v. Garland,
[I]t is the public policy of this Commonwealth, when in the best interest of the child, to assure reasonable and continuing contact of the child with both parents after separation or dissolution of the marriage and the sharing of the rights and responsibilities of child rearing by both parents....
23 Pa.C.S.A. § 5301.
In furtherance of this public policy, the legislature has specified limited circumstances in which governmental intrusion into the family is warranted.
See
42 Pa.C.S.A. § 6351-52 (outlining procedures for initiating dependency proceedings); 23 Pa.C.S.A. § 2511 (involving the involuntary termination of parental rights); 23 Pa.C.S.A. § 6301
et seq.
(taking an abused child into protective custody); 23 Pa.C.S.A § 5311-13 (concerning grandparents’ rights to visitation); 23 Pa.C.S.A. § 5301
et seq.
(concerning custody and visitation rights between parents in a divorce action);
see also Jackson, supra,
Protecting family unity and the parent/child relationship, however, is becoming increasingly difficult. The traditional American family is facing problems that were virtually nonexistent one hundred years ago. Divorces are on the rise, and expecting parents increasingly choose not to get married. *272 Unfortunately, children are frequently caught in the middle of their parents’ difficulties — e.g., alcoholism, drug addiction, domestic violence, homelessness, separation, divorce, etc. As a result of these difficulties, many children reside with, and form strong emotional attachments and relationships with, persons other than their natural or biological parents. An obvious problem arises when one or both of the natural parents later seek to regain custody of the child from the parental surrogate. In many cases, however, the third party or non-parent has assumed the role of “psychological parent” to the child and, hence, is unwilling to transfer custody to the biological parent. In these situations,- the judicial system inherits the confounding task of deciding which “parent” will receive custody.
In Pennsylvania, there are three types of custody disputes: parent versus parent; parent(s) versus state; and parent(s) versus third party.
In re Hernandez,
In determining the appropriate standard for adjudication of custody disputes between a parent or parents and a third party, the Pennsylvania Supreme Court, in
Ellerbe v. Hooks,
Although the best interest of the child remains of paramount concern, the parent has ‘a prima facie right to custody,’ which will be forfeited only if ‘convincing reasons’ appear that the child’s best interest will be served by an award to the third party ... the evidentiary scale is tipped, and tipped hard, to the parents’ side. What the judge must do, therefore, is first, hear all evidence relevant to the child’s best interest, and then, decide whether the evidence on behalf of the third party is weighty enough to bring the scale up to even, and down on the third party’s side.
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Hernandez,
In
Albright v. Commonwealth ex rel. Fetters,
First, although parenthood is a highly important factor, it should not be accorded determinative weight in our decision. Other factors, like the value of stability, are also to be accorded great weight. Indeed, in Ellerbe itselff,] the Supreme Court affirmed the trial court’s grant of custody to grandparents over a parent of the subject child for the very reason that the child had developed a stable relationship with the grandparents and had a stable environment with them. The same basic situation was presented in Albright, and once again the grandparents were given custody. Second, the Hernandez standard is first and foremost an allocation of the burden of proof to the third parties, but it does not impose on them the burden of showing that the *274 parent' is unfit. Thus, the issue centers on the child, and not on the parent.
Snarski,
Again, parenthood alone is insufficient to defeat a custody claim raised by a non-parent. The most important issues in a custody dispute are the child’s physical, intellectual, moral, and spiritual well-being.
Dorsey v. Freeman,
[T]he fact that the best interests of the child is the paramount consideration is ... beyond peradventure____ Indeed, even the rights of natural parents are subordinate to the child’s best interest.
Karner v. McMahon,
Absent a
prima facie
right to custody, however, a third party lacks standing to even seek custody as against the natural parents.
Rosado v. Diaz,
The appropriate manner for a third party to challenge child custody is through dependency proceedings.
See
42 Pa.C.S.A. § 6301
et seq.; Gradwell, supra,
The exception to this third-party-lack-of-standing-preclusion is proof that such a “party stands
in loco parentis,
that is, where he or she has ‘assumed obligations incident to the parental relationship.’ ”
Gradwell,
The phrase “in loco parentis ” refers to a person who puts himself in the situation of assuming the obligations incident to the parental relationship without going through the formality of a legal adoption. The status of “in loco parentis ” embodies two ideas: first, the assumption of a parental status, and second, the discharge of parental duties.
Commonwealth ex rel. Morgan v. Smith,
After carefully reviewing the facts in the case at bar, we find that Maternal Aunt clearly established that she stands
in loco parentis
to Daughter. At the time of the August, 1994 hearing, Daughter had been in the custody of Maternal Aunt for approximately twenty-eight months. During that time, Maternal Aunt and Uncle provided Daughter with food, shelter, clothing and ensured that she received an education. Because Maternal Aunt has assumed primary parental responsibility since 1992 to the present, we find that Maternal Aunt has standing to seek custody of Daughter.
Vicki N., supra,
We are unpersuaded by Mother’s claim that this conclusion is in error. Citing
Gradwell, supra,
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Next, after examining the notes of testimony and evidence of record, we find that the trial court did not commit a gross abuse of discretion in awarding primary physical custody to Maternal Aunt, as convincing reasons support the finding that such an award is clearly in Daughter’s best interests.
Kaneski, supra,
The record reflects the following: Mother, during the September 17, 1993 hearing, admitted that while Daughter resided with her, they changed residences at least four to five times over a ten-year period. She also conceded that she and her husband (Stepfather) had separated on two or three occasions from 1985 to 1993 and that both she and her husband are recovering alcoholics and drug addicts. Mother also acknowledged the fact that neither she nor Stepfather have either a driver’s license or automobile insurance. Nonetheless, Mother and/or Stepfather continue to drive their car to pick up Daughter on the weekends that they have partial custody.
Before Daughter went to reside with Maternal Aunt in 1992, Daughter missed twenty-six days of school in the 1991/1992 school year. Once in Maternal Aunt’s care, Daughter missed only two days of school in the fourth quarter of the 1991/1992 school year, and her school attendance record for the 1992/1993 school year was also quite good. Although Daughter has always been a good student, her grades have definitely improved since she has resided with Maternal Aunt. Daughter testified in camera that while she rarely needs assistance with her homework, she is aware that Maternal Aunt and Uncle are always willing to render such assistance if she so desires.
The testimony also shows that Maternal Grandmother is usually home in the afternoons, awaiting Daughter’s return from school. Maternal Aunt and Uncle return home from work at approximately 5:00 p.m. and 6:30 p.m., respectively. On most evenings, the Maternal Aunt, Uncle, Maternal Grandmother, and Daughter eat dinner together and enjoy routine family discussions.
*278 In contrast, Mother works two jobs to make ends m.eet, including three to four weekends per month. Stepfather also works many weekends. On the weekends that both Mother and Stepfather work, Brother is placed in the care of Stepfather’s seventy-one year old mother. In addition to their busy work schedules, Mother and Stepfather attend meetings several evenings per week to overcome their drug and alcohol addictions.
The testimony also reveals that all of Daughter’s friends and family, except for her Mother, Stepfather, and half-brother, are in Philadelphia, where she now resides. Daughter testified at both hearings that she desires to stay in Philadelphia and attend high school with her friends.
With respect to her relationship with her Mother, Daughter told Judge Jackson that, “I don’t really get along with my mother---- I haven’t ever.” Daughter also informed the trial judge that Mother works most of the time that she visits her and that when they are together, they argue a great deal.
While the express wishes of a child are not controlling in custody decisions, such -wishes do constitute an important factor that must be carefully considered in determining the child’s best interest.
McMillen v. McMillen,
During two separate
in camera
interviews, Judge Jackson had the opportunity to observe Daughter’s demeanor and found Daughter to be “mature, intelligent and insightful.” We find that Daughter’s steadfast wish to live with her Maternal Aunt was properly considered, and we find no abuse
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of discretion in the amount of weight afforded that preference.
McMillen, supra,
Next, Mother contends that the trial court erred in basing its custody order on Mother’s past history, rather than on her present capabilities to care for the child. We must disagree. The trial judge did not base his decision solely on Mother’s prior homelessness, drug addiction, or alcoholism, but, instead, looked to this prior conduct as but one factor in ascertaining the best interests of Daughter. Judge Jackson opined that, “These factors combined to give Jennifer (Daughter) an unstable, if not chaotic life.”
See Commonwealth ex rel. Myers v. Myers,
Next, Mother contends that the trial court erred in not considering the policy against separation of siblings.
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Although the general rule is that siblings should not be separated without compelling reasons, this policy is but one factor to be considered in determining the best interests of the child.
Mahoney v. Mahoney,
Since the policy against separation of siblings is not controlling, under this court’s narrow scope- of review, we can discern no abuse of discretion or manifest error presented by Mother which would warrant reversal on this ground. We note that the fact that the trial court failed to specifically discuss the existence of a general policy in favor of raising siblings together was not alone reversible error.
Mahoney,
While Maternal Aunt was awarded primary physical custody of Daughter, Judge Jackson awarded liberal partial physical custody to Mother on alternating weekends. If Mother chooses to exercise her right to take Daughter every other weekend, 5 and there is no evidence of record to indicate that Maternal Aunt would do anything to hinder that right, she can be assured that her daughter and- son’s relationship will continue to grow. The same can be said for Mother and Stepfather’s relationship with Daughter.
For these reasons, we cannot find that the trial court' committed a gross abuse of discretion in awarding custody to Maternal Aunt.
Kaneski, supra,
Order affirmed.
Notes
. Daughter’s biological father is not a party to this custody dispute. His whereabouts are unknown.
. The United States Supreme Court first extended constitutional protection to the parent/child relationship in 1923 when it explained that although no exact definition of the liberty guaranteed by the Fourteenth Amendment existed, "[w]ithout doubt, it denotes ... the right of the individual to ... establish a home and bring up children.”
Meyer v. Nebraska, 262
U.S. 390, 399,
. Mother and Stepfather both participate in Alcoholics Anonymous meetings several times per week. Additionally, for purposes of this custody action, Mother and Stepfather submitted to drug testing. At the second hearing, counsel for Mother informed the court that the results of the drug tests were negative.
. As noted above, Gregoiy, Daughter's half-brother, continues to live with Mother and Stepfather.
. In addition to alternating weekends, Judge Jackson awarded partial custody to Mother for one-half of the Winter and Spring school vacations, and for six weeks during Daughter’s Summer school vacation.
