Anonymous

| Ala. | Dec 15, 1876

BBICKELL, C. J. —

The original bill was filed by the ap-pellee, seeking a divorce from the appellant on the ground of cruelty, and praying that to her be intrusted the custody of her infant child, a daughter, the sole issue of her marriage, then less than form, and now not eight years of age. Tbe chancellor, on a final bearing on tbe pleadings and voluminous proofs, directed not' only to tbe ground of divorce, but to all facts wbicb can be properly considered, in determining to wbicb of tbe parents tbe care of tbe child should be committed, refused a divorce, but decreed tbe custody of tbe child to tbe appellee. Tbe correctness of tbe decree in this respect is tbe only question presented on this appeal.

It is insisted that tbe common law confers on tbe father a right to tbe control and management of bis children, exclusive of, and paramount to that of the mother, of wbicb bis own misconduct, or unfitness to discharge tbe trusts tbe right involves, alone can deprive him. It is not necessary in this case to examine into, or discuss tbe right of tbe father, as defined at common law. Whatever it may have been, it was subject to tbe jurisdiction of courts of justice, and to legislative control and regulation. Eor more than forty years, tbe statutes of tbe State have invested tbe Court of Chancery with jurisdiction to dispose of tbe custody of infant children, when controversies arise between husband and wife, which terminate in divorce, or in a separation (Clay’s Dig. 171, §§ 20, 21; R. C. §§ 2367, 2897, 2398); and decisions of this court have recognized, as remaining unimpaired by tbe statutes, tbe original jurisdiction a Court of Chancery exercised over infants, for their protection and benefit, extending to their removal from tbe custody of either parent, and transferring it to that person deemed most suitable for tbe real, permanent interest of tbe infant. — Hansford v. Hansford, 10 Ala. 561" court="Ala." date_filed="1846-06-15" href="https://app.midpage.ai/document/hansford-v-hansford-6503075?utm_source=webapp" opinion_id="6503075">10 Ala. 561; Bryan v. Bryan, 34 Ala. 516" court="Ala." date_filed="1859-06-15" href="https://app.midpage.ai/document/bryan-v-bryan-6506538?utm_source=webapp" opinion_id="6506538">34 Ala. 516; Striplin v. Ware, 36 Ala. 88 ; Lee v. Lee, MSS.

As an incident to a decree of divorce, tbe Court of Chancery is by statute authorized to give tbe custody and education of tbe children to either parent, as may seem right and proper, having regard to tbe moral character and prudence of tbe parents, and tbe age and sex of tbe children. — B. C. § 2367. This case may not fall within tbe letter of this statute, as a divorce was refused. Tbe statute is not dissimilar in terms, and is probably tbe same in effect, as tbe subsequent section wbicb authorizes tbe court, if a voluntary separation occurs, to permit either of tbe parents to have the custody and control of tbe children, and to superintend and direct their education, having regard to tbe prudence, fitness, and ability of tbe parents, and tbe age and sex of tbe children. — B. C. § 2397. If tbe marriage is dissolved by divorce, some disposition must be made of tbe children; so, if a voluntary separation occurs. Tbe right of tbe father to their custody, as exclusive of, and paramount to that of tbe mother, is not recognized. While tbe relation of husband and wife continued — while tbe wife was subject to bis dominion — it may have been exclusive ; and it may be difficult to define or enumerate tbe cases which would authorize judicial interference with it. The relation being dissolved by the solemn sentence of a court, the exclusive right ceases, and on the court, looking alone to the welfare of the children, is devolved the responsibility of determining their custody. No right attaches to the offended party, successful in obtaining freedom by judicial sanction from the bonds of marriage ; and no ban of exclusion is imposed, because of the dereliction of the party guilty of a violation of marital vow and duty. The claim of the innocent party must, of necessity, be regarded with the greater favor ; for a divorce cannot be granted without misconduct affecting the integrity of the party guilty of it. Consulting alone the welfare of the child, it may, nevertheless, be right and proper to commit to such party its care and education. It may be that from such party, either husband or wife, the training of the child, morally and intellectually, so that it will become a virtuous and useful citizen, can be more reasonably anticipated, than from the other party, however free from blame in causing a dissolution of the marriage. The same considerations control the court, when a voluntary separation occurs between husband and wife. The welfare of the child must be consulted as paramount, and it must be committed to the one parent or the other, as the evidence may justify the conviction that its benefit, present and prospective, demands.

It is urged that, in the present case, the separation was not voluntary — that the appellant did not assent to it, but that the appellee, without cause, wilfully abandoned him. The statute is in terms limited to a voluntary separation ; but we do not suppose it was contemplated each party should, in words, express assent to it. The assent may be implied, as it is often implied in reference to contracts and agreements. A husband may pursue towards the wife, or the wife towards the husband, a course of conduct compelling a separation j and it would be idle to say such was not the result anticipated or intended. Continuous accusations against the virtue of the wife may be made, wounding her pride, chilling her affections, blighting her hopes, embittering every hour of her life, until, if all self-respect is not crushed, she must abandon the society of her husband, and seek relief from the tortures he inflicts. It would be vain for him to say, that his wife’s abandonment was voluntary on her part, and involuntary as to himself. — Hardin v. Hardin, 17 Ala. 250" court="Ala." date_filed="1850-01-15" href="https://app.midpage.ai/document/hardin-v-hardin-6504180?utm_source=webapp" opinion_id="6504180">17 Ala. 250. Such a case has occurred, and may occur again ; and when it shall, it will be a voluntary separation, within the meaning of this statute. The wife chooses separation, as her only hope of peace, and the only mode of maintaining her self-respect and reputation ; and the husband must intend and assent to the natural consequences of his misconduct. So, if the husband should, though residing under the same roof, withdraw himself from the society of the wife, neglect her in sickness, give countenance or currency to the circulation of reports affecting her reputation, commit her only child to the care of those hostile to her, and whom he knew were endeavoring to estrange it from her in its very infancy, subject to the control of those who he knew had but little, if any, sympathy or respect for her, if they were not positively inimical — if this course was persisted in, until the wife lost all hope of reclaiming his affections, regaining his respect and confidence, and restoring herself to her proper position, and left him for a home with her parents; if he makes no effort to induce her to return, and no offer of better treatment, his assent to the separation must be implied. We cannot read this record, without the unpleasant conviction that such is the character of this case. Passing all facts of which the evidence may be in conflict, looking only to the undisputed facts, the appellant must have desired and effected a separation, and practically it existed, so far as he was concerned, before the appellee left his roof.

We avoid all narration of the facts, that neither party, or their friends and relatives, may be wounded, and the chances of reconciliation rendered hopeless. Yet, it is due to the appellee to say, that we do not find she has ever been wanting in affection and duty to the appellant. It is probable that she was not congenial to his relatives, by whom he surrounded her; and without reflection on her or them, it is certain that from the want of congeniality this difficulty arose. The husband, if he had consulted his own happiness, his duty to the appellee, and the welfare of his child, ought to have made greater efforts to prevent this dissimilarity from passing into aversion; or, if that could not be avoided, he should have removed his wife from its influence. It is the injunction of divine and human law, that a man shall “ leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife."’ The mother resides with her father, who is of high character, and offers her in her desolation a home and protection under his roof, for herself and child. The education and training of the mother, the care she has had formerly of her younger brothers and sisters after the death of her mother, the blamelessness of her past life, leave no room to doubt her fitness for the nurture and education of the child. All must feel, that no greater calamity can befall an infant daughter, than a deprivation of a mother’s eare, vigilance, precept and example. A mother’s sympathy and culture exerts an influence on her life and character, perceptible only in its results. Therefore, courts are reluctant now to deprive her of the custody of her infant daughters, and but seldom, if ever, do so, unless misconduct is imputable to her. — Lead Eq. Cases, 1506-1528.

Another material consideration is, that if the child is committed to the care of the appellant, he must rely on his-mother, or sister, to take charge and superintendence of it. However well fitted they may be for the training of children, them fitness is not superior to that of the mother; and it is apparent their influence would result in the estrangement from her, if possible, of the affections of the child. In fact, the controversy is, whether the child shall be committed to the care of the appellant’s sister, or its mother. The discretion with which the statute clothes the chancellor, in view of the sex and age of the child, and all the circumstances, was properly exercised in preferring the mother as its natural guardian, to the father; and his decree must be affirmed.

Stone, J., not sitting, having been of counsel.