Bird v. Bird, 171 Wis. 219

Bird v. Bird

171 Wis. 219 | Wis. | 1920

Owen, J.

The court having found both parties guilty of cruel and inhuman treatment, refused a divorce to either, upon the authority of Hiecke v. Hiecke, 163 Wis. 171, 157 N. W. 747, and cases there cited, where it is held that a divorce will not be granted to one spouse where he or she has been guilty of conduct also amounting to grounds for a divorce. Only the plaintiff appealed. The finding that defendant has been guilty of a course of cruel and inhuman treatment is therefore to be regarded as a verity. The question to be reviewed is whether the evidence supports the finding of the trial court that plaintiff has been guilty of a course of cruel and inhuman treatment towards the defendant.

According to the finding of the trial court, the conduct of the plaintiff which was held to constitute cruel and inhuman treatment consisted of “nagging the defendant and refusing to take meals with him or accompany him to places in public, and of keeping a man roomer in their home contrary to the wishes and against the protests of the defendant, to which roomer the plaintiff wrote a sentimental letter, and in whose room she has passed considerable time playing cárds and with whom she has taken automobile rides.” In order to constitute cruel and “inhuman treatment the conduct of the guilty party must at least be such a-s to naturally cause great mental suffering to the other and render impairment of health probable, so that further efforts to perform the duties of the marriage state would be dangerous. Hiecke v. Hiecke, supra. Whether certain conduct is cruel and inhuman depends upon the effect it has up.on the offended spouse. Conduct which will cause great anguish and suffering to a sensitive nature will be passed unnoticed by one of a crass disposition. The evidence which tends to establish cruel and inhuman treatment on the part of the plaintiff must be considered with reference to .its effect upon the defendant. Her culpable conduct may be treated under two *222heads: (a) her relations with a man roomer; and (b) her personal attitude towards the defendant.

Plaintiff and defendant lived in a house in the city of Madison which was owned by. the plaintiff. Two or three of the rooms were rented to male roomers. Defendant claims that plaintiff was unduly familiar with one of these roomers, which familiarity consisted of taking some automobile rides with him,' playing cards in his room, and, upon one occasion, writing him an affectionate letter. The evidence shows that the roomer owned an automobile, and that occasionally, with the full’ knowledge and apparent consent of the defendant, plaintiff went on automobile rides with him. We find no suggestion in the evidence that defendant ever objected’to these automobile rides. It further appears that, occasionally, she went into his room and played cards with him. It appears that at all such times the door was open and they were in full view of any one passing along the hall. There is no suggestion in the evidence that the meetings in this room were clandestine, or that anything immoral ever occurred, or that they were ever in the room together with the door closed. Neither is there evidence that the defendant ever objected to this conduct. It is conceded that upon one occasion, when the roomer was out of town, the plaintiff wrote him a letter, affectionate in its terms, but to which no name was signed. This letter came into the hands of the defendant. He recognized the handwriting and called for an explanation, bringing both parties together. It was explained to him that the letter was a joke; that it was written in a spirit of foolishness and to lead the roomer to believe that it came from some unknown young lady. This explanation seems to have been accepted by the defendant, because the matter was never brought up again. The defendant, however, preserved the letter for future use, hiding it in the basement. It was brought forth to serve its purpose when the plaintiff brought a divorce action against him in 1915, after which it was *223again laid away in a place of security, but, before the bringing of this action, had been destroyed by the defendant. The record is entirely barren of any suggestion that the defendant was humiliated or caused any grief, anguish, or suffering by reason of the relations existing between the plaintiff and this roomer. In fact, until the occasion hereinafter to be referred to, there was apparently the friendliest feelings between the defendant and this roomer. These relations were disturbed, however, by this circumstance: The plaintiff suspected the defendant of having illicit relations with a certain woman in the city of Madison. At the request of plaintiff this roomer followed the defendant one night and came upon him in the company of this woman. Defendant became very angry and demanded that he leave the house. Plaintiff, however, prevailed upon, him to temporarily withdraw his objections to his remaining in the house because, as he states, the room rent was paid up for some time in advance. According to defendant’s testimony, he consented to his remaining in the house until the expiration of the time to which the room rent was paid. He claims, however, that after that time the matter was referred to between him and plaintiff at intervals of from one to two months. This she denies. It is without dispute that there were occasional, if not frequent, altercations between plaintiff and defendant, and it seems quite clear to us that if this matter was brought up as defendant claims, it was in the nature of a counter-charge and by way of defense when his own misconduct was under criticism by the plaintiff.

It is not without significance that this action was commenced January 20, 1919, at which time this roomer had been absent in the service of the United States army for a period of six months. Defendant evidently did not feel sufficiently aggrieved at the presence of this roomer to prompt him to institute divorce proceedings, but remained quiescent until plaintiff brought this action, and then pleaded *224the relations of plaintiff and this roomer as grounds for affirmative relief, when such relations had ceased for a period of six months. We are forced to the irresistible conclusion that these relations did not amount -to cruel and inhuman treatment of the defendant.

We next come to consider the personal attitude of plaintiff towards the defendant. According to the finding of the trial court, this consisted of “nagging the defendant and refusing to take meals with him or accompany him to places in public.” Having in mind the conduct of which the trial court convicted" the defendant, it is not surprising that such conduct was the subject of frequent altercations between them. Such a state of affairs was the natural result of defendant’s own wrongdoing. To say that her constant nagging, as .the court terms it, furnishes the defendant grounds for a divorce, is to say that a wife cannot remonstrate, by word and action, against the confessedly immoral conduct of her husband without thereby subjecting herself to an action for divorce. We are not disposed to dignify such a proposition by extended consideration. Woman’s nature is such that a wife will not submit in peace and silence to gross violations of marriage vows on the part of a husband.

By the Court. — Judgment reversed, and cause remanded with directions to grant the prayer of plaintiff’s complaint.